Reconnecting with old friends after 20 years

Panda78

Bumped into an old friend recently, which was lovely for that brief chat, but i'm wondering whether i should get in touch further? It's been 20 years since we last saw each other at college (we had been friends throughout school) but we would obviously have changed so much since then.

They gave me their email address, with the usual "lets meet up" but was that just out of politeness do you think? Surely we would have exchanged numbers if we really wanted to meet up?

Appreciate any thoughts.

Alter_ego

Send aa non committal email, Nice to see you again etc. See what transpires.
Did you give your email?

System

Ive reconnected with friends i last saw a good 40 years ago. Its been a hoot!

You dont have to stay the best of friends like you were but it would be nice to reconnect to talk about where life has taken you both.

Panda78

Alter_ego wrote: »

Send aa non committal email, Nice to see you again etc. See what transpires.
Did you give your email?

Thanks. No i didn't, they didn't ask for mine or to swap numbers etc, so i'm not sure whether it was a "lets meet up" for the sake of it, as people say.

It would be nice to bump into them again from time to time, turns out we work in the same area, but i'm not sure if i want to see them for a night out etc.

megaginge

Personally? Life is short... Meet up for one catch up drink in a pub or for a lunch.

If it goes well you've got a friend, if it's weird no harm done?

Just don't do a meet at once house or other incase they're batsh*t crazy :-p

Running_Horse

Be prepared for the fact that life moves on and the reasons for the original friendship have long gone. But why not? Nothing to lose by trying.

pigpen

I couldnt be bothered.. we would both be far too different and I dont need friends that much.. or anyone..

I am aware I am the anti-social Queen.

hazyjo

Watch last week's Very British Problems or whatever it was called (can't remember channel). They covered pretty much the same thing lol. 'We must meet up for a chat' is the British way of saying 'I really don't want to see you again, but obviously can't tell you that to your face...'.


It was very amusing...


Jx

System

Christmas 2014 i met a fellow Christian at the retirement home where Mother was. She was leading some kids who had come to sing carols for the old dears. After the carol service she came over to me and made a fuss of missing me, said she wanted to contact me but couldnt remember my house and she had since moved and told me we must catch up at some point so in a rush i gave her my number.

Christmas 2015 she was there at the retirement home leading the same children in their own carol service for the old dears. By this time Mother was confined to her room so missed out the carol service but whilst Mother was sleeping in went to join the old dears, carers and the carol singers in the lounge. After the service my friend came over to me and apologised for not getting in touch with me but said she had tried but had texted and rang but the call/text didnt get through.

So this time i wrote my number out again getting someone to check i had written it correctly.... and she still hasnt contacted me.

I hate people who say one thing and do another... and spin a web of lies to get themselves out of a hole. I guess i am still ex communicated.

Panda78

hazyjo wrote: »

Watch last week's Very British Problems or whatever it was called (can't remember channel). They covered pretty much the same thing lol. 'We must meet up for a chat' is the British way of saying 'I really don't want to see you again, but obviously can't tell you that to your face...'.


It was very amusing...


Jx

Oh, i actually started watching that last week, but then went to bed. I must finish it now!

Panda78

Judi wrote: »

Christmas 2014 i met a fellow Christian at the retirement home where Mother was. She was leading some kids who had come to sing carols for the old dears. After the carol service she came over to me and made a fuss of missing me, said she wanted to contact me but couldnt remember my house and she had since moved and told me we must catch up at some point so in a rush i gave her my number.

Christmas 2015 she was there at the retirement home leading the same children in their own carol service for the old dears. By this time Mother was confined to her room so missed out the carol service but whilst Mother was sleeping in went to join the old dears, carers and the carol singers in the lounge. After the service my friend came over to me and apologised for not getting in touch with me but said she had tried but had texted and rang but the call/text didnt get through.

So this time i wrote my number out again getting someone to check i had written it correctly.... and she still hasnt contacted me.

I hate people who say one thing and do another... and spin a web of lies to get themselves out of a hole. I guess i am still ex communicated.

That's why i don't want to email unless i actually intend to meet up with her. I hate misleading people too. The trouble is, it will be so awkward if i bump into her again without emailing! Although i was careful not to give my details out and say "lets meet up", but she probably won't see it like that.