Negligent legal advice cost me my home in divorce

BeingMe

Why are you nit-picking again Guest? No solicitor has told me it is 'my' house. They've told me it forms part of the marital assets of which I am entitled to a share.

This is the least supportive forum I've ever been on. You're all just hellbent on being 'right'. Honestly, you accuse me of focussing on the wrong things or reading what I want!

BeingMe

Missbiggles - was always abusive. And is still abusive. Will always be abusive.

BeingMe

I didn't realise it was abuse until I joined a women's forum about his last affair. Then I started reading about it and it all clicked and made sense.

haras_nosirrah

BeingMe wrote: »

I feel entitled to be upset and angry about this negligent advice imo. Do you always shop around for opinions when dealing with professionals? I let my mechanic replace my brakes because I know nothing about cars. Should I have them checked by another mechanic to be sure? Should I blame myself if I'm injured in a car accident where the incorrectly brakes fail because I didn't seek another mechanics opinion? Or would I seek redress from the negligent mechanic? Or if my boiler kills all my family due to a carbon monoxide leak should I not blame the professional plumber who recently passed it as safe missing the leak? It's absolutely absurd to say that I should not be able to rely on advice from a so called professional.

The problem with your examples above is that in both instances you would have paid the professionals to work for you after fully inspecting the item which then makes you a client of theirs.

With the solicitor you engaged them in a half hour chat which cost you nothing and then decided to diy it yourself which turned out to be a mistake

Had your solicitor been instructed they may have found out more or asked more questions which would have led to different answers. I doubt half an hour would have been enough time to get all the info accross to them and for them to question enough to get the full picture. Also they were effectively talking themselves out of work as had they said you had a chance they would have made more money from you so it doesn't make much sense.

It is a bit like taking your car to the garage and saying it has a funny rattling noise when driving and them saying that it could be that the exhaust is loose but to look at it it will cost £200 and you going no that is ok i will accept your diagnosis without looking at the car and will save myself some money by fixing it myself. Then you complain to the garage when the engine explodes where the mechanic would have realised it was the engine had they been allowed to look at the car properly

Rather than getting more initial chats just choose a solicitor you feel you can work with from the 8 or so you have seen and pay for their professional opinion and get appropriate advice. You may well be entitled to something and will need to pay for guidance to get it

FBaby

I think actually part of the problem with your 'advice' or take on the situation is that you are judging me by your standards.

You do have a point there, that is true, however the reason why I am probably expressing some level of frustration is that you on the opposite seem to refuse to consider that not everyone will see you as victim, or that even if you are considered to have been a victim to -your ex, the lawyer, etc..., it doesn't mean that you will forcibly get what you want (ie. a share of the value of the house).

You seem fixated with the conviction that any lawyer will be able to get you a lump sum from your ex and that you definitely would have been receiving it had you had different advice from another -competent- solicitor despite the fact that no-one, not even the most experience solicitor could tell you that this is absolutely the case.

You also seem to set aside the fact that even if you did get a judge to consider that you should be entitled to a pay out, that what would be granted could result in nothing more than a couple of £1000s once you've paid the solicitor fees, or even end up worse if your ex decide to counter your argument, stating that he was left to pay your debts.

I think the issue of the house having been bought from your parents at a significantly lower amount that market rate could add complication to your case.

Those are all things that you should be taking into account, not to forcibly decide not to go ahead with your claim, but to balance out your chances and whether it is indeed worth it.

missbiggles1

BeingMe wrote: »

I didn't realise it was abuse until I joined a women's forum about his last affair. Then I started reading about it and it all clicked and made sense.

But you must have known that he was committing adultery which is at least as bad as abuse.

Tigsteroonie

BeingMe wrote: »

This is the least supportive forum I've ever been on. You're all just hellbent on being 'right'. Honestly, you accuse me of focussing on the wrong things or reading what I want!

As a relative old-timer on the forums here, I do think you've been given a bit of a rough ride. However, having agreed with you, both you and I will now be attacked for "not wanting to hear what we don't agree with" ...

So my recommendation is that you stop responding on here, else you will simply get more and more worked up. Go and post factually on Wikivorce to work out how matters stand with the previous agreement, and what you might hope to request through the Consent Order. Then once the weekend is over, start seeking substantial paid professional legal advice.

Best wishes x

iammumtoone

Reading this thread has made me angry in the way normally very wise and helpful posters have treated the OP. I suspect this is not due to wanting to be unkind and hurtful, but due the fact thankfully they have never been abused themselves.

It is very possible to be abused without knowing it, that is the way abusers get away with it. It happened to me and to this day it still shocks me when i see TV programs taking about abusers I still find myself saying to myself but that isn't abuse as the very same thing happen to me and I wasn't abused (easier to keep thinking that, than to admit to yourself that maybe you actually were). It was watching a TV show years later when I actually discovered that I had suffered abuse, I knew what happen to me was not normal but I never knew it was classed as abuse.

OP if I were you I would complain, not because you are going to get anything from it (I think you realise that)f but because it will make you feel better, once you have posted the letter you can then move on and concentrate on the situation as it is now.

CruisingSaver

I am actually disgusted at the responses to the OP on this thread and shame on those forum members who have harangued the OP unnecessarily.


No wonder this board is dying on it's backside *smh*

missbiggles1

iammumtoone wrote: »

Reading this thread has made me angry in the way normally very wise and helpful posters have treated the OP. I suspect this is not due to wanting to be unkind and hurtful, but due the fact thankfully they have never been abused themselves.

It is very possible to be abused without knowing it, that is the way abusers get away with it. It happened to me and to this day it still shocks me when i see TV programs taking about abusers I still find myself saying to myself but that isn't abuse as the very same thing happen to me and I wasn't abused (easier to keep thinking that, than to admit to yourself that maybe you actually were). It was watching a TV show years later when I actually discovered that I had suffered abuse, I knew what happen to me was not normal but I never knew it was classed as abuse.

OP if I were you I would complain, not because you are going to get anything form it (I think you realise that)f but because it will make you feel better, once you have posted the letter you can then move on and concentrate on the situation as it is now.

Or because we ourselves have direct experience of abuse and not of the sort that you only realise is abuse later.:)