How do I do this?

Pollycat

I would try to make sure that your feeling that you want to end your relationship is not tied up with your other issues.

Good luck.

Mojisola

Unsureandscared wrote: »

I don't run away but I do struggle to let go of the past. I'm having counselling for other reasons and to help increase my self confidence and self esteem as it's very low. I feel like I'm just plodding on with things at the moment. These aren't new feelings, they've been off and on for a while and now every time we argue I bring up all other stuff that I shouldn't.

Pollycat wrote: »

I would try to make sure that your feeling that you want to end your relationship is not tied up with your other issues.

I second Pollycat's advice. You could be losing a good partner because of unrelated issues from your past.

itsanne

Unsureandscared wrote: »

He knows I'm unhappy and the reasons why but thinks I need to just let go of the past and get on with things.
I am having counselling to try and help with what's going on and to help me deal with some other stuff.
I still feel that I want out though I'm just so scared.
We have a mortgage and a dog. No kids.

Without needing to give details, is the past he's suggesting you let go of to do with him or other things? Ditto "what's going on".

The 5% suggests you're not positive about leaving and it would be an awful shame to do so and then regret it.