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I'm 95% sure I need/want to end my 9 year relationship but I'm so scared and don't know how to actually say the words?! Any thoughts or advice would help
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  • DomRavioli
    DomRavioli Posts: 3,136 Forumite
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    You need to talk to whoever you have a relationship with, instead of on here to try and get your post count up.

    Shameful.
  • DomRavioli wrote: »
    You need to talk to whoever you have a relationship with, instead of on here to try and get your post count up.

    Shameful.

    I can only see one shameful thing here and it is not the OP.

    OP, you do have the option to simply say "It's over" and walk away. Do you feel as though you are lacking the strength to do so?
  • Georgiegirl256
    Georgiegirl256 Posts: 7,005 Forumite
    What happened to giving new posters a chance? The only post that is shameful, is no:2. :(
  • I think that's it, lacking in strength and courage.

    I will ignore post 2!
  • Mojisola
    Mojisola Posts: 35,574 Forumite
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    I'm 95% sure I need/want to end my 9 year relationship but I'm so scared and don't know how to actually say the words?! Any thoughts or advice would help

    Does your partner have a clue that things aren't right?

    Are the problems with the relationship things that could be fixed if you worked on them together?
  • LilElvis
    LilElvis Posts: 5,835 Forumite
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    Is it going to come out of the blue or have you both discussed your relationship problems previously? This will likely have some bearing on how you start the conversation and what you need to say.
  • balletshoes
    balletshoes Posts: 16,610 Forumite
    I'm 95% sure I need/want to end my 9 year relationship but I'm so scared and don't know how to actually say the words?! Any thoughts or advice would help

    what do you want to say?
    write it down, then practice saying it out loud to yourself.
  • Peter333
    Peter333 Posts: 2,035 Forumite
    I'm 95% sure I need/want to end my 9 year relationship but I'm so scared and don't know how to actually say the words?! Any thoughts or advice would help

    Where about in the relationship are you? Married? Kids?
    DomRavioli wrote: »
    You need to talk to whoever you have a relationship with, instead of on here to try and get your post count up.

    Shameful.

    What are you talking about?

    It's a new poster with 1 or 2 posts! How can they be trying to get their post count up?!
    What happened to giving new posters a chance? The only post that is shameful, is no:2. :(

    I agree!
    You didn't, did you? :rotfl::rotfl:
  • Georgiegirl256
    Georgiegirl256 Posts: 7,005 Forumite
    Peter333 wrote: »
    I agree!

    Peter?? This is happening too often now! :rotfl:

    Is it worth talking to your partner OP? Is it something that could be fixed with abit of work from you both? Or are you definitely wanting out?
  • thorsoak
    thorsoak Posts: 7,166 Forumite
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    Tell him/her "I think it is all over between us - we really need to talk".
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