Reconnecting with old friends after 20 years

hazyjo

Panda78 wrote: »

That's why i don't want to email unless i actually intend to meet up with her. I hate misleading people too. The trouble is, it will be so awkward if i bump into her again without emailing! Although i was careful not to give my details out and say "lets meet up", but she probably won't see it like that.

Every time I see my family, my OH says to my BIL that they'll go for a drink on BIL's next day off, they go on about pubs and what beers they sell, talk about meeting up, and it NEVER happens. My OH has got zero desire to go for a drink with my boozy BIL. Last time we saw them (honestly, it's for everyone's birthdays and Christmas, etc so not years apart!) my BIL was trying to arrange something and my OH was kicking me under the table going 'oh, we're off to the Ideal Home Show aren't we?' and I was going 'noooo, I'm going with so-and-so'. Serves him right lol - I don't know why he does it, he says it to people all the time and I'm always telling him they'll take him seriously. BIL thinks I don't let him out!


Jx

uberalles

pigpen wrote: »

I couldnt be bothered.. we would both be far too different and I dont need friends that much.. or anyone..

I am aware I am the anti-social Queen.

I'm growing to like you.

System

I am aware I am the anti-social Queen.

I'm getting like that too. Developing a phobia (or indifference) of people.

System

I get the feeling you think you should email them but ideally would prefer not to. Don't feel you have to.

Grenage

If someone gave me their e-mail address instead of their phone number, I'd assume they didn't really want contact very much!

System

Grenage wrote: »

If someone gave me their e-mail address instead of their phone number, I'd assume they didn't really want contact very much!

I dunno about that, i can remember my email addresses easier than my phone number.

Money_maker

Just email, arrange to meet for coffee and take it from there. You are overthinking this.

suki1964

I personally wouldn't bother

If you haven't kept in touch over the past 20 years there's pretty much a good chance you will no longer have anything in common and conversation will be awkward and stilted once you get past the " do you remembers and what you doing now"

But then that's just me, I don't keep friends from the past. When I move on, I leave the past behind

spadoosh

suki1964 wrote: »

I personally wouldn't bother

If you haven't kept in touch over the past 20 years there's pretty much a good chance you will no longer have anything in common and conversation will be awkward and stilted once you get past the " do you remembers and what you doing now"

But then that's just me, I don't keep friends from the past. When I move on, I leave the past behind

The chances of two women of the same ages having went to the same school and the same college and where friends during that time and also now working in fairly close proximity (ie same town) having nothing in common is actually going to be incredibly unlikely.

Id love to meet up with loads of my old friends but being a squaddie brat and pretty non committal stops it. Struggle keeping in contact enough with my small circle of friends but that doesnt mean i dont think about those ive met along the way.

Depending on the friend and your feelings towards that friendship would be the basis of my decision. If theres been times that you thought about them and wondered about them or think of them every few months than go for it. If youve not thought about them since you last saw them, kind of answers the question.

pigpen

spadoosh wrote: »

The chances of two women of the same ages having went to the same school and the same college and where friends during that time and also now working in fairly close proximity (ie same town) having nothing in common is actually going to be incredibly unlikely.

I have very little in common with my (3) friends.. the chances of having something in common with someone from the past is highly unlikely. I had 450+ people in my year at high school.. I had little in common with 99% of them while I was there! We were the same age and went to the same school and I was even friends with some.. I am still friends with one but our lives are very different!