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Ronnierhino7

This may take some explaining but I will keep it short, Basically I lived with my ex and her 4 kids and we had a daughter together, social services were involved after someone grassed us up for different things, as they were doing there investigations her kids made allegations about me hurting them which I never did so I was thrown out of the house, the social were with us for over a year and during this time they were on the at risk register and then on to something else, anyway I was only allowed to see my daughter by a supervised member of staff as I was deemed a risk, now 2 years on I am still been labelled a risk because I never done certain things with the social and I am still having to have supervised access, I have decided to fight this in court to get access to my daughter who I love and care about and have never hurt or harmed her in any way.
I need to have all the edivance to proof I am not a risk and that I can look after her, so need a plan of attack.
My thoughts are I would like to know what the social have said about me and what edivance they have to call me a risk, I plan to put in a subject request form but not sure how it works and what I need to put on the form can anyone help with helping me understand this please

Ronnierhino7

Also from this I have a son from a different relationship and he was never on the register and not involved but I am allowed to see him unsupervised when I like he is 9 and my daughter is 2.
Anything you need to know please ask as i may have more questions, I won't be using a solicitor as I feel I am confident and able to do battle my self.

AnotherJoe

It's a worry to me you are accused of violence and the use terms such as "do battle" and "plan of attack". Are you are there was no basis at all to these claims? Why did someone "grass you up" if all was sweetness and light ?

Regards not using a solicitor, you may have have not have heard of the old saying that goes something like, "a person who represents themselves in court, has a fool for a client and an idiot for a lawyer."

GwylimT

As you state there were certain things social services asked you to do to have your child removed from the register, why didn't you bother?

Grassed up is a very mature phrase. What were you reported for?

AnnieO1234

"Grassed up" suggests to me there was truth in what was reported, has that changed? Can you prove it? (Drug use through testing for example)

Personally I would see a solicitor, SS will run loops round you otherwise. It is particularly concerning their issues were with you seeing a daughter and not a son too, if there are issues of pedophilia or violent misogynistic tendencies then I think you'll be onto a hiding for nothing unless you can prove again, through entering behavioural programmes etc that things have changed. Even then they may still deem you a risk.

Get a solicitor and be 100% honest with them.

Cx

Ronnierhino7

AnotherJoe wrote: »

It's a worry to me you are accused of violence and the use terms such as "do battle" and "plan of attack". Are you are there was no basis at all to these claims? Why did someone "grass you up" if all was sweetness and light ?

Regards not using a solicitor, you may have have not have heard of the old saying that goes something like, "a person who represents themselves in court, has a fool for a client and an idiot for a lawyer."

Agree I could of choose my words better but the allegations very made because her disliked me after her last relationship was quite violent we realise we got together to quick and I got the brunt of it but this is about getting my daughter not her kids as I have nothing to do with them.

Ronnierhino7

We were grassed up by her kids fathers family because it was a case of them saying we were not looking after the kids properly and the house was always messy, when they arrived the house was tip so after they did there investagations every thing then unraveled and it was one thing after another.

Ronnierhino7

Basicly most of it was about me not engaging with social services not going to meetings, not doing the triple p course etc only reason I never went as we split up and most of the meeting was about her and the kids so pointless me going as it wasn't about me.

Ronnierhino7

The allegations made were that I hurt the kids they couldn't prove anything and even the police were involved but they said there's no case to answer to, hence I want to get a subject request form done so I can see what's been said and they put my point across and fight for my daughter, when I do see her we have such a nice relationship and I also put her first, she runs to me for cuddles and kisses, and really enjoys her time with daddy if I was such a risk and a danger she would be scared to see me or not wanting to come to me does that make sense

heartbreak_star

The issue is that because you didn't do everything social services needed you to, you're now facing the consequences from what I can gather.

Best to see a solicitor, or try for some mediation.

HBS x

tea_lover

Ronnierhino7 wrote: »

when I do see her we have such a nice relationship and I also put her first,

Ronnierhino7 wrote: »

Basicly most of it was about me not engaging with social services not going to meetings, not doing the triple p course etc only reason I never went as we split up and most of the meeting was about her and the kids so pointless me going as it wasn't about me.

If you put her first that much you'd have done what social services asked you to.