Elite 11+ shopping and chat thread

Savvybuyer

I had a misunderstanding/cross-communication of my own at M the other day. Some customer had left a shopping basket on the aisle floor. Of course I had no shopping basket with me (not buying anything:rotfl:). I thought they thought I had left the basket there behind and were asking me if it was mine. I said to them "No it's not mine". After I left the aisle, I looked back and saw them pick up the basket and take it with them, at which point it became clear to me that it was theirs:rotfl:. (And that I'd just gone up to them and told them their basket wasn't mine - it must have seemed very strange me doing that to them:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:.)

And we've all had the ones where we've got to the someone, thinking they were someone else, and shouted out the name of the person we thought they were to them:rotfl:! I did precisely that, one time at school decades ago - went up to someone, shouted out the name really loudly to them and, then, they turned around and they weren't!:o:o:rotfl::rotfl: I've no idea who they were - in effect they were like a random stranger as I didn't know them at all. Of course, it's just very very funny now:rotfl:.

3Dogs

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3Dogs

Oops, thanks for PM TM :T

TrulyMadly

Savvybuyer wrote: »

I had a misunderstanding/cross-communication of my own at M the other day. Some customer had left a shopping basket on the aisle floor. Of course I had no shopping basket with me (not buying anything:rotfl:). I thought they thought I had left the basket there behind and were asking me if it was mine. I said to them "No it's not mine". After I left the aisle, I looked back and saw them pick up the basket and take it with them, at which point it became clear to me that it was theirs:rotfl:. (And that I'd just gone up to them and told them their basket wasn't mine - it must have seemed very strange me doing that to them:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:.)

And we've all had the ones where we've got to the someone, thinking they were someone else, and shouted out the name of the person we thought they were to them:rotfl:! I did precisely that, one time at school decades ago - went up to someone, shouted out the name really loudly to them and, then, they turned around and they weren't!:o:o:rotfl::rotfl: I've no idea who they were - in effect they were like a random stranger as I didn't know them at all. Of course, it's just very very funny now:rotfl:.

It happens to me often savvy...then you feel as if you have to apologise and you've done nothing wrong:rotfl:

Savvybuyer

TrulyMadly wrote: »

And most of them are on this thread:rotfl:

I notice how you didn't reply (or didn't reply directly) to address the implied question I was asking:D.

I think that can only mean that it was me as people normally are embarrassed to tell others if that's the truth:rotfl:.

So, the lack of reply, as always, means "Yes Savvy you are totally correct!"

It does - if you get the Asperger's person, they'll give you a reply:o, but most people, if you say something that's true that hits the nail on the head, they go into this denial of the truth stage and are unable to cope with it - non-autistic people seem to me very good at deceiving themselves and pretending that things are not the case that are:rotfl:! People find it very easy to lie and are profound white liars. On this occasion, it's not been exactly a lie but instead this vagueness of "most of them are on this thread" which impliedly means me but won't say so directly or explicitly. It's the indirect communication that is meant to be polite. And it is, on this case, as it hasn't bothered me. So, the reply of "most of them are on this thread", together with the laughter, has not been rude. But neither did it address directly and say "yes it was you".

Actually, also, I occasionally do, I've sent emails a month or two ago to a couple of places and noticed that I've never had a reply. That can only mean, yet again, as it always does, that everything I said was correct and that they have no answer to give to me because they simply have no way of disagreeing with what I said:rotfl:. Must have hit the nail on the head right again!:D (And sometimes I do it just to try to be a bit mischievous as I love leaving others with no response to make.)

Or - actually - back to the original point - I've taken the indirect message to mean really it was me (but to be trying to tell me so politely) but, maybe, because of the indirectness and lack of clarity, I've gone and assumed that it means me and maybe I've therefore now misunderstood. That's the 'downside' of indirect, or euphemistic, messages sometimes - they are also ambiguous enough to be capable of being misunderstood. Especially, perhaps, by the person who has Asperger's who has less clue as to a 'bigger picture' and needs clear, explicit and direct communication more than other people - indeed the very type of communication that usually upsets, and doesn't work for, others who don't share my what turns out to be "unusual way of thinking". Unusual, but not incorrect. As neither way is correct or not correct.

I think you do mean me. But, with other people, they would be certain of this (but have got it through the polite indirectness). With me, however, since it is ambiguous and not direct, I am not completely sure. I think you mean me but, because of the indirectness, I don't fully know. So, I've no idea:rotfl:. "Most [people] on this thread" - could be anyone:rotfl::rotfl:.

TrulyMadly

Pm me in the morning if I've missed anyone out.

And if it doesn't work blame WMCB:rotfl:

TrulyMadly

Gocat...will speak in morning if you are still stuck:)

davemorton

Evening all.

davemorton

I might be after a PM too, if it is on my offers, but I did it last time it was there (and posted here about it ) Dont know if I got my points or not though.

Is the petrol extravaganza next weekend or the weekend after?

Savvybuyer

TrulyMadly wrote: »

And most of them are on this thread:rotfl:

So, I'll do the Asperger's approach now (after all, I'm told to do this by online manuals that are theoretical and have absolutely no relation to how you are supposed to, or are expected to, communicate in practice).

Can you please clarify exactly what you mean. :o:o:o:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

:rotfl::rotfl:

(I can do no other approach than the Asperger's one:doh:!:rotfl:)

If you want to reply and say it was me, say so. I have no problem with that! (And neither do I have any "problem" with the reply I did get, except that I don't completely know what you mean.) I do not mind being treated here in a way that other people may find to be offensive if I were to have been aimed at them. Especially on this matter, as all you were saying was that someone (or someones) had made you laugh, which is a good thing and I'd be pleased if it was me! (And - how I am to know, unless I am told?!?) However, you don't need to give me a reply as it doesn't matter either way even if I'm left 'not fully knowing':rotfl:.