OS menopause memories?

Tipsntreats

Oh money it was sad for me to read that. However, if you are happy, that is far MORE important.

candlelight I think you mean KY jelly, that part made me laugh, thanx I need a laugh.
I will look on Ebay.

Ah my lovely Hester and the gang! I have just read through a lot of stuff on facial hair. Most of it trying to sell some rubbish. We are all about saving money here, aren't we. So I the inks for the most informative ones. Please someone let me know if they don't work.
http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/hirsutism/Pages/introduction.aspx

http://womensvoicesforchange.org/menopause-and-facial-hair-some-solutions.htm

http://www.medscape.com/viewarticle/739279_4

Tips x

moneyistooshorttomention

:rotfl:Believe me Tips and Treats - and I really am glad I'm no longer "interested" in men personally in that respect. In all honesty - I only wish I had felt the same way decades before I did and I might have spent my time/energies a lot more interestingly/usefully:rotfl:

I don't know whether that's part of the difference between women who "lose interest" and those who don't????? ie that maybe those of us who do are basically happier to have "lost interest" - as we think the other things we turn to instead are more interesting and/or useful????

By the time one gets to my age (ie 60s) then the proportion of men to women has declined rather and "available" men tend to expect to have women with better looks and/or more money etc than they have (even though that still seems a very odd way round to me - speaking as a woman:rotfl:).

So - that is one aspect of my life that I'm just fine with personally and it suits me that way. It wouldnt for everyone I know - but it's fine for me personally to be that way:)

candygirl

Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

Replense I think is something from the chemist that helps with dryness, /I've not suffered with that and my Dr thought it could be something along the 'use it or lose it' lines.
To be blunt hubby and I rarely go a day without s e x, and before the loss of his mother and the added stress of work problems it was usually 2 or 3 times a day.
Coconut oil is also a good lubricant but you do end up smelling like a bounty bar!

Wont be able to eat a Bounty again, without thinking of you :rotfl:

candlelight_2013

MTSTM I think thee doth protest too much :)

Candlelightx

Tipsntreats

moneyistooshorttomention My Mother left my Father and believed she would have a better life!
The man she left my Father for died several years ago. When I was supporting her through her loss, she mad a lot of confessions to me. What I NEVER knew, was that the sex stopped as soon as she moved in. It was too late to go back, so she just excepted it (she was only in her fifties back then). She told me that after a while, it just never bothered her. I have a friend, who's husband left her for a younger woman, when their children were small (I still hate him to this day, and so do his kids). She had a nervous breakdown back then, it broke my heart. She did move on eventually, but then that went wrong. She then stupidly took up with a Turkish toy boy. These days, (she is also in her sixties, me not far behind, next year), she is so happy being man free. It is just a shame that men have caused so much grief in some peoples lives. I am sure that like my friend you are having a lot of fun, and long may it last!!!!
Tips x

LameWolf

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

LameWolf - since you say the fact that your hair is falling out in handfuls is down to the lupus (ie rather than menopause/low iron/one of those things/etc/etc) then surely the NHS would prescribe a wig for you to use in those circumstances - or don't you fancy the thought?

I did consider asking - but just getting the necessary medication to keep going is like getting blood from a stone around here (one rather charming Consultant told me to -and I quote her words precisely - "Just go away and live with it!" :mad: )
I've been doing a spot of research online, and there are some inexpensive wigs available in the sort of outrageous colours/styles I'd go for (deffo not your standard NHS fare, lol) so if it comes to it, I'll buy my own.

beecher2 wrote: »

Flooding's obviously something no one would be happy to talk about too much but a wee heads up from someone on what to expect would've been good as it would've stopped the 'oh my god I'm dying and need to go to A&E immediately' panic.

Beecher that was my problem when I first started - aged 12. My mother had told me absolutely zip, and I was ill with rubella when they had "those" lessons at school, so missed the "heads-up" on becoming a woman! Panic didn't even describe it! :eek:

Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

beecher, I get burning too along with the creepies, feeling like a lot of insects crawling over my back and shoulders.

OMG I've been blaming lupus for that.... (If I'm honest, I blame it for anything unusual that happens to me, at least it stops DH from carting me off to the GP).;)

moneyistooshorttomention

Crikey LameWolf - to that comment about "just go away and live with it" even when it came to just getting basic medication for the lupus:eek:.

She's probably still only in one piece to tell the tale of having said that to you because you didnt have the strength to "throw 40 fits at her":eek:.

She'd still be recovering to this day from what I would have said to her in your position if she'd said that to me:cool:

I've known someone with lupus before now and that is not what I would consider a remotely helpful comment to have made to you.....

But re the "creepies" as we are calling that menopause symptom some women get - then I guess the comment comes to mind here of a friend with M.S. saying to me one time "What people don't seem to realise is that we can still get other/ordinary illnesses - on top of the M.S.". Valid point I thought. So - I can understand why you would have thought that was a lupus thing and not realised it was a menopause thing.

moneyistooshorttomention

candlelight_2013 wrote: »

MTSTM I think thee doth protest too much :)

Candlelightx

:rotfl:Take it from me - after a while (few weeks? few months?) you tend to forget just what you got all "hot and bothered" about. These days it barely impinges on my consciousness to even think about it...and the only time I even remember what I used to feel like is the odd time when I wake up from "that" sort of dream and, by the time I've made my breakfast I've forgotten all about it again:)

scaredy_cat

i'm in the perimenopause stage at 48. no hot flushes but my cycles are so irregular and heavy . i also get phantom smells .

have those of you with facial hair thought of trying the nono hair remover ?

beecher2

scaredy_cat, I'm 48 too and I remember having a time when everything just smelled awful, and no-one else knew what I was on about. Not sure if they were phantom smells or just a heightened sense of smell. I think I only got them when I was ovulating which I don't think I'm doing anymore.

moneyistooshorttomention, my line manager is of the 'I had it far worse than you and managed to just get on with it' ilk. She doesn't seem to recognise that I work double the hours she does and that my commute is over 2 hours a day longer than hers. Grr. Hate it when it becomes a competition like that and hate questioning myself about whether I'm making a fuss.

Horrible nightsweats again last night - really does drain the life out of you. Hoping it signals the end of my period as I am now on day 21 as they sometimes run into each other. Praying for them to start spacing out soon!