Official Trying to Conceive - Thread 13

A0503

Rachy I get the feelings about how you say you think its never going to happen. I feel like I am never going to see a positive pregnancy test I can't imagine two lines ever showing.


I had a way of looking at it that helped me, which was that each month we only have one 'go' at something that only has a 25% chance of actually happening. So if you look back and think, ok I have only had 8 'goes' that doesn't seem as bad its just the fact its a whole month each time which makes it seem longer.


I can completely appreciate how you feel and I think sometimes its good to let it all out, allow your self to feel like !!!! and hate the world then start again in a few days. The first day of AF always hits me hard then it doesn't seem that long before we start going again.
xx

Munchkin84

I know how you feel. I want to feel positive about this cycle but then I think 'don't get your hopes up' and then I think 'you have to think positive' and get in this weird cycle which probably won't help.
Going to try SMEP this month then if that's not successful I think I'll just try not to focus on it in December then other half is away again for 6weeks then I think it'll be time to start thinking about a doctors visit if nothing has happened early next year.
Like you Rachy, I feel that time is not on my side.

Rachylou1981

Thanks for all your supportive comments

A0503 - I do agree that I need to stop thinking in terms of months and rather cycles as it doesn't seem as bad. I lost 2 cycles due to already conceiving and so all in all, it's only 8 cycles and even one of those was post MC so probably not a normal one. I imagine this is completely normal for a couple too.

Munchkin - I only managed SMEP once and it worked. The other cycles have been affected by work commitments and me getting a UTI. I am so angry at the fact that we haven't been able to fulfil this plan but I also think I am just wanting to blame something

athensgeorgia

Can I finally be updated to 1dpo please. Looking back at the past few months I think I OV around about CD late 20's - early 30's so promise to stop posting the same s!!t every month when OV hasn't arrived. Just glad I've been tracking now.

We've just been away for a couple of days and managed to dtd at optimum times I think. I'm not using OPK's just tracking but still feel we've done enough.

Rachy sorry you're still going through it. I only hope you gain from your counselling as much as I did. It really did help me. Also hope your GP gets a wiggle on and things get moving.

I'm glad my poas addiction is so bad. I refuse to buy FRER because I couldn't afford them at the rate I buy pg tests. I'm gonna stick with cheapies, they seem to be the most consistent, I've heard some not so great things about FRER.

newthrift

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD34 athensgeorgia - 1DPO :cool:
CD24 Ratison - 7DPO :cool:
CD20 ButterflyBabe - 6DPO :cool:
"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD12 angel11 - Awaiting ov
CD12 Claire_A87 - Awaiting ov
CD13 Cherrygale - Awaiting ov
CD16 twigpig - Awaiting ov https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/353d56/
CD26 easilydistracted - Awaiting ov
CD37 midget_1907 - Awaiting ov
CD55 kira000 - Awaiting ov
CD79 Slinky_Selina - Awaiting ov
"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD1 PeppaCoin - Awaiting ov

Those we haven't heard from in a while
CD47 LittleMissGiggle - 29DPO :cool:
CD154 freshstart11 - Awaiting ov

Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
The names in blue has a link to their Fertility Friend chart.
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Newthrift 20/10/16
Snowscreamer 15/10/16
Firebird082 08/10/16
Penguingirl 24/09/16
april87 22/09/16
Keekee BFP 21/08/16
Clarabell1984 BFP 21/7/16
Cats2012 BFP 9/7/16
big5 BFP 15/6/16
sexymouse BFP 4/6/16
VicVics BFP 16/5/16
MancMama4 BFP 29/4/16
pinkpetal BFP 24/4/16
Apple1985 BFP 19/4/16
Tinks05 BFP 18/4/16

newthrift

athens Yay i found tracking a couple of months ago just to check where my body was "at" really helped.

Sorry AF has arrived rachy and peppacoin
rachy I truly hope that the counselling is helping and you begin to see some light!! Is it an option to look at going private for a few appointments to get you in the system of being checked over? Even if it is after your DH's redundancy possibility time is over? I believe they can then refer you back in to the NHS once things are under way, just a thought!!

easilydistracted

Rachy I really had my fingers crossed for you, sorry to hear.

As Newthrift says, I know the timing is carp, but would you be in a position to pay for some initial fertility tests privately that would rule anything out? That's what I'm planning to do if my GP is no use when I have my appointment in November. Its a little over £200 at my local one and one of them has a free 'open day' (obviously marketing but useful to know about next steps).

I also get really miserable when I read these stories of people that have tried for years as a) I don't think my emotional health would cope with that and (b) time is not on my side either. I would listen to your OH and buy some dearer tests as a back up. I bought some really cheap tests on amazon that helped me deal with disappointment without waiting too long. Superdrug own generally worked as well.

Rachylou1981

Well I've booked a GP appointment on Wednesday so will see what she says about help before I go down the route of checking private health clinics. It probably still is too early for that even though I feel so rubbish.

newthrift

Two Week Wait (BFP Hopefuls)
CD35 athensgeorgia - 2DPO :cool:
CD25 Ratison - 8DPO :cool:
CD21 ButterflyBabe - 7DPO :cool:
"If in doubt - BD" Zone
CD13 angel11 - Awaiting ov
CD13 Claire_A87 - Awaiting ov
CD14 Cherrygale - Awaiting ov
CD17 twigpig - Awaiting ov https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/353d56/
CD27 easilydistracted - Awaiting ov
CD38 midget_1907 - Awaiting ov
CD56 kira000 - Awaiting ov
CD80 Slinky_Selina - Awaiting ov
"Wine and Chocolate" zone
CD2 PeppaCoin - Awaiting ov

Those we haven't heard from in a while
CD48 LittleMissGiggle -
CD155 freshstart11 - Awaiting ov

Those with * sometimes uses conceive plus/preseed.
The names in blue has a link to their Fertility Friend chart.
When posting updates, can you please do them in Magenta so it's easy to spot. This thread is all about support, so remember to click thanks on as many posts as you can! It makes us all feel loved.

For those posting on smartphones or tablets the code for magenta is
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Thread Graduates
Newthrift 20/10/16
Snowscreamer 15/10/16
Firebird082 08/10/16
Penguingirl 24/09/16
april87 22/09/16
Keekee BFP 21/08/16
Clarabell1984 BFP 21/7/16
Cats2012 BFP 9/7/16
big5 BFP 15/6/16
sexymouse BFP 4/6/16
VicVics BFP 16/5/16
MancMama4 BFP 29/4/16
pinkpetal BFP 24/4/16
Apple1985 BFP 19/4/16
Tinks05 BFP 18/4/16

A0503

Hopefully your GP is more helpful this time and I hope the counselling helps you offload.


I'm still waiting for AF to arrive. I feel a bit more crampy and period-y today so I am impatiently waiting so I can move on from this cycle. I was due yesterday so am a day late which has happened before.


Great news about ovulating Athens, tracking and monitoring really does help x