Advice About Child Maintainance Please

LilElvis

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Step-granny, if I followed all the relationships correctly. It does get a bit confusing though!

I bet she's super-excited!

A week ago she just had a step-grandson - this week she's added 6 step-step- grandkids!

Better get saving for Christmas!

pigpen

LilElvis wrote: »

I bet she's super-excited!

A week ago she just had a step-grandson - this week she's added 6 step-step- grandkids!

Better get saving for Christmas!

Assuming of course that this illicit affair the SS has been having with this woman the last few years since his son was born hasn't resulted in at least a couple of her 6 being his.. the plot thickens!

Ames

bluelass wrote: »

My SS was living at his partners parents home for 3 years before she became pregnant.
They were saving for a deposit to buy their own property and living at her parents free of rent.
In between this his now ex partner told him she was having bad stomach aches and went to see her doctor. She then concocted a story saying she had some ovarian problem and if she didn't try before she was 30 then she might not be able to have any children.
She then put mounting pressure on him to try for one which he wasn't ready to do at the time.
Then her mother got involved saying he was being unfair to her daughter etc and she wanted to see her little girl have at least one child.
Seven months later she achieved what she wanted and was pregnant.
Even then her mother couldn't stop hassling him and wanted to choose names and go along with them to all anti natal appointments etc.
And this is the reason why they moved out of her parents home before the child arrived and even then she was always calling round.
Her mother was even at the birth for goodness sake.

Why would her mother be going to anti natal appointments if she was happy about the pregnancy?

Pollycat

bluelass
Setting aside the issue of money for a while - are you, your stepson and husband really sure that the child will be safe with a parent whose medical history you have discussed on this board?

bluelass wrote: »

My SS told us he didn't really want to have their son she and her mother pushed him into it and that is why he really doesn't want to pay for the lad but he knows it will be enforced by the CSA at some point.

I think the above is truly shocking.
Your stepson should be thoroughly ashamed of himself.
It is his child - whether he really wanted him or not.
He should accept that he has a responsibility to support the child now - not when an agency comes knocking on his door (figuratively speaking).

And you need to get clued up - it is not CSA anymore - at least not for new cases.
It is the Child Maintenance Service:
https://www.gov.uk/child-maintenance/overview

bluelass wrote: »

How much would he have to pay a month for one child?. His ex partner thinks she should get at least £800 but he wants us to pay it but my husband has said no.

Your stepson needs a slap round the face with a big dollop of reality.
How on earth have you and your husband brought up such a weak, 'I'm entitled' oik as he appears to be?

bluelass wrote: »

Also if she cant afford the rent and has to move out can she force my SS to pay it so her and the lad can remain there.
She tells us her mum and dad have a large 3 bed and she can go back there rent free but she doesn't want to.

You need to get your stepson off to see a solicitor on a free half hour session or go see the CAB to find out his rights and his responsibilities.

peachyprice

LilElvis wrote: »

I bet she's super-excited!

A week ago she just had a step-grandson - this week she's added 6 step-step- grandkids!

Better get saving for Christmas!

Better start saving for private education for all of them, the new partner's family are bound to ask [STRIKE]Pippa[/STRIKE] bluelass to cough up. :rotfl::rotfl:

Jagraf

Bluelass - what would you like for your grandchild?

duchy

bluelass wrote: »

When my daughter who is 19 soon was born I was no longer with her dad.
He paid me maintainance but things like holidays and school trips and other luxuries were down to me.
Unless it has changed now I don't know.

It's not legally enforceable but most decent absent parents do contribute for school trips etc because they love their kids. When the absent parent can't or won't often loving grandparents do it instead partly because they love their grandchildren and partly because they feel responsible or embarassed for raising a child who grew up to be so unconcerned for their own child.

mum2one

FBaby wrote: »

So he's been cheating on her for all this time and he is surprised she is trying to go for how much as she can?

Can't you see the irony behind your words that he thinks he shouldn't be responsible for his biological child because he was coerced into become a dad (!!!) but is prepared to take on responsibility for 6 who aren't his? Good luck to him!

As for the irony.... My daughters father wanted nothing to do with his daughter, he wanted his old life.... then moves in with a woman with 6 children (not sure how many fathers) and they had chilc no 7.

Mupette

This BOY is your grandson.

If your step son didn't want a baby he has a voice and he could of just put something on it.

Ironically your last post or the one before you reported people for being rude to you, although no one could see that just you.

So have reported you. Your welcome

Pollycat

bluelass wrote: »

All my SS will say is that his new love interest is a gypsy (his words and none of us get him at all).
He will not listen to anyone at all and my husband suspects that this girl is the person who introduced him to take drugs.

Lordy! Lordy! It just gets better.
I hope the child's Mother makes sure her son is safe if/when your stepson has access to his son.

bluelass wrote: »

His ex partner has been for legal advice and will be taking steps to get child maintainance.

Excellent. :T
It's the responsibility of your stepson to pay towards the child he helped create.
Or don't you see it that way, bluelass?