finding if someone knows another friend on Facebook without asking directly?

duchy

So your girlfriend believes you never dated anyone before her ?

If you have a good relationship you should be able to tell her (who knows she may have been dating other people too before you got serious). If it is indeed a proper relationship (which as you have a child it hopefully is) you should be able to tell each other everything.

Odds are the other girl doesn't even remember you if it was years ago and just a couple of dates unless you behaved spectacularly badly to her.

Nargleblast

If the situation is causing you that much stress then delete your FB account. Life will not come to an end without social media.

fed_up_and_stressed

I was rather amused the other day to find facebook asking me if I knew a certain chap ....well only from when I had been to the cinema to see one of his hollywood blockbusters ..turns out it was the actual actors account he is facebook friends with one of my colleagues. I haven't bothered to friend request him.

Pollycat

textbook wrote: »

Basicaly two and a half years ago I dated another girl 4 times just talking after first dating my current girlfriend for 2 months (who I now have a baby with) and this girl worked at the same hospital (massive one) as my girlfriend. Worried she is friends with girlfriend (probably isn't but want to know this.

From the above post, it sounds like the OP had been seeing his current girlfriend for a couple of months but also went on 4 'dates' with this other person and may be worried that they will both talk and his current girlfriend find out about it.

It's a long time since I had more than 1 bloke on the go at the same time but unless the OP is truly memorable, I'm not sure a casual relationship would stick in anyone's mind to the extent that they could say 'Oh, are you with textbook? I went on 4 dates with him in October 2013'.

snugman

Pollycat wrote: »

It's a long time since I had more than 1 bloke on the go at the same time

Was it in that Back To The Future scene back in 1955 :rotfl:

DSmiffy

It's not the fact that she might find out you've been "friends" before you should be bothered about..... I'd be more worried she might find out about the "posts liked by" search (where you type "posts liked by persons name" in the search bar) and have a go at that !! :eek:

mark5

cashewnut wrote: »

Have you ever sent your ex an email from the email address you're signed up to FB with? I'm sure Facebook gleans email addresses...I had someone I bought some work equipment off in the States years ago pop up as a potential friend.

Simple answer NO.

This girl I met in my late teens, I did have a brick of a phone but we didn't even have the net at home at that point.

I used to go up to anfield a lot in those days and met her by total accident killing time before a game.

We met up quite a few times after that but it just sort of fizzled out after a few months, it was never going to work because of the distance and paying for hotels at that age is expensive.

Our only contact were Mobil phones, mine wasn't registered to me and I had about 7-8 new numbers from when we last had contact to when i joined Facebook.

Yes there is a small possibility we both have friends who are friends of friends of friends but I personally will stick with the theory she got curious and searched for me at some point.

dreamers-glass

Bloody hell, I really hope people can't tell if you've been looking at their profiles.:eek:

My fiance finished our long term (10 yrs plus) relationship late last year and although 95% of the time I try not to think about him, and get on with my new single life, every now and then I get overwhelmed by temptation and reactivate my FB account and look at his profile . I absolutely know it's not worth it to hurt myself by seeing how he's moved on so fast but it's like a little niggly compulsion..... Curse you FB!!!! :eek:

troubleinparadise

textbook wrote: »

I am not friends with her on facebook, but went to her page and blocked her on there. Does that mean she can't find even my profile photo? Will she know I blocked her?


She may not even know it's me, I think she doesn't know my second name.


She isn't even an ex, just a girl I dated four times (just talking in bars) - 2 months after I started dating my current girlfriend.


All this happened in 2013. Started dating girlfriend in July and dated other one in August and September. The other girl may not even remember the exact dates- which month. I could just say I met them both at the same time in July, she might not remember the exact month that far back?


The reason all this is stressing me is I have a beautiful baby boy with girlfriend and don't want anything to take that away!

And I hope that the relationship you have together and the stability of your little boy's world means enough to your OH that she would not throw everything out because once you dated another person, even with a slight overlap!

Focus your energies on being a good dad and partner, and enjoy your lives together