Treat others the way you want to be treated....

Yolina

My reply would have been "you're welcome" and then I'd make sure I open the door for them as often as possible :rotfl:

System

Yolina wrote: »

My reply would have been "you're welcome" and then I'd make sure I open the door for them as often as possible :rotfl:

This.

So much more satisfying than my suggestion :rotfl:

pickledonionspaceraider

The whole culture of being offended at every little thing is rather absurd by petty minded people who think the entire world revolves around them.

I wouldn't give this person the time of day to be honest, clearly a vile pent up misery guts

Person_one

Sorry but, did that really happen? Its an anecdote that gets thrown around a lot but I've never witnessed anything like it. If it happened in real life as often as it gets recounted online it'd be every other door!

I think if I ever did, I'd assume the two people knew each other and were already rowing!

sweetilemon

I would always hold a door open for someone and if someone had replied like that I would probably have been so shocked I wouldn't have said anything but would wish I would have said I won't bother next time if that's your attitude!

yvonne13_2

Peter333 wrote: »

Wow rude. Was the person who was rude a man or woman?

What was their age?

I have never had that reaction from anyone! I have been ignored a few times and not got thanks, but THAT has never happened!

The person the was rude was a man and the person holding the door was a woman and they both looked to be in their mature years. I've witnessed people rushing through a door and not holding it and the person behind has moaned as it's shut before them, but not blatant rudeness like this.

The reason I never said whether it was a male or female was due to me wanting to see what people had to say based on the facts and not what gender. I've noticed people respond differently depending on what gender people are. I too am guilty of that

firebird082

Wow, it's common practice where I work for everyone to hold the door open (regardless of gender), as they are heavy fire doors, so if there's someone coming down the corridor after you, the other option is to rudely drop it in their face! Never had a reaction like that though. I would say that person is being extremely rude, and ascribing entirely the wrong meaning to the action. I'm not sure I could come up with a good response on the spot though!

MandM90

Oof, how rude. I do find it a tad annoying when people hold it and then stand in the doorway so I have to squeeze past them, but I'd never dare say anything but "thank you".

Pollycat

yvonne13 wrote: »

Or is it treat others the way you think they want to be treated?

The reason I'm asking the question is due someone at work opening a door and letting the person behind walk through the door first.

The person in question spoke in a harsh loud tone saying “I can open the door myself; if I wanted you to open it for me I would've asked. I'm not an invalid".

I felt really embarrassed for the person and to be honest I have and still would open doors and let people in first, but since hearing the person in question get annoyed at someone being kind and having manners I won't hold the door for that individual.
So basically, if you were in the same situation what would you do and how would you respond to what they said?

That's just plain rude.
That person may not be an invalid but he/she has an atttitude problem or a giant chip on his/her shoulder.

Working in a big office, it was usual to either open doors for someone else or at least hold it open for the person behind you.

On another subect, it find it rude and incredibly annoying to hold a door open for someone - in M&S for example - and for them to just sail through without an acknowledgement.

NBLondon

Holding the door for the next person behind you or approaching from the other side - perfectly normal politeness.

Opening the door and waiting for the other person who has arrived simultaneously from the other side (instead of just walking at them) - perfectly normal politeness.

Opening the door and letting the person behind you go first when they have their hands full/have a stick/appear likely to struggle with the door - perfectly normal politeness.

Opening the door and ushering someone through from either side - some would take it as a courtesy, others would take it as patronising.

Opening the door and standing in the doorway (as MandM90 just said) - could be thoughtless, could be creepy to some people - they want you to be squeezing past for their entertainment.