Devastated!

belfastgirl23

This also has the whiff of a fabricated story to me as well. You know your own story best OP but I'd say for every genuine 'let's split up and find ourselves' there are at least half a dozen 'I'm having an affair and pretending we're just finding ourselves feels like an easier way to split up' stories. I don't know how often people post here saying that their husband or wife has left them out of the blue and then they discover that actually it was only out of the blue for them and their cheating spouse had been planning it for some time. Fairly soon after, everything comes to light and that's the end of the marriage. This sounds like another such story to me

Which is not to say it's not terrible for you. By all means grieve and cry. But honestly I'd say do not hold out any hope that your relationship is salvageable. He needs to come to you if there is to be any chance. You might not be able to accept that just now but one day a switch will flick and you'll realise that you can't wait around any more.

Tigsteroonie

OP, you need to concentrate on what you want to do.

Do you want him back? You might have done, but you've just learnt that he is the kind of person who has unprotected sex just two weeks after splitting up. He doesn't sound fantastic to me.

Do you have any children? You don't mention any ... Were you going to have children? I'm wondering whether your feelings are exacerbated by the thought that the unknown woman has got pregnant with his child before you had the opportunity to do so.