Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

firebird082

cats2012 wrote: »

I should add none of the family know we're even trying..

Without wishing to add to the issue (and really not trying to make it any harder), but have you considered telling your family? I can't imagine trying to cope with all that without being able to tell anyone why I know everyone is different, but sharing the grief may help? You may be suprised by how understanding people can be.

cats2012

Thanks firebird - we have considered it but it's just the way we prefer to deal with things, we don't want the sympathetic looks all the time. We know people want to help but for us we just don't want to burden them too.

My mum knows though, but party is OH side of the family.

Slinky_Selina

Wow, I opened up a box, I actually came back to apologise for my rant earlier and I'm sorry if I upset anyone but I did need to vent.

Huge amounts of love to those going through similar at the moment, I do understand to some extent but for each of us its also a different experience.
I do think some bereavement counselling would be good for me, not just for the loss of Hugh but also for my Dad. It was completely unexpected, he was only 62 and had a heart attack on holiday. I'd had my gall bladder out the day before so wasnt allowed to fly to say good bye.

It's been 4 and 1/2 years of trying now and I think I'm just worn out with the whole process, I've even offered to leave my partner so he can go and find someone who can have babies. Maybe I need to take a bit of a holiday, go to a spa or something just for some R&R

sweetilemon

cats2012 wrote: »

Thanks firebird - we have considered it but it's just the way we prefer to deal with things, we don't want the sympathetic looks all the time. We know people want to help but for us we just don't want to burden them too.

My mum knows though, but party is OH side of the family.

I totally get this. People don't know what to say so it can be really awkward. I know my situation is slightly different but I get people I don't know come and hug me and say how sorry they are because they've heard in the town. It's nice people care it can be quite intense. On the up side I do just say I'm uncomfortable with crowds at the moment so won't be attending parties/hen nights etc.

TTC/waiting to TTC is such an emotionally charged time with a lot of hormones, it's no wonder we aren't all chilled about it. It's something in life we have little control over so it's tough. Put loss into the mix and it's a cocktail of all emotions.

cats2012

Awww this is such a nice supportive chat today I'm going to be daring....could I go back on the lists? Feeling ok being back chatting again. Currently CD27 7DPO. First cycle afer chemical but if not preg again it will at least be my shortest cycle in 14 months so that's progress!!

sexymouse

I will add you on tomorrow if that's OK cats. I'm on my phone now, and have an early scan at the EPU tomorrow morning so may not be until the afternoon when I do the list. I'm glad you are feeling more comfortable and want to join the list again.

newthrift

Clara fingers crossed for us both. I'm not 100% if I have OV'd this month either, I've just been going off CM.

cats2012

Oh gosh of course no rush mouse!!

athensgeorgia

Well AF arrived late last night. I had none of my usual PMS symptoms but this cycle was unusually short for me so not sure if that makes a difference.

I've been very tearful this morning because it's a very cruel reminder that I was pg and I'm not now. I would have been 39 weeks pg tomorrow (assuming my dates were right, I was 3 days away from my 12 weeks scan) and would very likely have had the planned c-section yesterday or thursday which is when they do them at my hospital.

On the plus side I now know because it's been spot on the past 2 cycles that the EWCM is very distinctive and I get 2 days of it and assume I OV on the 2nd day as AF has arrived spot on 14 days later. It's very disappointing though. I've been using Ovia for a few months and looking back we dtd at all the best times, I really thought we stood a good chance.

CD2 please mouse.

newthrift

Mouse hope everything goes well at your early scan.
Athens really sorry witch has arrived :-(

I'm feeling a bit crampy and that usual 'af on way' down there so will see what happens.