Abandoned Car on Overgrown Front Garden

carefullycautious

phoebe1989seb wrote: »

:rotfl:

Someone in our (considered to be rather posh ) lane has an old toilet and phone box in the overgrown front garden of their eight bedroom house :rotfl:

It not DR Who is it? :rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

EdwardS033

The council will get involved if it gets too bad. Report to your local council as there may be a street pride team to look into things like this.

http://www.coventrytelegraph.net/news/coventry-news/two-eyesore-gardens-coventry-finally-11010218

carefullycautious

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

Translation = just put up with it.:cool:.

I've often thought that "modern day" theory I think is total nonsense is the theory that "just alter your reaction to something = all is sorted". Huh? If that were the case then I'm sure the poor s*ds in Auschwitz or the like a few decades ago were as "happy as laurie" if they just "had the right attitude". Yeh...right....of course they were (not!). Oh boy....

If someone is treating you badly in some way that you havent deserved (whether through deliberate intention, selfishly pursuing their own personal agenda regardless or whatever else) then you are entitled to be aggrieved about it and try to do something about it.

Good Grief 'Auschwitz' what has that got to do with anything

booksurr

moneyistooshorttomention wrote: »

you are entitled to be aggrieved about it and try to do something about it.

quite right,

but the whole point of this thread is that a woman in her 70s cannot do anything about it since "it" is taking place on her neighbours private land and she is a) physically unable to do his gardening for him and/or b) unable to pay others to remedy the situation.

moneyistooshorttomention

carefullycautious wrote: »

Good Grief 'Auschwitz' what has that got to do with anything

Errrm..I thought that was very clear????? - ie my response to Ozzuk's post.

That being the message is "Never mind how someone treats you (ie in this case being a slob neighbour). Just get a little bit of counselling and it will alter your reaction to the bad treatment and its not a problem anymore" is what OP seems to be being told to tell their mother to do by Ozzuk.

Personally - I find it seriously wierd to try and "victim blame" for what someone else does (be the Someone Else a Serious Bast*rd, a Lazy S*d neighbour or whatever).

It's like trying to say "Oh well - let the Other Person treat you how they will (be it by accident of 'couldnt be bothered' or design) and just change your own reaction to it personally".

Huh!!!!! ???? Load of blimmin' nonsense frankly.:mad:

If the other "party" in this is either a deliberate "serious b*stard" or a "couldnt give a monkeys lazy sod neighbour" - the person on the receiving end of this conduct is absolutely entitled to be upset about this - and take appropriate action.

carefullycautious

As clear as mud!!!

moneyistooshorttomention

Apologies for what I think is probably a "generation gap" in comprehension.

I cant think how to explain more clearly that if "A !!!!!!! or lazy sod is being a !!!!!!! or lazy sod to you - you are absolutely entitled to be upset and try to stop them".

I know an early 21st century way of looking at is "YOU change YOUR outlook" - but I'm afraid that is just a currently fashionable outlook imo and still a "load of old nonsense". Sorry.

Treated badly = DOES mean "entitled to be upset and try to get things sorted out". I honestly cant think how to put things more clearly than that - as I have put it extremely clearly <shrugs>.

End of...

To me that is as obvious as saying "2 + 2 =4".:cool:. It is what it is.

dirty_magic

Bossypants wrote: »

I think the implication is that someone who has a full life will have less time to be concerned with the actions of other people, whereas someone who doesn't will have all that time and energy to devote to obsessing over the oddest things.

I don't know what's going on in the mother's life of course, but having been on both sides I can say that the theory definitely bears out, but it's very hard to see when you're inside it. Sometimes a new hobby can really help to change your perspective.

I don't think taking up knitting is going to suddenly take away the mother's irritation! I doubt this lady is obsessing about it constantly, but I can understand why she's wondering if anything can be done about it. I don't think it's an irrational thing to be annoyed about!

cbrown372

carefullycautious wrote: »

Good Grief 'Auschwitz' what has that got to do with anything

Obviously spoken by someone who has never seen the horror of Auschwitz to compare it with an untidy garden.

Bossypants

dirty_magic wrote: »

I don't think taking up knitting is going to suddenly take away the mother's irritation! I doubt this lady is obsessing about it constantly, but I can understand why she's wondering if anything can be done about it. I don't think it's an irrational thing to be annoyed about!

I'm not suggesting that it would or that she is, I was responding to another post with a broader post and I mentioned specifically that I did not know the mother's situation.