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Ronnierhino7

mark5 wrote: »

Women are no different to men, there's a general mix of all sorts, nice, nasty, honest,cheats,funny,boring,spenders,savers,thin,fat blah blah blah

Maybe it's the type you go for.

I think any women who's looking to get involved with another guy while already pregnant would ring alarm bells for me.

You can try not to judge but your gut instinct is usually a good indicator of what's to come!

Very true lol

Ronnierhino7

pigpen wrote: »

Maybe others see something in you which you are oblivious to or choose to not believe.. What does your ex say? Obviously that relationship failed and it wasn't all her fault surely.. so you're obviously not perfect or gods gift or anything really special.. just like everyone else.. welcome to that realisation!!

Of course not every relationship is a two way thing I have learnt many thing after our split up and I know what I want and don't want

Ronnierhino7

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Have to agree with kim kim actually. It's not just women who go for men with good looks. Men look for this in women too.

I think it's a natural human instinct to look for someone attractive. I mean, many people will look for a mate, and think 'my babies have a 50% chance of looking like this person.' So I have to say, looks were a fairly important factor when I was seeking a mate when I was a lot younger, and I think, if most people were honest, they would say the same thing.

Also, when I was under 25, every man I knew - around my age - would not been seen dead with an overweight girl, and even now, I know a few men who prefer thin women. Even if the face isn't great, it doesn't matter as long as she's thin.

If anything, I would say that men go for good looks on women more than women go for good looks on men ... although I would say women look more for a man who is solvent/well off/rich.

Despite my jokey tongue-in-cheek comment in my first post, where I said we are a funny breed, I agree with mark5 who said that males AND females have their idiosyncrasies, foibles, faults, flaws, quirks, and positives and negatives. Women are really no more awkward or difficult than men.

Agree we can be similar but think woman more so I suppose after been single for a year a half most woman prob wouldn't want what I won't in a relationship lol but like I said I am in no rush x

Ronnierhino7

BookWorm wrote: »

That would count for a lot to me

Ha ha cheers but there's more to me but I like too think I care about other people

FBaby

so after getting to know each other she would rather go with someone how would treat her like crap and cheat on her what is wrong with woman lol not the first time it's happened

But men do similar things, it all comes down to the fact that even though we know we should listen to our heard, our decisions are much more often guided by our heart, and where we're in love, the rest tends to fade, hence why so many end up with regrets!

I find looks plays a big part in woman looking for men as much as they say they don't, don't get me wrong I am not the elephant man or anything but !!!!!!.

Of course some do, but as whole, I would say that women mainly go for charm rather than look. The two often goes together, but not always. That goes for both men and women.

When you are looking for a partner through dating site, the biggest challenge is balancing between being clear in your mind what it is you are looking for and remaining open to meeting different people so you don't restrict yourself too much.

I opted for the first mainly because I had quite a good idea of the person I was looking for and didn't have the time or energy to go on constant dates and didn't want to end up disappointed and growing cynical about the whole thing, however, I missed my perfect man because I had restricted my selection too much. Thankfully, he found me and I knew he was the one on our first date.

The worst thing you can do when dating is to reach general conclusions about 'women' from your experiences just because it won't take you anywhere to do so. If the direction you are taking, then take a break from these sites.

PeacefulWaters

I'm definitely not a looker. My success rate from Tinder is nil.

I've managed to meet a handful of really nice women via POF. Most of them have wanted to meet up again. I was indifferent to them though. One of them did progress for a short time after she chased me but she went from being completely into me to totally indifferent overnight. No idea why - maybe I was a bit too keen to do what she wanted to do.

The one who didn't want to meet up again (well, she was non-commital) was the one I wanted to see again the most. My bestest wooing skills failed me.

In summary.

1) we are all shallow to a degree
2) most of us tend to be attracted to what we think we can't get
3) it's not that difficult for "ugly" people like me to get dates from relatively attractive women via a dating site
4) relatively attractive women can sometimes be dull
5) be coherent when you message people online but don't come across as desperate or needy
6) if you do start seeing somebody keep some time back to yourself, don't spend much time messaging through the day and for all your positive intent towards your new squeeze have the occasional night when you've got other things to do and don't want to see them. Even if it's just washing your hair

There you go. Lothario has spoken. Currently supingle btw.

fierystormcloud

Ronnierhino7 wrote: »

Agree we can be similar but think woman more so I suppose after been single for a year a half most woman prob wouldn't want what I won't in a relationship lol but like I said I am in no rush x

Hi again.

I don't think it is women more so, (who behave in the manner you describe,) I just think it's coming across that way to you because you're a man. Women think men are this and that, and have these flaws and idiosyncrasies and suchlike, but men don't see it in themselves. Like men think the same of women, and see things in them that irk them, but women don't see it in themselves.

As has been said by several people on this thread; both sexes have their flaws, and irritating habits.

bellaboo86

There is someone out there for everyone so keep going. From what I can tell, men are expected to make the first move on dating websites (yes this is daft). Having tried a bit of on-line dating myself, there were a few things that irritated me. Are you reading their profiles carefully and writing a individual message to each woman? It will be really obvious if you don't do either of these things.
At the risk of getting loads of abuse, I would also suggest re-reading your messages before sending them as the lack of punctuation made your OP hard to read.

Gavin83

Gavin83 wrote: »

Be honest here. In terms of looks would you say this woman was out of your league, the same or lower?

Ignoring my question Ronnierhino7?

Ronnierhino7

Gavin83 wrote: »

Ignoring my question Ronnierhino7?

Nope lol missed that I would say yes she was prob out of my league for me but we all view people differently what I may find attractive you may find ugly so it's swings and roundabouts correct?