Who do I complain about someone online?

corf999

I don't see an crime here.

Ronaldo_Mconaldo

Perhaps have a chat with your daughter. What the hell is she wasting her time on someone half the world away who is old enough to be her grand-dad. He must have been sendung money over for her.

McKneff

Have you 'spoken' to this man

If your daughter is 18 then she actually has the right to say to you 'butt out'
If you kick up- too much of a stink, she could just pack her bags and sod off to America and being 18, there is not a jot you could do about it

rachy182

Has he asked for or recieved any nude pictures before she turned 18 because in either country this would be classed as child pronography. Ortherwise i think the only thing you can do is report it to his local police saying you are worried that he might be grooming other young girls.

duchy

Guest101 wrote: »

But she was 16 at the time? therefore of the age of consent.


His location is largely irrelevant unless she travelled to actually see him.


I'd concentrate on working with your daughter to explain the dangers, rather than a fruitless battle.

The age of consent has to do with physical sexual contact not internet exchanges. However there are not any enforceable laws here as the man is in the US anyway. The woman concerned is legally now an adult anyway and UK laws regard her as of an age to make her own decisions (unless there is some unusual issue like MH issues but the father would need to go to court to overturn her basic rights of freedom). Any legal complaint would have to come from her- and it appears she isn't the one complaining !

Would there be grounds to take action against this man under US law- maybe. Depends on a lot of things including proof (and the OP says nothing untoward has happened just that things are "simmering") and which state laws were broken if any depending on where the man was using the net to contact her from. This is likely to involve getting a US based lawyer though and would be expensive even if there was proof and the girl was prepared to lay a complaint.

I agree the best thing parents can do is educate their now adult daughter -although this conversation should have happened about six years ago.

Clearly there are questions to be asked about why the parent is only aware of this long standing relationship now -and also if he does try to make trouble for this man - could it prompt his daughter to jump on the first plane to be with him ? She's eighteen - he couldn't stop herand the damage to the father daughter relationship could be damaged beyond repair. There's something a bit odd about a father trying to control an eighteen year old -and a lot I suppose depends if "vulnerable" means some form of learning difficulty ......or just Dad seeing her as a little girl rather than a young adult woman.

I'd also like to know Mum's stance in all this.

Mojisola

There's good advice here -
https://www.childline.org.uk/explore/onlinesafety/Pages/Sexting.aspx -
that's useful to start the discussions about these issues.

Guest101

duchy wrote: »

The age of consent has to do with physical sexual contact not internet exchanges. - true, but was there anything other than speaking However there are not any enforceable laws here as the man is in the US anyway. The woman concerned is legally now an adult anyway and UK laws regard her as of an age to make her own decisions (unless there is some unusual issue like MH issues but the father would need to go to court to overturn her basic rights of freedom). Any legal complaint would have to come from her- and it appears she isn't the one complaining !

Would there be grounds to take action against this man under US law- maybe. Depends on a lot of things including proof (and the OP says nothing untoward has happened just that things are "simmering") and which state laws were broken if any depending on where the man was using the net to contact her from. This is likely to involve getting a US based lawyer though and would be expensive even if there was proof and the girl was prepared to lay a complaint.

I agree the best thing parents can do is educate their now adult daughter -although this conversation should have happened about six years ago.

Clearly there are questions to be asked about why the parent is only aware of this long standing relationship now -and also if he does try to make trouble for this man - could it prompt his daughter to jump on the first plane to be with him ? She's eighteen - he couldn't stop herand the damage to the father daughter relationship could be damaged beyond repair. There's something a bit odd about a father trying to control an eighteen year old -and a lot I suppose depends if "vulnerable" means some form of learning difficulty ......or just Dad seeing her as a little girl rather than a young adult woman.

I'd also like to know Mum's stance in all this.

I agree if there was more than speaking then other laws apply. But there was no mention of this

bluelass

What a horrible disgusting man.
You need to go to your local police station and report this very soon.
Has your daughter deleted or tried to wipe anything from the PC?.
They will take your computer to access files to find evidence of grooming.
People like this man deserve all they get.

Guest101

bluelass wrote: »

What a horrible disgusting man.
You need to go to your local police station and report this very soon.
Has your daughter deleted or tried to wipe anything from the PC?.
They will take your computer to access files to find evidence of grooming.
People like this man deserve all they get.

Will they really?.....


1: So far the guy has broken no laws from what's been written. The girl was 16 and can have sex with anyone 16 or 106
2: Report what exactly? I think that's the question a number of people are asking
3: Since most messaging services are web based, the key data is stored on the servers, not the computer. Searching the computer would be largely irrelevant.

duchy

Guest101 wrote: »

I agree if there was more than speaking then other laws apply. But there was no mention of this

There are grooming laws in some states but it isn't clear if this is what happened.