Are our Vendors messing us about?

AnotherJoe

wateva wrote: »

You seemed to have reiterated our current situation except we have been waiting for our vendor for three months now and our mortgage expires next month. We have been told vendor is actively searching but no further updates have been given in terms of if she has viewed any properties. The anxiety crept in as I was due to give birth next week but baby arrived early. Prior to baby arriving we offered to exchange and complete with the view to rent to vendor also an early completion bonus, all of which was turned now. Now we have one month left till our mortgage offer expires and the prospects of staying put is dawning on us. No words of value to add except you have my sympathy. I hope both of our situations are overturned very soon and our vendors find a property that are chain free

Are you looking at other houses?

MobileSaver

Jessy1990 wrote: »

Her excuse is she's a mummy and has been on holiday.

Probably not what you want to hear but I think you need to forget this house and start looking at other options. I get the impression that your vendor isn't really all that serious about moving.

I agree with you that for the biggest transaction in most people's lives it's just common courtesy to let someone know if you won't be contactable for a period of time. And most people seriously thinking of moving home would prioritise that over a holiday...

loveka

You do seem to use 'picky' in the pejorative sense. What do you expect them to do, just buy any old house?

The market is totally flat where we are. We are 'picky'- we are going to a forever house so it has to be right. I have to fall I in love with it , just as yo have with the house you want. I have only looked at 1 house in 6 weeks, despite being very committed to moving, because every thing else that has come on the market is not right in some way. What we want will come along (we lost the perfect one) but in the current climate I don't know when.

You are being impatient I'm afraid.

maninthestreet

In your position I wouldn't pull out of the purchase yet, but start looking for other properties right now.

marksoton

loveka wrote: »

You do seem to use 'picky' in the pejorative sense. What do you expect them to do, just buy any old house?

The market is totally flat where we are. We are 'picky'- we are going to a forever house so it has to be right. I have to fall I in love with it , just as yo have with the house you want. I have only looked at 1 house in 6 weeks, despite being very committed to moving, because every thing else that has come on the market is not right in some way. What we want will come along (we lost the perfect one) but in the current climate I don't know when.

You are being impatient I'm afraid.

I fall in love with a person ,not some structure. And perfect does not exist.

You're in a dream world and exactly the vendor i'd consider from hell.

upoiupou

Do you have any direct communication with the vendor? If not, then it's tricky because you only know what the estate agent is telling you, and you don't know how accurate that is.

If it was me, I would send an email to the agent explaining your concerns, saying you're now looking at other properties but would prefer to continue with this one if they can find somewhere soon, and asking for regular updates from the vendor (via the agent) at a specified frequency, eg every Wednesday. If they're not willing to provide a weekly update on their position to a waiting buyer then I don't think they are serious.

Then I would start looking at other properties with an open mind either way.

brodawel

I honestly think that some vendors really don't appreciate buyers. Sorry to state the obvious but without buyers the vendor could never sell. Your buyer is handing over vast amounts of money enabling you to be rid of your property and move on. To treat your buyer with such ignorance and expect them to dance to your tune is beyond belief IMO

loveka

Well, we are all different. I couldn't live in a house I didn't love. It's where you spend most of your time after all.Perfect may not exist for you, but it does for me.

I don't use these forums to be insulted by the way

marksoton

loveka wrote: »

Well, we are all different. I couldn't live in a house I didn't love. It's where you spend most of your time after all.Perfect may not exist for you, but it does for me.

I don't use these forums to be insulted by the way

Well no, i spend longer in my office actually. Clearly our expectations of "perfect" differ.

And i don't use these forums to insult thank you.

MobileSaver

marksoton wrote: »

I fall in love with a person ,not some structure.

If you cannot imagine falling in love with a dream home then you may want to reconsider your life choices. Raise your expectations, set your sights higher... there are some beautiful homes out there that I'm sure you could see yourself living in and falling in love with if you put your mind to it.