Fair charge for rent for adult living with parent?

White-as-Snow

I actually feel that the amount you've asked for seems fair. Did your daughter pay keep when she lived with you before? If not does she feel that maybe she's coming home so it should go to how it was before? I think it's wrong of your mother to tell you what you should/shouldn't do but is she telling you to your face or is it a case of well grandma said this and that? Could she just be telling your DD what she wants to hear?

Is there a reason why your DD won't be claiming JSA even just foir the (hopefully) few weeks she will be jobless?

You could tell her to ask grandma if she's have her there for free and she what the answer would be then?

I can understand the parent/child money issue is difficult as my mum is having them with my 21 year old sister at the moment!

missbiggles1

That sounds very reasonable to me.

If she doesn't want to use her savings for living expenses, which is fair enough, tell her she needs to claim JSA.


NB.

JSA for under 25s is £57.40pw which will cover her rent/keep (as it should) and leave her a bit over.

Spendless

From the £7.40 per week she will have left from her £57.40 JSA, will she have enough to pay for travel expenses to get to and from interviews, replace or purchase any essential clothing such as an interview outfit and buy her own personal hygiene products, such as sanitary protection and deodorant? If it isn't enough to cover these costs, does she have enough in savings to dip into until she finds a job and gets paid or will you be funding these items for her?

paddy's_mum

There is a deal to be struck, here.

You could propose that, as she wishes, you will take no money from her. However, in return she does everything that you do ie shopping, cleaning, laundry, gardening, cooking.

I can't see anything wrong at all with such a deal since that is exactly what she is expecting you to do - slog your guts out for someone else's advantage without so much as a penny in return.

I suspect that she'll elect to carry on paying £50 a week and work out for herself that she's getting a good deal.

You are teaching your children a valuable lesson in the realities of life so don't be intimidated into giving in. Pay in cash or in kind - no other options!

just_trying

Not read all the thread but my son gives £50 a week a third of his wage which he works hard for. That includes everything at home, packed lunch, dinner all his home needs, he has a packed lunch though he comes home at lunch, coffee, drink, cereal bar, chocolate rolls, nuts, raisins etc. He doesn't work far, though I really expect a third if there earnings are reasonable as a room would cost significantly more, which they realise. They have more spare cash of about £110 to do as they please and when they wage rises that is there's also

silvercar

Debicj wrote: »

I want £50 per week which I think is fair as the total cost of running the house (including bills and food) is £800 per month.
Some of that is rent and council tax I assume. The council tax isn't any more if there are already 2 adults in the home. The rent is what it is because you have chosen to live in the property you do, it wouldn't be less if your daughter wasn't at home.

..... She is not working at the moment and I know money is tight for her, .....So cut her some slackDon't get me wrong, she's not a layabout and has worked since leaving college 5 years ago and I know she will at some point get a good job. She's only been looking for a couple of weeks. Again, cut her some slack
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However, this is causing arguments in our family as my daughter is not happy with the amount and my mum says I'm being unreasonable and should 'let her off' at least until she gets a job. Would your mum have let you off?...

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I really think £50 a week is fair as this includes everything, food, bills, the odd takeaway/meal out, I do all the washing, cleaning and housework, plus give her lifts in my car at least a couple of times a week. ....How much is the extra cost you incur by her being at home?

Personally, I would love my adult children to live at home for a while. I would only charge them if I needed the money and they had income. I couldn't take money out of their savings. I also couldn't charge them more than the extra it would cost me to have them at home.

TBagpuss

I thin kthat's fine for you, but the question is whether p is unreasonable in what they are asking their childto pay, and asking an adult to pay £50 all-in is not, by any stretch of the imagination, unreasonable.

OP, one thing I would do is to consider offering your daughter 1 week free so that she has one week's worth of JSA to use to travel to job interviews etc, or alternatively let her know that you will reduce the rent she pays by the amount of her travel costs if she needs to travel to an interview. (assuming that she is geting £57 pw JSA).

I would not expect her to dip into savigns for that kind of thing (unless the alternative is you having to dip into savings to meet the costs of running the house) but I don't think it is unreasonable to expect her to cover the basics.

I also strongly aggree with expecting her to do a fair share of housework while she is there.

If your mother feels that you are being unfiar then it is of coruse open to her to offer your daughter houseroom or to offer her money to help cover her costs.

Debicj

Things have settled down a bit now and my daughter has stopped moaning. I think she understands that it will cost a lot more for her to live elsewhere. I also think she knows that because I am shortly going to be out of work, I am having to be more careful with my money and I am trying to ensure that we all have a roof over our heads in the coming months.

skyepark

hmm if she is out of work which is a tough situation emotionally i would say 25 per week until she is working again then back to 50 per week. but it is definitely upto you especially since you will also be out of work soon..

Pollycat

If you're working and doing extra work, why are you doing all the washing, cleaning & housework?

Why isn't your daughter helping out if she's not working?