Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

A0503

Hello Everyone, just been catching up as had a busy weekend.


I did a few internet cheapy tests over the weekend as AF could arrive tomorrow so thought it might show a line, but they were bfn's bar one where I thought I could see a squint of a line but sometimes I think when you stare at them long enough you start seeing things!!


I won't test now as I'll see if AF arrives first. Based on my cycle that's either tomorrow or Wednesday but based on ovulation its Saturday.


Mouse - thank your doing the lists so far, agree with the others and definitely don't think there's any salt rubbing in, wish you all the best with your pregnancy xx


Rachy - I completely agree with the keeping busy thing, I've hardly paid any attention to the TWW this time as I've had a lot else going on. Going to try keep that up as I have been driving myself mad the last few months. I hope your return to work is bearable and I am glad your feeling positive about ttc xx


Clara - I can't speak from experience but I agree its helpful to have a diagnosis and I am aware of people who have gone to conceive naturally and by using Clomid, though I imagine its still a scary place to be, I hope the GP visit is helpful and gets your questions answered.


I think jealousy is a normal human reaction with anything in life and I think everybody deals with things in different ways. before I was TTC I imagined that I'd just come off the pill and wait for the day I randomly fell pg. I didn't account for all the ups and downs and emotions that you go through and sometimes its hard to share it in real life. xx

athensgeorgia

Rachy I had 2 weeks off work but as it was over Christmas only 5 and 1/2 days were working days because of the bank holidays. I got texts during my time off to ask how I was feeling and where certain documents were, there was hardly any compassion shown which I don't think helped. I was very tearful when I got back in the office and just told most people anyway because I kept crying and felt it easier to explain because I was embarrassed at how I'd cried in front them. I hope your return goes smoothly though and you're shown more understanding.

Clara I have PCOS. I had my first 2 DD's naturally and was then TTC for DD3. I had an appointment with the gynecologist and was prescribed Metformin, which I took from 12th October to January. I thought I'd kicked my POAS habit because I hadn't tested for so long so thought it been a while I'll just test and was PG. Working back my dates it looks like I OV 2 weeks after I took the Metformin and didn't know I was pg (the side effects of Metformin are very similar to pg symptoms). By the time I got booked in and saw the midwife I was 18 weeks pg. I tell people I was TTCing for 16 months but actually it was 12 because I didn't know I was pg for 4 of them.

This last pg was also natural and unexpected. We'd actually been NTNP for 2 years. It just a shame it ended the way it did .

I'm also not enjoying the Facebook posts. DH's cousin announced at the same time as the MC and just had her baby shower this weekend. So had even more of a difficult time. Just want this time of year to be over and done with. It has been a rough couple of weeks.

Rachylou1981

Work wasn't too bad. I found it easy to just smile and say I was okay at the questions of 'are you okay?'. Luckily none were intrusive.

I did have a big pat on the shoulder and an unexpected hug which would have been nice....had I not just had a tattoo there :eek: Ouch!!

I honestly don't think I would be treated any nicer/different if they knew what had happened, it would be yesterday's news, which is quite sad but I'm not close to the staff so wouldn't want the awkwardness. We work in offices of 2 and the girl I share with knows everything as does my boss so that's all I need.

cats2012

Rachy you sound so positive given what you've been through - I really hope you and OH can stay strong and get your rainbow soon. It's funny how much you can care about people you only know through a forum!

Same goes for everyone who has experienced a loss - you are all amazing.

Clara I really hope you can get some proper answers and get this sorted.

If I can give yet another big of advice (sorry!) much as I was dubious I would say missing the family party was absolutely the right decision. As OH put it - we're staying strong as we can but doesn't mean we'd cope with having it rubbed in our face! No one questioned our excuse and we're going to visit in a couple of weeks by ourselves instead. Worth baring in mind that's it's ok to not put yourself through it.

newthrift

Rachylou I'm glad work was alright :-)

Nothing much happening here, AF almost over so will be able to get back to BD'ing :-)

newthrift

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD27 A0503 - 10DPO :cool:
CD35 cats2012 - 15DPO :cool:

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD9 athensgeorgia - Awaiting ov
CD12 easilydistracted - Awaiting ov
CD15 Keekee - Awaiting ov
CD15 Milliebob - Awaiting ov
CD15 firebird082 - Awaiting ov
CD20 ButterflyBabe - Awaiting ov
CD25 angel11 - Awaiting ov
CD27 midget_1907 - Awaiting ov
CD39 clarabell1984 - Awaiting ov
CD95 Slinky_Selina - Awaiting ov

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD4 newthrift - Awaiting ov

Those we haven't heard from in a while
CD61 Alex_88 - Awaiting ov
CD64 little angel - Awaiting ov
CD110 the_insider - Awaiting ov

Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
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A0503

Thank you for the list Newthrift. Tomorrow will be an interesting day for me, if AF arrives it means I only had a 10 day luteal phase this month. If she doesn't then I will anticipate her arrival for Saturday.


I did an internet cheapy this morning again, I don't know if I'm seeing things but I thought I could see a shadow of a line. I ended up getting really annoyed with myself as now if AF arrives I feel like I've started to get my hopes up. Don't have any symptoms either pg or AF, but to be honest I don't get pre-AF symptoms anyway.


Glad your first day back wasn't too bad Rachy xx

athensgeorgia

Thanks for updating the lists newthrift. Can you put my back in the BDing zone please. And also glad AF is on her way out.

I was going to say the same thing Rachy about your positivity. Makes me wonder if I was overreacting. I always considered myself a 'strong' person but this just floored me. I can't help thinking the way I was treated by work and the whole episode in general hit me hard. Sorry about your whack on the tattoo too.

freshstart11

Hi ladies, ok if I Kind of join?

Kind of because I have PCOS and not mildly :-/ and a lot of previous mc. Took me ten years to fall preg with my daughter and now at 32 I'm guessing would be about the same next time.....

On the off chance I bought some OPK and when they turned up, bang on dark line (disregarded as pcos causes false lines) but then got loads of EWCM and two darker tests so I THINK I am 3dpo but only DTD once recently so unlikely to have caught.

Not trying, I cant deal with the heartache but seriously hoping

Rachylou1981

Cats and AthensGeorgia

I think I am just dealing with things well at work because I have no other choice. Staying off wasn't really an option as I was just wallowing in my PJs and I would have sank into depression. I am just finding things to focus on every week too which helps occupy my mind, this week I have a cinema trip and a meal out, just little things help.

Don't think for one second that you have overreacted AthensGeorgia, this is the most horrific thing I have ever experienced and the most I have ever grieved. Don't beat yourself up.