Wife living in my flat.... Entitled to what?

ajp166

Guys last year I posted about my issues with her. It's my flat which I brought 2-3 months before we married in 2014. I never lived with her before marriage. Last year I moved out as we couldn't get on. She was a student at the time and I was paying for absolutely everything. Recently (4 months) she has got a very decent job and has started paying very low 'rent' from last month only. I still pay the bills and mortgage.

We stay in touch via email and tex. she did register matrimonial rights on the flat around 18 months ago when we argued.

I have numerous emails with her saying she is moving out soon and wants no money from me etc. She seems to hint that she is not interested in financial gain or maybe a lawyer told her so. If anything I believe she owes me. She has now given me a date of 1 October and says not to contact her until then. Her female friend has now moved into the second bedroom and is paying decent rent to me. My wife has used the term rent which she pays me. It's around half of what the real value is.

She has never paid for anything while at the flat and tried to hint last week that she has looked after the flat like her own by cleaning it etc. I didn't start the divorce as I thought it maybe possible to reconcile.

I believe she may have someone else now. Which I actually am quite pleased about. She has admitted it in texts but I also have said I have someone else. What would she be entitled to ? Honestly we only lived together for maybe 12 month max in that flat. She states that her and her friend will move out in October .... I also know that her dad has been giving her money over these months which she denies always. I have asked her to pay some bills but she always says no.

Voyager2002

If you accept rent and other payments from her she is likely to acquire the right to live there indefinitely...

Divorce after a "short marriage" (less than two years and no children) might be a way to recover your property, but if you delay she is likely to be entitled to at least 50 per cent of everything you own.

Other relationships make no difference to this.

Basic advice: see a solicitor urgently.

Caz3121

you were given some good advice last year, majority advising to see a solicitor urgently...what did the solicitor say? you can only lose out by letting things drag on
What bills are you paying and why? Contact the providers and close the accounts in your name and let her get the bills into her name..why would you be paying for gas, electric etc that you do not use?

kazwookie

STOP paying the bills, NOW.

ajp166

I spoke to a solicitor and barrister who told me to ask her for rent. They said don't ask her to pay any bills or contribute to the mortgage. It had to be 'rent' which I ask her for.

I have all the emails which show the marriage was not subsisting for more than 6-12 months.

ajp166

How could she aquire the right to live their indefinitely??? It's my flat. I also have a child coming with someone else. Surely judges if they reviewed the emails would throw any claim out as it clearly confirms the marriage never really subsisted.

burlington6

ajp166 wrote: »

How could she aquire the right to live their indefinitely??? It's my flat. I also have a child coming with someone else. Surely judges if they reviewed the emails would throw any claim out as it clearly confirms the marriage never really subsisted.

We live in a country where a woman has just been awarded money (he's made his fortune after they split) off a guy she divorced decades ago.

There is no jusctice

Tigsteroonie

burlington6 wrote: »

We live in a country where a woman has just been awarded money (he's made his fortune after they split) off a guy she divorced decades ago.

Yes, but she didn't get the £1.9m that she was originally fishing for - they've settled on a modest sum (to them) of £300k.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-gloucestershire-36499818

ajp166

Ok but without clicking the link i would think they had kids together or married for over 5-10 years? Also there must have been some factors where she deserved something. The U.K. Judges I find are extremely smart and can see where someone is just trying their luck. She has told me to leave her and her new man alone until she moves out. She states he is the love of her life.

barbarawright

burlington6 wrote: »

We live in a country where a woman has just been awarded money (he's made his fortune after they split) off a guy she divorced decades ago.

There is no jusctice

How is this not justice?. She looked after their children with no help from her ex-husband, thus hugely limiting her employment opportunities while he was free to start a new career.

Not that this is necessarily relevant to the OP

ajp166

Well it is as someone said she would be entitled to half which I cannot believe. I was told by a family barrister to ask for rent which I continued to do and now she is paying. No kids and no subsisting marriage. Someone said I should put the bills in her name but how would that help? She is just renting a room there now from me. How would a judge award her anything when she is simply taking the P..s! I understand people have had bad experiences but please try to look at the facts.