Advice About Child Maintainance Please

suki1964

At least we now have the answer as to why the DIL always turned to her partners dad for help in times of crisis, the SIL has been having it away for the best part of four years with another woman

Jagraf

You are the granny to this child. Just saying.

Pollycat

bluelass wrote: »

Ok last weekend my stepson decided he no longer wants to be with his partner (mother of his son).
He has gone to live with a friend whilst his ex partner is still living in a house they were renting from a private landlord. She says she cannot afford to pay the rent on her own and my SS has told her she will have to move out because he will not be giving her any money towards the rent since he will no longer be residing there.
She has told us that he will be chased for maintainance for their son which he does have a legal duty to pay. But she says that with her wages and child benefit wont be enough to live has she got used to when they were together and expects my husband and dmyself to give her £700 a month.
My husband told her we are not responsible and she says she is going to see a family law solicitor.
My SS told us he didn't really want to have their son she and her mother pushed him into it and that is why he really doesn't want to pay for the lad but he knows it will be enforced by the CSA at some point.
He has met someone else who he was seeing for just after the boy was born and he might want to move in with her one day she has 6 children.
How much would he have to pay a month for one child?. His ex partner thinks she should get at least £800 but he wants us to pay it but my husband has said no.
Also if she cant afford the rent and has to move out can she force my SS to pay it so her and the lad can remain there.
She tells us her mum and dad have a large 3 bed and she can go back there rent free but she doesn't want to.

In reality, all the financial questions in the above post could be answered by Googling.
When a very good friend of mine found herself in the same position as bluelass's stepson's ex-partner I.e. her husband had been sha**ing somebody else, we worked out the amount of maintenance - and what benefits she would be entitled to - without the need for sharing the details on MSE.

I don't think the stepson comes out of this very well.

Maybe the family should think of the child - given the Mum's medical condition discussed a while ago.

pigpen

bluelass wrote: »

I know he has a legal duty to pay maintainance pigpen I got it for my daughter.
The thing is this say if he has to pay £70 per week for example his ex partner says it isn't enough.
And if the boy wants holidays or school trips etc would he be legal bound to cover that too? or just have to pay the £70 and no more besides.

depends on whether he is a total kn0b or wants the best for his child.

pigpen

bluelass wrote: »

Her mother was even at the birth for goodness sake.

I was at the birth of both my daughters 2 children.. it was a most amazing experience... I highly recommend it if anyone gets the opportunity.. my mother was at the birth of 7 of mine. it is quite normal now.

Pollycat

pigpen wrote: »

depends on whether he is a total kn0b or wants the best for his child.

Sadly, there's lots of the former type about.
My friend experienced that.

Let's hope bluelass's stepson has some integrity and compassion for the child he helped create.

pigpen

Pollycat wrote: »

Sadly, there's lots of the former type about.
My friend experienced that.

Let's hope bluelass's stepson has some integrity and compassion for the child he helped create.

yes.. I have experience of the former..

I dont think it is likely he will do the morally correct thing.. the example isnt all good is it?

onomatopoeia99

Jagraf wrote: »

You are the granny to this child. Just saying.

Step-granny, if I followed all the relationships correctly. It does get a bit confusing though!

Dill

Does he love his son? Or want to see him?

How is he going to cope with 6, assuming he moves in with his current lady friend?

suki1964

onomatopoeia99 wrote: »

Step-granny, if I followed all the relationships correctly. It does get a bit confusing though!

I'm " a step granny" and believe you me they are MY grandchildren as much as if I gave birth to their mother


My ( step ) grandchildren are treated as if they came from my own. I'd walk over hot coals to protect them and to ensure they had the food,clothes and social life they needed

Step or otherwise, she is the grandparent