Selecting right date

StaffieTerrier

catoutthebag wrote: »

A stem question; how would I excuse myself from leaving after a first drink or two if I felt no feeling?

I've been on coffee first meets (I never liked to have a proper date the first time) with people where one of us has plans immediately afterwards, and that's been clear from the start of the date. For example, one guy met for an hour prior him going to see the football with his mates. I always liked that there was a time limit, then we could always arrange a proper date if we got on.

burnoutbabe

I often arranged cinema dates for 1st dates - enough time to meet beforehand to have a chat, then film and then drink after if wanted or time to head home.

At least you felt you had a decent evening, even if no spark and gave you plenty to talk about if they were not great conversationalists.

Ozzuk

burnoutbabe wrote: »

I often arranged cinema dates for 1st dates - enough time to meet beforehand to have a chat, then film and then drink after if wanted or time to head home.

At least you felt you had a decent evening, even if no spark and gave you plenty to talk about if they were not great conversationalists.

I think cinema for a first date is the worst idea ever! Why would you want to sit in silence with someone you just met for 2hours!

Saying that, I also feel that way about coffee dates. They can feel really false, almost like an interview. Not many people can relax in that situation, though I did have one that went well.

For me, the best first date is doing something you (hopefully both of you) enjoy (and that has good level of interaction). If you are into dogs, dog walking is great. I went fruit picking with one, that went well and led to a fruit picnic on the beach and nearly drowning (long story). Best first date ever.

Those type of activity dates have the benefit that you'll be more relaxed, more like 'you', and if it doesn't work out then at least you've done something you enjoy so you aren't really missing out.

burnoutbabe

as its better to sit in silence with some boring idiot than have to make polite chat and wonder how quickly you can get away?

burlington6

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I don't really see the point in messaging backwards and forwards for a couple of weeks - if you both like what you see in each others' profiles, why not just meet straightaway? After all, IRL, you see someone you like and then just go out on a date, don't you?

Completely agree.

You get to know each other through text and when you do finally meet up, you've already know the basics and they're usually the easiest topics to talk about.

Don't act like a beta male

Don't go for a coffee in the afternoon.

That's what women do with their friends. You don't want to be their friend.

Tammykitty

burnoutbabe wrote: »

I often arranged cinema dates for 1st dates - enough time to meet beforehand to have a chat, then film and then drink after if wanted or time to head home.

At least you felt you had a decent evening, even if no spark and gave you plenty to talk about if they were not great conversationalists.

In the long distant past - I used to think cinema was great for a first date - could talk about the film at least.


Another favourite was comedy club