Treat others the way you want to be treated....

Pollycat

If you google it, you get some interesting results.

On the subect of my pet hate:

Pollycat wrote: »

find it rude and incredibly annoying to hold a door open for someone - in M&S for example - and for them to just sail through without an acknowledgement.

Huffington Post says this

Sometimes, the stranger for whom you hold the door open doesn’t respond with a “thank-you” or even an acknowledging nod. They don’t even look at you. They just walk right past you, out the door, as if your kind gesture was owed to them. Don’t take it personally. That person is a worthless, self-entitled jerk with no ability to comprehend basic human decency or compassion and he probably has the corpses of murdered family members stuffed in the meat freezer in his basement. I mean, there’s a reason you never see anyone holding the door open in those ISIS recruitment videos. But don’t let this occasional sour incident turn you off from holding the door open in the future. Basic social etiquette- like Kanye’s career- is much bigger and more important than individuals.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/galanty-miller/heres-the-new-holding-the_b_7317514.html

fairy_lights

yvonne13 wrote: »

The person in question spoke in a harsh loud tone saying “I can open the door myself; if I wanted you to open it for me I would've asked. I'm not an invalid".

Yes it's rude, but I don't think many people would respond like that. The comment about not being an invalid makes me wonder if he is recovering from illness or has some kind of disability and is feeling a bit insecure or worried about it. Even the nicest people can be rude under certain circumstances, so unless he's a !!!!!!! on a regular basis I wouldn't read too much in to it.

AylesburyDuck

Tigsteroonie wrote: »

In a really sarcastic voice, I'd say "I was trying to be polite."

Similar to mine, i would have loudly retorted "your welcome" in a sing song voice

hazyjo

Agree with all NBLondon said - definitely someone with a chip on their shoulder.


I hate it here at work where you open a door for someone and they march through totally ignoring you. RUDE, or where they let a door slam in my face, or where they open it for someone else (above the role of a 'mere secretary') then slam the door in my face.


Many, many times... (along with stopping our conversation mid-word/sentence if someone 'higher up' walks in so they can speak with them, and introducing newbies to everyone around me, but not me (again, merely a secretary) - I'm meant to use my psychic powers to deduce who they are when they want me to do work for them.


ARGHHHHH. People seriously drive me insane.


Jx
PS Oh, and when they ask me a question like where someone is, then totally ignore me when I answer. I have also many times done the singsongy 'You're welcome!'. If they look puzzled or question it, just say 'sorry, I thought you said thanks...'.

Lily-Rose_3

yvonne13 wrote: »

Or is it treat others the way you think they want to be treated?

The reason I'm asking the question is due someone at work opening a door and letting the person behind walk through the door first.

The person in question spoke in a harsh loud tone saying “I can open the door myself; if I wanted you to open it for me I would've asked. I'm not an invalid".

I felt really embarrassed for the person and to be honest I have and still would open doors and let people in first, but since hearing the person in question get annoyed at someone being kind and having manners I won't hold the door for that individual.
So basically, if you were in the same situation what would you do and how would you respond to what they said?

I would have been taken aback, and approached the person after and asked him why he was so upset that I opened the door for him. This is genuinely an OTT reaction!

Person_one wrote: »

Sorry but, did that really happen? Its an anecdote that gets thrown around a lot but I've never witnessed anything like it. If it happened in real life as often as it gets recounted online it'd be every other door!

I think if I ever did, I'd assume the two people knew each other and were already rowing!

I don't understand you person one. Whenever someone on here talks about something that has happened to them; if it hasn't happened to you, (and you find it a bit outrageous,) you don't believe them!

I've seen you question people before when someone comes out with a anecdote that seems extreme to you, with comments ranging from 'did this really happen?' to 'yeah if this actually happened!' to 'I'm sorry, but I simply don't believe you!'

Just because a certain thing has never happened to you, that doesn't mean it's never happened to other people!

fairy_lights wrote: »

Yes it's rude, but I don't think many people would respond like that. The comment about not being an invalid makes me wonder if he is recovering from illness or has some kind of disability and is feeling a bit insecure or worried about it. Even the nicest people can be rude under certain circumstances, so unless he's a !!!!!!! on a regular basis I wouldn't read too much in to it.

I agree with this. There must be a reason why this person was so rude. I mean, not acknowledging you opening a door is one thing, but being so nasty is another. I think I would have to ask him why he was so upset at me opening the door for him!

Did anyone else expect the genders to be reversed? I assumed the person opening the door was a man and the rude person who said 'I can do it myself!' was a woman. :rotfl:

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