Gifts at a wedding?

NBLondon

What's the tradition in your families? That's more important than the tradition as sold to you at "Wedding Fayres" where you will be told to provide disposable cameras for each table; sugared almonds in every place card, a balloon arch and whatever tat they thought up last winter or has been seen in Katie Price's most recent wedding.


Back in '99 - both sets of parents chipped in for reception etc. costs but we paid most of it ourselves. Small but nice bouquets for both mothers and the aunt who made the dress. Earings from bride to matron of honour (who chose her own dress). Pewter tankards from groom to best man and ushers.

tea_lover

Person_one wrote: »

Out of all the pointless wedding stuff that's sprung up in the last few years though, this is surely one of the better ones? At least it's not completely self serving or self important like so many new 'traditions'.

But have you seen those glasses on the previous page?! If someone gave me that as a gift that would be the end of that friendship.

TheSicilian

I'd say you're being picky @ missbiggles

Done and dusted now, getting everything ordered tonight. Thanks for those who have chipped in :T

Pollycat

pleasedelete wrote: »

Traditionally:

Groom pays for bridesmaid dresses
Brides family pay for her dress
Groom /best man get their own clothes

Small gift for bridesmaid from the groom- often in the past a prayer book or more recently a small silver item.

No gifts required for anyone else.

This might have been tradition at some stage in the past but I doubt any of it applies to people getting married nowadays.

tea_lover wrote: »

But have you seen those glasses on the previous page?! If someone gave me that as a gift that would be the end of that friendship.

I thought that - but was far too polite to say it.

jackieblack

Pollycat wrote: »

I thought that - but was far too polite to say it.

Me too! :rotfl:

tea_lover

I'm not that polite Each to their own and all that, but come on... they are hideous :rotfl:. I'd rather have the personalised hanky!

jackieblack

tea_lover wrote: »

I'm not that polite Each to their own and all that, but come on... they are hideous :rotfl:. I'd rather have the personalised hanky!

I'd rather the bride saved her money!

maman

Person_one wrote: »

That's not a gift though, you're supposed to pay for those.

pleasedelete wrote: »

Traditionally:

Groom pays for bridesmaid dresses
Brides family pay for her dress
Groom /best man get their own clothes

Small gift for bridesmaid from the groom- often in the past a prayer book or more recently a small silver item.

No gifts required for anyone else.

It might be regional but I've always believed traditionally that the groom pays for clothes for the men and the bride (or her family) for women.


When our two DDs got married I got great pleasure in going for fittings with them to the designer who made the bridesmaids' dresses too. DDs didn't have adult bridesmaids (teenagers and primary age cousins) so didn't even think of asking their parents to pay for the dresses. Both DDs had the money saved to pay for their weddings but we insisted on picking up the bill which left them the money to use for other things.


It is traditional here for MoB and MoG to have flowers and small gifts for bridesmaids and best man but unless it's for a child (like build a bear) then I'd steer away from tat.


Apologies to those of you who like this sort of thing but What sort of pocket watch is going to cost just £10 and engraved! If you must give gifts then I'd go for bottles of bubbly or half cases of wine. Whoever wore a pair of cufflinks with Best Man on the other than for one day? or used an engraved champagne flute?

susancs

tea_lover wrote: »

But have you seen those glasses on the previous page?! If someone gave me that as a gift that would be the end of that friendship.

Lol, I quite liked them when I saw them at weddings. Having said that my teen age daughters always tease me that I have a childlike love of tacky things, but it is not obvious to anyone who does not not me very well. Christmas is a high risk time, when I have to be reined in.

missbiggles1

Person_one wrote: »

Which of the posters who've said they've seen this frequently do you think are that stupid? :cool:

What a strange thing to say - I thought the general opinion was that it might be a regional thing?