Advice About Child Maintainance Please

LilElvis

bluelass wrote: »

My SS told us he didn't really want to have their son she and her mother pushed him into it and that is why he really doesn't want to pay for the lad but he knows it will be enforced by the CSA at some point.

If he has left the family home he should be paying child maintenance to his former partner now, not just when he gets paperwork. His son needs food, light, heat etc now.

If he thinks his ex might deny having received it then get ss to set up a weekly/ monthly standing order clearly marked as "child maintenance" in the payment description.

Pollycat

breaking_free wrote: »

Well hello fun times. :T It's another Bluelass thread (EPIC!). :beer:

Excuse me a moment while I pull up a comfy chair and prepare myself to be entertained.

Is there room on that chair for me too?

It seems like everybody wants a share of bluelass's dosh:
Stepson's ex's mother (to put the child through private education).
Now stepson's ex wants her & oh to pay the maintenance & so does her stepson.

LilElvis

bluelass wrote: »

Oh just shut up.

I'm sure she's sitting very quietly.

After all she wouldn't want to miss anything, would she?

Any chance of some Thorntons and a nice G&T?

AnnieO1234

This your husband's grand child, your step grand child. Do what you need to do to support that child, including giving your son a boot up the back side.

Poor poor child. He'd be better off adopted, and I do not say that lightly.

tea_lover

Out of interest, how did her mother push him into having a child? That is one weird threesome!

tea_lover

Oh bluelass you do make me laugh - have you seriously just written a post complaining about someone's interfering mother... can you not see the irony there??

I expect you have full access to this person's* medical records too, based on your last post.

Is your SS not a grown up then? Was he being forced into living with and sleeping with this person against his will?

*Who just happens to be the mother of your grandchild.

FBaby

He has met someone else who he was seeing for just after the boy was born and he might want to move in with her one day she has 6 children.

So he's been cheating on her for all this time and he is surprised she is trying to go for how much as she can?

Can't you see the irony behind your words that he thinks he shouldn't be responsible for his biological child because he was coerced into become a dad (!!!) but is prepared to take on responsibility for 6 who aren't his? Good luck to him!

thorsoak

Can't wait for the next thread "my s/son's new partner is having baby no 7 "........

tea_lover

thorsoak wrote: »

Can't wait for the next thread "my s/son's new partner is having baby no 7 "........

Shortly followed by "my stepson's new partner's brother-in-law keeps hitting on me because I look like Pippa Middleton, and he expects me to fund his new yacht"

elsien

bluelass wrote: »

Ok last weekend my stepson decided he no longer wants to be with his partner (mother of his son).
He has gone to live with a friend whilst his ex partner is still living in a house they were renting from a private landlord. She says she cannot afford to pay the rent on her own and my SS has told her she will have to move out because he will not be giving her any money towards the rent since he will no longer be residing there.
She has told us that he will be chased for maintainance for their son which he does have a legal duty to pay. But she says that with her wages and child benefit wont be enough to live has she got used to when they were together and expects my husband and dmyself to give her £700 a month.
My husband told her we are not responsible and she says she is going to see a family law solicitor.
My SS told us he didn't really want to have their son she and her mother pushed him into it and that is why he really doesn't want to pay for the lad but he knows it will be enforced by the CSA at some point.
He has met someone else who he was seeing for just after the boy was born and he might want to move in with her one day she has 6 children.
How much would he have to pay a month for one child?. His ex partner thinks she should get at least £800 but he wants us to pay it but my husband has said no.
Also if she cant afford the rent and has to move out can she force my SS to pay it so her and the lad can remain there.
She tells us her mum and dad have a large 3 bed and she can go back there rent free but she doesn't want to.

What a charmer your stepson is. You must both be so proud.