Gifts at a wedding?

missbiggles1

Pollycat wrote: »

This might have been tradition at some stage in the past but I doubt any of it applies to people getting married nowadays.


I thought that - but was far too polite to say it.

Something can be traditional without it still being current practice.

It often amuses me when you read of people planning to do things traditionally and when you query something they say "Of course it's traditional, my aunt did it in 1990!".

I'd be dropping those glasses pretty quickly as well.:D

Pollycat

Gloomendoom wrote: »

We felt it approriate because my mother had spent weeks drastically altering (re-making) my wife's wedding dress to fit and her mother (and the rest of her family) had spent the previous week getting the venue ready.

I think they were the only 'gifts' that we handed out. There were no bridesmaids.

That sounds more like saying 'thank you' to people who'd done something extra for you (and I would have bought a thoughtful gift in those circumstances too) rather than giving a bouquet simply because someone is mother to the bride or groom.

lazywife

We did hampers for Mum and Dad both sides. Then a little necklace for my Bridesmaid, a nice pen for best man. For the others I would just give a token gesture, a nice box of chocs and a thank you card.
Personalised gifts seem lovely as a gesture, but aren't really that practical and often the personalisation is wasted. (I'm more likely to use a plain drinking glass than the personalised tumbler I have in the cupboard)

L.xxx

TheSicilian

We've managed to find some nice stuff on Etsy, so will be purchasing a few items from there.

hazyjo

How weird re the flowers. I don't think I've ever been to a wedding where the mums didn't get flowers. I thought it was just the done thing - more than even a tradition, just something that was expected. I'm in London - all/most weddings have been in the south east - Kent / London / Essex.


I wonder if it is a regional thing then! Really surprised at that one. Well, you learn something new every day...


Jx

tea_lover

I'm in the Midlands and have been to lots of weddings round here and elsewhere in the country and they've all (that I can recall) included flowers for the mums. I've always thought it's a bit of an odd tradition but it certainly does seem to be a tradition.

Torry_Quine

When we married we sent flowers to the mums at their homes the next Monday.

duchy

missbiggles1 wrote: »

Since when?

Since always in my experience too.
Every wedding that parents have attended bouquets were given to both mothers during the speeches.

duchy

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I agree, never heard of it before.

I don't suppose there's a confusion and people are talking about buying corsages for the mums, because I'd agree that's quite common.

You are correct as the bouquets are given at the reception, corsages would be worn AT the wedding .

I've seen grandmothers honoured in this way too.

pickledonionspaceraider

That is a lovely idea, to give flowers to the mothers.

I had never heard of it, or witnessed it to be honest - but no doubt a nice well received gesture.