Money Moral Dilemma: What should I do about my discarded sofa?

Cimscate

A little odd that he told you when it 'came up in conversation' but you'd obviously not made any attempt to find your own space for it so forget it. I suspect you are acquaintances not friends as friends would not behave like that......

Cimscate

user139 wrote: »

All these posters saying you have a cheek and its your own fault, dumping rubbish on him...to pay him for it. Blah blah. Shutup.

You asked your friend to store it for you, which he agreed and should've taken reasonable care of it. I know if a friend asked me I would have done this. A couple of blankets, made sure it was dry etc etc. If it was in his way for all that time, he would've said and asked you to move it, so there's no issue on the timescale argument. What we do know is, if it was an issue for your mate, or anything had happened to it HE should've informed you and let YOU make the decision.

This is the crux of it. He should've let you know soon after it's happened. No argument. "Hi mate, sorry, but roof fell in and your sofa's ruined, come round and have a look"

Now, because of this is where the doubt lays. Do we know his roof did fall in? or could he be lying and sold it. As it's gone we don't know. how much do you trust him? A friend of mine sold me a nice jacket once, then one of his friends spotted me wearing it and told me it was his. My mate ended up paying his mate for it!

So now you don't exactly know what happened to the sofa, so I guess you never will. I'd maybe ask him if he claimed on his insurance and see if it covered the loss of the sofa. If he dismisses it, then chalk it down to lesson learnt.

What weird friends you have!!

skintpaul

Some friend. Plenty free sofa's usually on gumtree, local facebook groups etc.

kebab

Of course not. If you wanted insurance go to Big Yellow Storage. Not only does he have your junk clogging up his garage, you expect him to recompense you if it gets damaged?!? Jog on in my opinion.

doctorblunkett

A lot of people seem to have missed the point and have focussed on things that are basically irrelevant.

Judi wrote: »

I think youve got a cheek dumping your furniture on him for a whole year.

The length of time the sofa has been there is irrelevant. there was no time limit to the agreement.

jhp67 wrote: »

Forget about it and don't keep bringing it up or you will ruin your friendship and you won't be a penny better off.

If a friendship is so fragile that a combative discussion can ruin it...well, let that friendship die!

jhp67 wrote: »

If you want secure insured storage you need to pay for it and I recon if you had used a self-store unit you would have made-up your mind pretty quickly about what to do with the spare sofa as you saw the rental money go out every month.

Storage costs of third parties are not relevant to the agreement made by OP and their friend.

Serenmor wrote: »

I wouldn't be a bit surprised if there was no problem with garage roof - just someone fed up of being taken advantage of.

A massive assumption. you don't know if OPs friend tried to discuss this previously.

duchy wrote: »

you should offer to pay your ffriend a fair price for storage.

Payment now wasn't part of the original agreement.

Jagraf wrote: »

You should pay him for his damaged roof. Your sofa would have been in his wsy when he got his roof mended.

This makes no sense. at all.


OP made an agreement with her friend for storage of an item. That friend has a duty of care to look after said item. there was no mention of time limit. there was no mention of money. however that item still belongs to OP, and her friend broke that duty of care and also disposed of it without OPs knowledge.


that's theft.


OP should be given a similar sofa at the cost to OPs friend. easy.

JTP_2

Not fair to ask him to cough up. He was already saving you a few hundred quid on storage, the risk was on you. Though worth asking if he was insured...

fierystormcloud

user139 wrote: »

All these posters saying you have a cheek and its your own fault, dumping rubbish on him...to pay him for it. Blah blah. Shutup.

You asked your friend to store it for you, which he agreed and should've taken reasonable care of it. I know if a friend asked me I would have done this. A couple of blankets, made sure it was dry etc etc. If it was in his way for all that time, he would've said and asked you to move it, so there's no issue on the timescale argument. What we do know is, if it was an issue for your mate, or anything had happened to it HE should've informed you and let YOU make the decision.

This is the crux of it. He should've let you know soon after it's happened. No argument. "Hi mate, sorry, but roof fell in and your sofa's ruined, come round and have a look"

Now, because of this is where the doubt lays. Do we know his roof did fall in? or could he be lying and sold it. As it's gone we don't know. how much do you trust him? A friend of mine sold me a nice jacket once, then one of his friends spotted me wearing it and told me it was his. My mate ended up paying his mate for it!

So now you don't exactly know what happened to the sofa, so I guess you never will. I'd maybe ask him if he claimed on his insurance and see if it covered the loss of the sofa. If he dismisses it, then chalk it down to lesson learnt.

tig387

Yes he should, he should have made an insurance claim, which is probably why he hasnt mentioned it to you, has he kept the money? Or has he sold it on?