Trying To Concieve

skintchick

GracieP wrote: »

Hi skintchick, I'm so sorry to hear your news. It's been 3 weeks yesterday since mine and I feel like I've been through the mill. The first week I was very up and down. Well actually I was more like down and more down. I felt either grief-stricken and a bit panicky, or just washed out sad. And perversely while I longed for the bleeding and pain to stop once it started to tale off I felt sad all over again.

After a week and a half I felt less consuming grief, but a lot of anger and still a panicky feeling. And I started feeling really desperate that I should start trying again immediately, while my husband was feeling that he couldn't bear to. At some stage last week I started to feel a peace about it. I took a really long walk, which helped clear my head. And the next day I took a long bath and it was the first time I felt good, really good, instead of just coping. Since then I've been up and down, the sadness is still there but it isn't all-consuming.

Both my husband and I now feel ready to try again, and we would have been this weekend if it wasn't for my fall on Saturday. We've decided that I'm not going to go back to temperature taking and checking my LH levels until at least the new year. I don't think I could cope with the rollercoaster ride of that just yet, taking my folic acid is as much as I can countenance.

I hope this helps and isn't just me rambling. It will get better, but it will be hard. And somedays you'll be feeling better and something on tv, a baby on the street or a dream you have will knock you back down. But you'll get stronger day by day. I do recommend doing something for your baby. We had a little ceremony for ours, tbh neither of us felt much better at the time we did it, but it feels better in retrospect. We burnt what I'm sure was our baby and scattered the ashes, but if that's not for you perhaps a service in your church could be dedicated to your baby?

I'm so glad you're beginning to feel better. I am numb right now I think. I have moments of sobbing but mostly I walk around in a daze. My baby went down the loo so I can;t do a memorial of any kind but I may do a memory box with my notes and the PG tests showing positive, and perhaps do something with that later. I think a service would be too much for me to cope with - I can;t even ring everyone we'd told and tell them, instead I asked a good friend to do it for me as I just cannot cope with going over it with people. But I'm glad you're getting better GracieP, :A

Rosie_Bud

AnnieM wrote: »

Just want to give a quick shout out to Rosie Bud and say good luck for work tomorrow - hope all goes well with your job and you can carry on ttc-ing!

AnnieMx

*waving my hands in the air like I just don't care*

Thanks AnnieM!:D

Rosie xx

Rosie_Bud

skintchick,

I am so sorry to hear of your news. I am thinking of you at this difficult time and sending love and (((hugs))) your way.

I really hope you feel better soon but remember to take your time, there is no rush.

Rosie xx

Little_Pickle

good morning ladies...

bit of an update from our neck of the wwods.

Mr P and I are now engaged (wanted to let you know if you are not an Arms poster) and we are elated - it happened on my 30th birthday.

We have had many long talks over the weekend and we have decided....

why wait for Valentine's day to start TTC?

my 30th / our engagement party is in 2 weekends time, and after that we will start TTC!!!!

We though, why are we waiting?

I was on the pill, but due to moving house, I clean forgot to get a new prescription and I have been off of the pill for 6 weeks now.

My natural cycle kicked in straight away and was only 2 days later than my normal 'pill' period. (sorry if TMI).

We are going to continue using protection until after the party so that we can have this one last big blow out. I think it's lovely to know that after celebrating our engagement, we will be trying for a family.

We are so excited!

I have to make a massive list of things we need to do over the next 2 weeks, but I have popped to the shop this morning and got myself some folic acid for starters.

I just wanted to share this news with you all.

Love and baby dust to all.
LP
xox

Hedgehog28

Skintchick, I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. Things will get easier but I know how rubbish you must be feeling now. I take comfort from knowing that our child is in heaven too...although that doesn't stop me from wishing otherwise sometimes .

Take it easy and best wishes,
Hedgehog

Leopardlady

Well i thought i would say hello as this thread has gone awfully quiet! I am at the end of the 2ww, so hoping that AF doesn't arrive but not holding out much hope this month, but would like something by Dec then i would be on schedule with OH as he wanted me to get pg around dec or jan!
Oh well, more work to do tonight then a snuggle on the sofa and some nice home cooked food. Have a good evening everyone, hope there is lots of bding across the country.

Oh Rosie how did it go today?

Baby dust to all

AnnieM_3

Yeah, Rosie - how did it go?

I'm on cd21 now, and worrying as I think I ov'd on cd 15 or 16, so I'm hoping for either a BFP or a 28 day cycle, as I want to be sure my luteal phase is ok if I'm not pg this month. I just don't think I am though, and I know it's going to be really difficult this time, especially as a girl I work with is about ready to pop.

GracieP

Leopardlady wrote: »

Well i thought i would say hello as this thread has gone awfully quiet!

I think that all the new split-off threads mean there is less traffic here now. I've had sore boobs for the last 24 hours, so I guess my AF is on it's way in the next 5-10days. It's making me sad, but it's also something of a relief because I've heard that sometimes a mc can knock your cycle for six.

Also a friend of mine text me today to say his wife has gone into labour, so that's a bit hard. And it makes me feel bad that I'm not over the moon for them. On the plus side they're in Ireland, so by the time I see them at Christmas I should be feeling less sorry for myself.

Leopardlady

Well AF arrived this afternoon, not too heavy yet, but def there. Oh well another month to enjoy ourselves.

Had lunch with a good friend who is 4mnths pg, she has had such a tough time, but all is looking good now, so it was great to see her looking well.

A very personal question ow: have any of your OH had failures during sex since ttc? my OH has had a little bit of trouble keeping going (tmi) and it is really stressing him out.
Thanks

skintchick

Leopardlady wrote: »

Well AF arrived this afternoon, not too heavy yet, but def there. Oh well another month to enjoy ourselves.

Had lunch with a good friend who is 4mnths pg, she has had such a tough time, but all is looking good now, so it was great to see her looking well.

A very personal question ow: have any of your OH had failures during sex since ttc? my OH has had a little bit of trouble keeping going (tmi) and it is really stressing him out.
Thanks

He is probably just feeling the pressure. This is also TMI but when we were trying before we didn;t always bother with full-on sex IYSWIM. Sometimes the erm swimmers didn;t make it to the allotted place for making babies, and I think that helped OH feel less like he was being milked!