Devastated!

d70cw6

Pollycat wrote: »

Where's that come from?

Have I missed something the OP has posted or do you have a crystal ball?

omniscience

KRB2725

I know several people (myself included) that have got pregnant with one attempt, so it could have been a one off.

If my husband was having unprotected sex with somebody within a fortnight of a temporary split, then I would really struggle to get over it - tbh I don't think I'd even try.

Is this woman supposed to be a friend of yours as well?

I'm sorry you're going through this, but you had split for a reason. Those reasons have now had another bombshell added to them. Cut your losses, move on and find happiness either by yourself or with someone new.

DigForVictory

"We were on a break!" echoes faintly, but you are (so far) still married.

If you can't talk to him, write. Keep copies. Do not label "without prejudice" - it doesn't mean enough. You write to unburden your heart & mind, not for the court (yet).

Read the reply/ies. Post them here if you want. Do have friends & a lawyer on standby (that first free half hour is usually wildly educational, but the later hours are as informative but 'way more expensive) & if you want to eat Ben& Jerrys by the gallon, that is entirely your call.

The best husband can make serious mistakes.

The best friend has a sight fewer excuses.

Take the best possible care of yourself - his folly is *not* yours but if you want a future with him, the consequences will be shared.
Best of luck.

BarryBlue

Ah, yes. "We were on a break....":D

Isn't that the mantra for Jeremy Kyle? I'm expecting this tale to make the show in the near future.;)

FBaby

Clearly the marriage was in trouble for at least one of you to agree on the separation. In a way what has happened could be considered as making the decision that the marriage is over easier however painful

Pollycat

d70cw6 wrote: »

omniscience

Ah! I see!

That well known "I've got nothing of interest to post so I'll just be a prat" approach. :rotfl:

dinky_dragon

BarryBlue wrote: »

Ah, yes. "We were on a break....":D

Isn't that the mantra for Jeremy Kyle? I'm expecting this tale to make the show in the near future.;)

Gosh, how helpful for the OP.

Grenage

Two sides to every story. My wife left and that was that as far as I was concerned, she said she wanted to try and work it out, but in my eyes why would you leave if you want to work it out? I got on with my life, and my (now ex) wife later made contact with regards to trying again; awkward...

If your other half got intimate with someone after two weeks, it's probably not meant to be. It wasn't for us, and to be honest, it ending was the best thing that ever happened to me - I'm sure it's the same for my ex-wife.

newcook

Gavin83 wrote: »

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I'd be much more suspicious how she knows so quickly to be honest as 4 weeks is no time at all. Either she was hoping/expecting to get pregnant, shes lying or he's lying and the pregnancy is actually more than 4 weeks.

if she's anything like me with my cycles, I'm rarely a day late for my period and that's around 2 weeks after ovulation for when conception can happen. if she's been late by a couple of days i'm guessing that's why she took a test and found out shes pregnant.

completely agree with the rest of what you had said in your original post though

gonzo127

i think some people are jumping to some major conclusions here, there is no confirmation that he has been having an affair, granted the short time frame involved does raise that thought pattern however take this situation

Last May i moved out of the family home, i instigated the split (we had been to marriage counselling for months but nothing had changed and in fact had got worse but thats another story) towards the end of June, one of my soon to be ex wifes friends accosted me in the street to (gleefully) inform me that my ex was (i shall paraphrase this) sleeping with a black man who has got enormous 'assets', safe to say there was a lot of other comments made which made me realise just how lucky i am to be away from her based on all the things she has said about me, but once again thats another story.

Anyway so based on the current thinking within this thread should i automatically assume she was cheating on me with him the whole time? or the more likely (to me at least) assumption that it was just a bit of mindless, emotionally weak, rebound 'fun'?

which in the original thoughts of the thread, OP, no matter why this has happened, it has, and nothing can change it.

what i think you need to do is give yourself some time, do not act rashly, but do allow yourself to cry and let it out because of course it hurts. only you can decide what is best for you, but i would say if it got to the point of separating in the first place then you was not in a good place, so this could be exactly what you need to make the split full and final (if that is what you want).

all this the child will be with you for 18 years is carp, a child is for life, even when they are a legal adult they are still your child, so bare in mind this if you do decide you want to try and fix things.

otherwise the end of a relationship is really just the start of a new part of your life, one which has endless possibilities for joy and happiness. of which i wish you so much off