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Ronnierhino7 wrote: »

Hi I am Scott and I am single, not in a rush to get involved with anyone and have 2 kids.

Been on a few dating websites with mix results I would say I have average looks nothing special lol but have a good heart.

Trying to understand woman you need a science degree lol spoke to one woman how has 2 kids and one on the way never judged her from the start and we got on well so after getting to know each other she would rather go with someone how would treat her like crap and cheat on her what is wrong with woman lol not the first time it's happened.

I find looks plays a big part in woman looking for men as much as they say they don't, don't get me wrong I am not the elephant man or anything but !!!!!!.

Anyone had similar experiences?

If you're not in a rush to get involved with anybody, why do you care that she chose somebody else? How do you know that's not the reason why she chose somebody else? If you're dragging your feet, maybe she's gone with somebody who is a safer option considering she has children and another on on the way.

Also, how do you know the person she chose is going to treat her like crap and cheat on her? Do you know him personally? Or did she just chose somebody better looking than you so he must be a bad person?

Nice and fluffy response: When you're using online dating sites, you have to sort the wheat from the chaff and there's a lot of chaff out there! Don't get disheartened because it doesn't work out with one person. There are plenty more fish in the sea and eventually you'll find the right person for you.

Not so nice and fluffy response: I really think you need to get over yourself OP and stop generalising about single women based on your experience with this one. Not all women are like her. If I did the same as you, I'd telling all an sundry that single men are creeps who just want you to send them dirty photos and want to sleep with as many women as possible.

As a single woman myself (hopefully not for much longer), I have to be attracted to somebody on a dating site before I speak to them. I think it's just human nature to want to be with somebody you're attracted to. Sometimes that attraction is instant and sometimes it grows (if you're friends first for example) but there's nothing wrong with wanting somebody you're attracted to at all.

burlington6

fierystormcloud wrote: »

No, there really aren't. You are just seeing this because you're dealing with women.

Women are no more 'shallow' than men.

I'm sorry you have had poor experiences with women, but you can't tar us all with the same brush.

I have actually found many more men (for instance) who insist on a good looking slim woman, than I have women who insist on a good looking slim man. Many women would prefer a man who is kind, funny, and treats her well, but is a 5 out of 10 looks-wise, rather than a David Beckham lookalike who is a total git who treats her like rubbish and cheats on her.

I do agree with Gavin, that you're coming across as a bit hypocritical.

I don't know many men who would go out with a woman 25 years older because that women is wealthy.

Women on the other hand, :rotfl:

burlington6

piglet74 wrote: »

If I could find a man who is honest, hard working, loyal, wouldn't cheat, treats me right, and made me laugh, i could trust him, etc... I honestly wouldn't care what he looked like.

All that said, it takes a lot of time to figure all that out, initially and in the meantime, you depend on an attraction to bring you together.

Rubbish. If he was 20 stone over weight, covered in spots and had no teeth you wouldn't even consider him.

fierystormcloud

burlington6 wrote: »

I don't know many men who would go out with a woman 25 years older because that women is wealthy.

Women on the other hand, :rotfl:

What you have said here doesn't disprove what I said one iota. Woman are no more shallow than men! Women may go for men who are well-off (as I stated before!) But men purposely go for physically attractive women. And so some woman may go for looks, but some men go for women with money. You can deny it if you want to. But women are no more shallow than men. Aside from what I have said, men have to have flashy cars moreso than women, and they try and outdo other men with career and salary moreso than women amongst other things.

And what pigpen is saying is that good looks are not as important to women as they are to men. The 20 stone man with no teeth analogy is illogical. Most men wouldn't go for any other woman who was 20 stone with no teeth either.

And re your last comment, you'd be surprised! Some men DO go for rich women; maybe even as much as women go for rich men.

I'm not saying women are better people than men, but it's just ludicrous to suggest that women are more shallow than men; they're not. Maybe they appear to be to you, but they're not. I actually know more shallow and materialistic men than I know shallow and materialistic women.