O/S Daily Friday 1st April 2016

carolbee

Morning all

Just in from potting on in the garden. Done the weekly food shop, made pud to take out tonight and going for a coffee with someone I made contact with through FB, who has recently moved here and doesn't know many people.

Sorry to hear about Mr Candlelight, and thinking of Judi and Gers today, both on a sad trip in different ways.

LameWolf

redruby wrote: »

Evie is doing so well, she is such a little love I have taught her to ring a bell when she needs to go in the garden :T she is so well mannered and loves her walks, the longer the better for her, we go for really long ones at the weekend and she has about an hour on weekdays, it really is a delight having a dog again.

Awww, bless her; what a clever wee girlie! My guests all have different ways of asking - Jack's is to stand by the patio door (he doesn't go out that way, he goes out the back door) making little "ooh, ooh" noises and doing a little dance! :rotfl:

Hester I'd be telling the SS woman to go and do one! :mad:

candlelight_2013 wrote: »

Oh good gracious Hester, we all know you are Superwoman, and marvel at all you do. How dare the SS say you don't do enough. I don't feel it is her place to ask whether your career is important to you, and as you say keeping a roof over your head is.

We know some of the things you do for your DDs and all your grandchildren, and I am sure there are lots of things we don't know, and marvel at how you have the strength and work as well.

If the SS feels so strongly then she should activate a care package for your DD. Surely at your age, when you thought things would be a bit easier, you are entitled to some "me" time and some peace of mind.

I feel so angry on your behalf.

Precisely. Wot she said with bells and a tartan ribbon on! :mad:

Candlelight (((HUGS))) for you and "choose to live life" vibes for Mr Candlelight. x

TravellingAbuela

HESTER I could not believe what I was reading! That social worker is really in the wrong job and, if she spoke to some of the people I encountered when I was working, she wouldn't have been around to insult anyone else like that I can tell you! I would seriously consider complaining to her superior, you do more than enough already and do not deserve being spoken to like that.. xx

elona

Hester

I would feel strongly tempted that "as (according to the fount of all wisdom ) it is not right not to do the same for everyone!" and that you have neither the strength, time or funds to do so that the answer is to do nothing any more. (That will then be "fair!") :mad:

Let "them" (experts!) pay for just a fraction of what you do or make the effort you do and they would be on their knees!!! I am so cross on your behalf I want to handbag someone :eek:

TA has just expressed what a lot of us are thinking!!!! I agree so much with her and others.

Gentle hug and thoughts with candlelight, Gers, Judi and csarina.

The builders have gone for a few days but I now have a fridge in the proper place, a telephone point shifted, new modern electric fire that looks like a tv and nice lighting in my bedroom and living room which has lifted my mood a lot! The bedroom and living room have been plastered and can be painted in the next few weeks which will help.

There is still a lot to be done to the house but am meeting more of the neighbours who all seem lovely and hoping to have the bulk of it done by summer.

A cousin of DH's might be coming up to visit next week for the day so I have warned her of the state of the place and will go on a hunt this weekend to find nice cups etc and a few more utensils.

Hugs to all

cliffsgirl

Camelot Evie is doing so well, she is such a little love I have taught her to ring a bell when she needs to go in the garden :T

How did you teach her to do that? Would love to teach my wee pixie.

meanmarie

Welcome newbies, this is a lovely place to be.

Gers, thinking of you on your long trip.

Judi....hugs.

Camelot.....hopeful of speedy improvement for OH.

Hope that everyone has a nice weekend.

Wind and rain here, following on some lovely weather.......DD4 and family have been away for few days, they are due back today, cant wait to see the twins as they seem to do something new every day, have made some leek and potato soup in case they call en route, needing food. We are having duck, mixed veg and baked potato for dinner.

DS3 and DGS 1 are off to London this afternoon to spend the weekend with DS2, he is taking them to the Emirates Stadium to see a soccer match........DGS is wound up with excitement, I hope that it works out ok.

Am busy knitting a Christening robe for one of the twins, christening is on28th May.......just hoping that the robe DD has will fit.....otherwise I will have to do 2!

Love to all,

Marie

pollyanna_26

Have just arrived home earlier than expected which is welcome .
Hester I have been inwardly seething after reading your post this morning . I am aware of cutbacks , low morale and other problems with services now , but many people turn up to work and do their job trying to help advise and show empathy and behave in a professional manner . I agree strongly with the comments here ( sorry I did have a giggle at the image of Elona handbagging someone . We need to keep on the side of her )
On a serious note it seems to me that she is employing emotional blackmail in the knowledge that all you do shows how much you love and worry for the grandchildren . Her suggestions are too much for one person who has sufficient to cope with to cope with for even a short period . There needs to be a care plan which will address all the problems in the situation with the hope of slowly getting more stabilty for the children and establishing coping mechanisms and routine . It's a big involved task but at the end of the day that's what their role is . Separate departments need to co-ordinate to tackle your daughters illness and the childrens wellbeing together .
You appear to have a little more input to the situation now so without wearing you down even further can I suggest a wander round google to see if there is any advice on a similar situation .
imo social sevices should be licking your boots in gratitude instead of being rude , demanding and hurtful .
Sending you much love . To quote your partner in crime Monna and her tablet . Chin up Titus out .
Love polly x

Hard_Up_Hester

Afternoon all

Thank you for all your kind words, for a while I did wonder if I was being selfish, not helping more.
The sensible input from my friends on here plus a lovely private message from another MSE'r has made me feel better.

I have also spoken to my other DD (who sees SW's from the other side as she is a foster carer) her opinion is that as they have been told to put a care package in place because of DD's diagnosis, they are hoping to bully me into saving them money.

Well it ain't gonna happen, I'm not easily bullied (it goes with being a short!!!!!), it was the emotional manipulation that got to me, when she said 'So you do nothing for the three little girls, is that really fair'.

I will stick to my guns, I will email the SW concerned and tell her that I feel I am doing more than my share. I will also explain that I know they should have put a care plan in place and that they are trying to wriggle out of it.

TBH, if DD had an illness that caused a short term crisis I would move heaven and earth to help, ask work for a sabbatical etc. But this is long term support that she needs and I cannot supply it.

So it will be Chin up Titus out with all guns blazing from me.

Sorry for the long rant, sometimes I just need to write things down to get the right perspective on it.

Hugs Hester

System

Evening all,

Just to let you know Mom died this morning as I held her. It was all over in minutes and the carers held and supported me.

My brother wasn't there as he'd gone home.

I stayed until the funeral home took her away. I don't know where she's gone or anything. She'd arranged her funeral years ago apparently.

Off back down to Devon. I really don't need this but going with the flow is easier.

I've given my brother my phone number to let me know the arrangements. Whether he does is a different matter.

nmlc

Evening Judi

Sorry to hear your sad news.

Thinking of you, hoping she's now at peace x

nmlc x