Ever a right time for another baby?

mumps

I have 4, the smalles gap it 2 years 4 months and the biggest is 20 years 5 months. I had two of them when I was older than you.

My kids had no resentment about younger ones coming along, the eldest was 18 and 2nd one was 15 when the 3rd one arrived. They both told me it was great with girls, apparently girls are always keen to come home and play with the baby!

My youngest 2 are much closer in age to their nephews than they are to their older siblings and have brilliant relationships with them.

Nothing wrong with the gap you have and you have time to do a year or two in your job and pay off some debts and maybe look at extending or moving and then having a baby in 2, 3 or more years.

I thought it was great starting again but I have to admit going through the teenage bit again wasn't so much fun.

Good luck.

DigForVictory

Hurrah for the folic acid (I misread the label as "frolic acid" one time & it stuck) & just see what Nature deals.

There *are* bad times to have a baby - being massively in debt, not being physically well, living in a war zone etc, but hurrah these do not apply. Insofar as you can, get as fit as you can. Not necessarily loosing weight (which can play hob with your endocrine system) but just to give you a bit more robustness to cope!

Me, I had three under five which worked for us as we got full value for money out of every toy & garment & bit of kit. You have the advantage of knowing what wasn't a blind bit of use last time, and the MSE community to bounce ideas off.

Best of luck with job & frolics!

chelseablue

36 isn't old


My cousin had a baby when she was 42 and didn't have any problems, but everyone is different.


My son is 2 next month and I am currently undecided as to have another or not.
We wouldn't be able to have another until my son is in school due to childcare fees, when he starts school I will be 35 (Never thought Id ever be 35!)


There is 5 years between me and my brother (I'm older) and we get along really well now, so 6-7 years isn't a major age gap

pigpen

mumps wrote: »

My kids had no resentment about younger ones coming along, the eldest was 18 and 2nd one was 15 when the 3rd one arrived. .

There are some good points to having much older siblings



I've had my 21 y/o here all day.. skiving essay writing .. I went upstairs for a short time and ended up sat up there listening to her laughing and playing with my 2.5 y/o who was squealing and laughing with her... totally melted my swinging brick..


Age gaps make no difference if there is the love there.. I will never ever tire of hearing their laughter... talking maybe


Sounds like a plan WAW.. and it's really not that far away.

bluelass

If someone already has a family and doing it all again might cause hardship then don't do it please.
Putting your own wants before everyone else's is unfair and you don't have the room for another one.
My mum (sadly passed last year) had me at 19 and my gran was still in her forties then. When I was born and gran saw me being fussed over she decided she wanted another child and had twins 9 months later at age 43.
And she went on to suffer very badly from PND and mental health problems.
She already had 7 adult children including my mum when my twin cousins were born and my granddad was 48 then and everyone is certain he didn't want it to happen.
Just because you want something doesn't mean your partner does.

pigpen

bluelass wrote: »

If someone already has a family and doing it all again might cause hardship then don't do it please.
Putting your own wants before everyone else's is unfair and you don't have the room for another one.
My mum (sadly passed last year) had me at 19 and my gran was still in her forties then. When I was born and gran saw me being fussed over she decided she wanted another child and had twins 9 months later at age 43.
And she went on to suffer very badly from PND and mental health problems.
She already had 7 adult children including my mum when my twin cousins were born and my granddad was 48 then and everyone is certain he didn't want it to happen.
Just because you want something doesn't mean your partner does.

would they not be your aunts/uncles as your parents siblings?


PNI can hit anyone, at any time... age isn't a factor.. what a pile of swill.. I was most unhappy after my 2nd and 6th when i was 20 and 26 respectively.. I've been absolutely unaffected with my younger ones.

OP has already decided what her and her husband think is best for their family.. which is a very sensible decision.

workingalwaysworking

bluelass wrote: »

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Just because you want something doesn't mean your partner does.

My hubby is 100% behind the idea, it's me that has the queries! x