Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

KatieBee123

Evening ladies,

It definitely is the lack of control! Everything else in my life is so organised or planned, I would not even be bothered if something told me this summer winter next spring you will be pregnant, I would have a goal something to work towards, something to look forward to and know this is when it will happen.

To work yourself up every month and experience new symptoms you!!!8217;ve never had before and then AF arrives and it all seems like it has been for nothing. Then hanging around not knowing is this month a 32 day cycle a 27 day cycle, seeing negative after negative it is getting me down.

This month I have told myself I am going to relax with it, if I get ov symptoms I may test out of curiosity but if I dont I wont obsess about opks. Only for this month though because I have been so down about it I need a break from peeing in a pot every morning tbh lol!
I was speaking to a colleague and she was shocked I had been using opks but as I explained I dont want to be a year down the line after not using opks and wonder why it is not happening when we could be BDing at completely the wrong time, if god forbid there is a problem I want to be able to say I know I have done everything I can to make this happen naturally, not being like !!!8220; oh I dont know when I ovulate, maybe we have been BDing at the wrong time!!!8221; I just do not want to waste any time does that make sense?

To top it all off OH tells me he thinks he fires blanks. -.- I have asked why he thinks this, I thought maybe he had a previous long term gf he used no protection with for a long period of time etc and this is why he came to that conclusion. I have asked him but he says no. But he is man, without making him recall every woman he!!!8217;s ever slept with how many times he slept with them and what cd an ex gf might have been on who f***ing knows how became to that conclusion and threw that into the mix.

In other news me and OH are making plans for the house so this is exciting, I am trying to focus on this and my upcoming holiday just to give my mind a little break.

I think we put way too much pressure on ourselves. Hope Friday and the weekend is kind to you ladies xx

PrettyKittyKat

Oh gosh ladies I literally could have written all your posts... this is why I love this forum so much! I am so used to planning and working towards a goal, and being in charge of whether and when I achieve it. The fact TTC is so uncertain really affects me too!

Although... it seems I am FINALLY on CD1! Spotting since during the night, and I am feeling some cramps and 'heavy' now. Still absolutely no idea why my cycle was 7 weeks long this time, so I'm still going to speak to the Doctor, but I am glad AF is finally here!

PrettyKittyKat

TTC Thread

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD132 Nanyco
CD62 CamelLady (45dpo)
CD60 athensgeorgia
CD26 Tryingin2018 (6dpo)
CD25 NelliePie (11dpo)
CD13 Rambosmum (2dpo)

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD54 SlothSocks
CD15 Celepie
CD14 Skimper
CD13 T4Taylor
CD12 HappyLassie13


"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD11 Zeni
CD6 wifeforlife
CD5 KatieBee123
CD1 PrettyKittyKat

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Afoolandhermoney - 23/01/2018
Selement 9/3/2018
Toots14 13/3/2018

Tryingin2018

All blokes have the i think I can't have kids thing. DH says it all the time. No basis whatsoever. Men.

skimper

My oh was saying this morning maybe he should do a test to see if the normal amount of sperm is coming out. More out of curiosity than anything I think, this is our first cycle after all!

Been testing opks all week. Not got a positive yet but ovia is predicting tomorrow though it could be completely wrong as I have no idea what my cycle length is.
We BD last 2 days so took today off and possibly tomorrow too as I'm staying at the venue tomorrow night before the wedding. Who knows if we will the wedding night we will probably both be drunk haha.

NelliePie

Hi all,
CD26, AF due today but so far nothing - I'm going to try to hold off testing as I've not been off the patch long so cycles could change. When I updated Ovia, it just moved predicted AF to tomorrow. I have a busy weekend which should help keep me distracted - My mam's birthday tomorrow, She's coming with me to my wedding hair and makeup trial and then I'm taking her out for dinner at Trentham Gardens. Followed by taking her to the Craft exhibition at the NEC. We went last year and she really enjoyed it so hopefully it'll be as good this year.

I hope you all have good weekends.

Celepie

I am an utter control freak about everything in life so I find this whole process really hard to deal with! Once I decide to do something, I want to do it right there and then, but obviously TTC isn't quite like that!

I've had a positive OPK today so looks like I'm set to ovulate this weekend. It's awful weather so at least we'll be able to keep ourselves entertained indoors!

It's weird: the first month, the month I had my chem pregnancy, I ovulated from the right side and has usual moderate cramps. Last month I ovulated from the left, but the ovulation pain was really different - it was a lot sharper (it made me gasp for a second) and weirder feeling. Now I think I'm going to ovulate from right again as having the usual twinges, but because I'm a loon, I've decided that there's something wrong with my left ovary/tubes Why does TTC make you so paranoid about everything???

T4taylor

@Celepie I have felt distinct ovulation pains at the correct time for the last 3 months. However every month it has been on the left. No idea?!

PrettyKittyKat

TTC Thread

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD133 Nanyco
CD63 CamelLady (46dpo)
CD61 athensgeorgia
CD50 PrettyKittyKat
CD27 Tryingin2018 (7dpo)
CD26 NelliePie (12dpo)
CD14 Rambosmum (3dpo)

"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD55 SlothSocks
CD16 Celepie
CD15 Skimper
CD14 T4Taylor
CD13 HappyLassie13

"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD12 Zeni
CD7 wifeforlife
CD6 KatieBee123

Those we haven't heard from in a while:

When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

For those posting on smartphones or tablets the code for magenta is
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Please let me know if anything needs editing (including the zone you are in) and I will try to keep up. If you would like adding to the lists just let me know what CD day you are (the first day of your period is CD1).

2018 Thread Graduates:
Afoolandhermoney - 23/01/2018
Selement 9/3/2018
Toots14 13/3/2018

PrettyKittyKat

I think I was abit hasty updating myself to CD1. I have had continued spotting, not yet become full AF yet. I've had terrible cramps this afternoon though, even had to take some meds, so I reckon AF is definitely arriving properly tonight! Updated myself back to CD50 until AF properly arrives. On a side note a positive development at work today

We are planning to tidy up our house next weekend ready to have it valued- so I am hoping this snow doesn't arrive as predicted! I am quite nervous about the valuation as it is possible the house is in negative equity (my partner owns it) which would totally scupper our plans to move. Coupled with the work thing that has been developing this week I haven't slept too good the last few nights. Fingers crossed for a more restful night tonight!

I hope you all have some lovely weekend plans

Skimper is it tomorrow you get married?