OS menopause memories?

moneyistooshorttomention

No - re the whiskers.

Well - my hot flushes have now been stopped for some years and no whiskers. There is precisely one stray hair that comes up on my chin and I don't even notice it myself (as I'm basically fair). So I just feel to see how it's growing at intervals - and when it's got to just long enough to pull it out I give a quick tug and do so and it's gone again for some weeks (ie until it re-grows and I "rinse and repeat").

Tipsntreats

That is a relief moneyistooshorttomention. I can cope with the thought of one hair, I just don't like the thought of a beard. It made me think of those odd circus spectacles in the past. Roll up, roll up, come and see the bearded lady.
Tips

dandy-candy

Well I was just sitting downstairs listening to some music when I came over incredibly hot and flushed, and had to strip off my upper layers. So another ticked box on the list lol.

I keep reading articles saying stress makes it worse but how do I avoid that when I'm already on a short tether and the kids are off for summer hols and having teenage strops? :eek:

Actually I feel like throwing a teenage strop myself lately, that might shock them into silence

culpepper

I was rather disappointed to discover that the monthlies dont just stop all at once.
When the doc says if you havent had one in a year they are gone, he is just plain wrong.
Once in a while, one will return to suprise me.
There are also the other monthly symptoms ..head ache , tummy cramps...without auntie flo actually visiting which can be rather annoying.
Those do seem to be becoming less now. (about 6 years from normality).
I used to have quite bad PMT till I reduced my caffeine intake so now if I get a bit crotchety I reduce it again to help keep a handle on the moodiness.

suki1964

Re the whiskers, for me unfortunately yes

However I have the mirena so a lot of it is down to that

However since I've started the menopause journey they have got more prolific and my eyebrows would give any 70's politician a run for their money

Swings and roundabouts though, leg hair is becoming sparser

moneyistooshorttomention

I tend to do a lot of my own research - rather than asking doctors.

My reading was that you could figure that was the end of that re periods once you hadnt had one for two years (not one year).

So - in the event - I counted off the months after what I thought was probably the last period and when I got to 24 I stopped. That had indeed been the last period. I also went by my age - as my own body seems to do things like clockwork at the "expected age". Sure enough - the last period was at 52 years old - which I gather is "the" age they tend to expect.

I guess most women could count themselves as "safe" from having any more periods once they got to a year from the previous one - but I guess there will always be exceptions to any rule.

moneyistooshorttomention

Dandy

Re the stress.

A friend of mine had relatives living with her for some time and one of them can be a little "challenging" shall we say.

She is someone that is very even-tempered these days - but said that, when she found it was getting too much for her she would take herself off for short walks - even if it was pretty much just "round the block and back" and that helped.

I took up her idea and, when I was in a stressful job situation for literally years, one of the ways I coped with it and prevented myself from literally walking out of it altogether was to "take myself away from it". I would regularly go out at lunchtimes - even if I didnt have any shopping I had to do - and just go for a short walk somewhere as pleasant as I could find in the vicinity. Particularly bad days were ones that I would take advantage of it being flexitime working - and I would literally walk out (but after "core time" was over for the day and we were allowed to leave). That way I managed not to blow my top at them (usually:rotfl:) and could cope and then walk back in there again the next workday as usual.

So - I'm quite a fan of temporary "walk-outs" as a way to deal with the type of stress inflicted by other people.

Tipsntreats

Mmm stress. Stress can turn into depression, best to nip it in the bud. I used to watch 30 something years ago. Find a railway crossing, wait for a noisy train to come along, then scream your heart out!
When I had those dreaded monthly's, I suffered for years with PMT. Let us reflect on positive things. No more having to buy sanitary products. No dreaded PMT. No more accidents, with not knowing when the period would happen. No more excuses not to have sex ha ha.
I am sure you all can think of more, can't you?

At the weekend, when I have far too much to drink (shh my secret), I am usually to zonked to be woken by the night sweats. Boy do I suffer Sunday night though.
Tips x

Living_proof

Tipsntreats wrote: »

Mmm stress. Stress can turn into depression, best to nip it in the bud. I used to watch 30 something years ago. Find a railway crossing, wait for a noisy train to come along, then scream your heart out!
When I had those dreaded monthly's, I suffered for years with PMT. Let us reflect on positive things. No more having to buy sanitary products. No dreaded PMT. No more accidents, with not knowing when the period would happen. No more excuses not to have sex ha ha.
I am sure you all can think of more, can't you?

At the weekend, when I have far too much to drink (shh my secret), I am usually to zonked to be woken by the night sweats. Boy do I suffer Sunday night though.
Tips x

I have to say I don't think I had it too bad, looking back. But there was that awful feeling when a flush approached and an absolute flood. A very unpleasant feeling which zapped me of my confidence instantly. A friend at a public meeting actually had to excuse herself and rush off to M & S to replace her white skirt with something less obvious. No, ten years on and no regrets other than the tendency to put on weight.

Well, as the old doctor said, nobody ever died of it yet, no matter how uncomfortable it is!

Torry_Quine

culpepper wrote: »

I was rather disappointed to discover that the monthlies dont just stop all at once.
When the doc says if you havent had one in a year they are gone, he is just plain wrong.
Once in a while, one will return to suprise me.
There are also the other monthly symptoms ..head ache , tummy cramps...without auntie flo actually visiting which can be rather annoying.
Those do seem to be becoming less now. (about 6 years from normality).
I used to have quite bad PMT till I reduced my caffeine intake so now if I get a bit crotchety I reduce it again to help keep a handle on the moodiness.

Mine just stopped. I was regular as clockwork and then nothing. After seven months I visited my GP who took blood tests and the first time it was inconclusive but the second confirmed menopause. Actually bleeding after 12 months since the last period is classed as post-menopausal bleeding and should be checked by a visit to the GP.