Who do I complain about someone online?

FBaby

Did I miss you mentioning whether your daughter was aware of his true identity? If she indeed knew he was an older man, you would need to know more about the conversations they were having. For all you know, they were talking about fishing and knitting! Seriously, even though I too would have been seriously concerned to find this out, you can't immediately assume he was a pervert. He might have had very appropriate email exchanges with her, talking about her grand-children, providing advice on school, encouraging her to speak to you about problems.

Saying that, if you have evidence that he was planning to come to see her, that's certainly more dodgy, unless he was coming to the UK on holiday with his family and suggesting they meet her and you one of the days.

Stripeybat

Not sure if this has been mentioned already, but just in case... the age of consent being 16 is irrelevant. If any nude images have been exchanged, the age of consent there is 18 in the UK. As I understand it, anything of anyone under 18 here is illegal and classed as child pornography. I could be wrong, but that's what I've been told generally.

Good luck, OP. I hope your daughter is ok x

Tiddlywinks

OP- you need to 'de-brief' your daughter to establish if she knew who she was talking to or if he misrepresented himself in anyway. You also need to ask about whether inappropriate topics were discussed.

Fill out a report here on CEOP's website:

https://www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre/Parents/

They will then forward any matters of concern to the relevant overseas partners.

duchy

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

OP- you need to 'de-brief' your daughter to establish if she knew who she was talking to or if he misrepresented himself in anyway. You also need to ask about whether inappropriate topics were discussed.

Fill out a report here on CEOP's website:

https://www.ceop.police.uk/safety-centre/Parents/

They will then forward any matters of concern to the relevant overseas partners.

The daughter is an 18 year old woman not a child - she would be perfectly within her rights to tell Dad to mind his own business.

Less steamrolling more tact would be appropriate in this case

onomatopoeia99

duchy wrote: »

The daughter is an 18 year old woman not a child - she would be perfectly within her rights to tell Dad to mind his own business.

Less steamrolling more tact would be appropriate in this case

It seems many MSE members are as guilty as governments in wanting to extend childhood beyond the age of majority, never mind the age of consent.

They have to grow up sometime. The OP hasn't been back to explain "vulnerable" that I've spotted, and whether that means his adult daughter is not capable of functioning as an adult in society.

meritaten

So for Two years this 'child' has been having 'contact' with this man on the internet?
and now all hell breaks loose?
She is 18 - legally an adult, and can choose her own friends. I really do not understand why you are so uptight about this unless she has a learning disability which means she is classed as a 'vulnerable adult'?
If so - why did it take you two years to find out about this?

phill99

meritaten wrote: »

So for Two years this 'child' has been having 'contact' with this man on the internet?
and now all hell breaks loose?
She is 18 - legally an adult, and can choose her own friends. I really do not understand why you are so uptight about this unless she has a learning disability which means she is classed as a 'vulnerable adult'?
If so - why did it take you two years to find out about this?

This is the only sensible post on this whole thread.

Timothy_Muthama

if your daughter is now 18yrs,live the issue since she is an adult.I suggest you just have a talk with her...