finding if someone knows another friend on Facebook without asking directly?

DCFC79

What is it your worried about OP ?

You could tell your gf about the ex.

mark5

Katgrit wrote: »

I've realised a lot are people you have friends in common with, or believe it or not, people who's phone numbers and email addresses you have stored in your phone. Realised this when the bloke who'd been to fix my roof the week previous popped up in my "Do you know..." section, as he must have his number on his profile and I'd saved it to my phone when he initially phoned him for a quote......and Facebook made the link. "Do you knows" are NOT based on who looks at your profile.....Facebook make it very clear you can't tell.

OP, if you're worried that someone might find out that you know people that you know (daft, really daft!) then find them First and block them. Simple!!

We wouldn't be in each other's email address books, Facebook doesn't have my phone number, she doesn't have my phone number, this relationship ended a long time before Facebook started, we have no friends in common, I live in South Wales, she lives in southport, none of my friends or wife know her surname so can't have searched for her, I do have a rare name (not Mark) . Out of millions of UK women, Facebook throws up someone I might know and it's her!

She was quite clingy and the type to dwell on failed relationships!

Flyonthewall

mark5 wrote: »

Out of millions of UK women, Facebook throws up someone I might know and it's her!

You'd be surprised what Facebook knows. I also doubt you know everywhere she's been since and all she's done so there could be numerous things to link you.

It might be that she found you on Facebook. It could also be a very long chain of people and something else that linked you, or perhaps there's something more obvious linking you that you don't know about. There's no way of knowing.

fierystormcloud

Flyonthewall wrote: »

It could be based on them viewing your profile.

It could also be based on friends, friends of friends, location (not only where you are but places you've been tagged in or even logged into Facebook while out and about), work places, colleges, schools or who you've visited (direct suggestion or friend of a friend suggestion based on previously listed things as well). It could even be going by groups or pages you've joined/liked or events you've attended and people it thinks you might know, especially if they're nearby.

Might even be something else that I've possibly missed listing.

Hmmm yeah, thanks for that. I guess it could be something like that. In some cases though, a certain person pops up, and I have had no contact with them for 20 years, I have no mutual friends, and none of my family knows them. (Like an old neighbour I lived next to for 3 years, or an ex colleague.) And I can't fathom why they popped up LOL!.

pigpen wrote: »

Sometimes I start off on a friends profile.. see someone I am surprised they knew.. Wow! How do they know that person?.. and I end up viewing profiles of people the other side of the world (such as one of the guys OH is at college with is friends with the daughter of my friend.. nosey nosey!!).. I have a lot of bored time at the moment.. and I just peruse.. Noone is looking at you.. they just kind of floated there following a trail of breadcrumbs.

I bet I've viewed your profile

'suggested friends' can be from any link, however vague, as has been said.. I have had suggestions from similar groups I am in, events I have expressed an interest in, it can be absolutely anything.. but being paranoid isn't the answer! If you are that concerned about who might be looking at information about yourself you make public then maybe you should steer clear of social media!

Well you have some strong and valid points pigpen.

I wouldn't stay off social media though, for fear of someone I don't want contacting me, as I find it a valuable tool for contacting family and friends who live far away. I do take your points on board though.

mark5 wrote: »

We wouldn't be in each other's email address books, Facebook doesn't have my phone number, she doesn't have my phone number, this relationship ended a long time before Facebook started, we have no friends in common, I live in South Wales, she lives in southport, none of my friends or wife know her surname so can't have searched for her, I do have a rare name (not Mark) . Out of millions of UK women, Facebook throws up someone I might know and it's her!

She was quite clingy and the type to dwell on failed relationships!

Yes it's odd isn't it? But as the 2 posters I quoted her said, this girl could have a friend on facebook who is a friend of a friend on YOUR friends list! All very weird and bizarre, but yes, some people can be linked very easily at times I guess... especially if you DID have a connection at some point. If you knew the same people 10-20 years ago, the chances are that someone in your social circle/wider family/group of ex colleagues/ex neighbours and so on and so on, will know someone who knows her.

My niece started to date a lad a few months back, and his mother is someone my sister was at school with (same year.) And his brother is dating the daughter of someone *I* went to school with. Then I found out last week, that this girl's ex boyfriend's dad dated my husband's cousin for 3 years around 2008-2011.

Small world indeed!

mark5

Flyonthewall wrote: »

You'd be surprised what Facebook knows. I also doubt you know everywhere she's been since and all she's done so there could be numerous things to link you.

It might be that she found you on Facebook. It could also be a very long chain of people and something else that linked you, or perhaps there's something more obvious linking you that you don't know about. There's no way of knowing.

If I were a betting man I know what my money would be on, you won't get much off my profile page on there anyway!

fierystormcloud

mark5 wrote: »

If I were a betting man I know what my money would be on, you won't get much off my profile page on there anyway!

What's that then?

Do you think she has been seeking you out?! :eek:

Although (as I said,) there are many ways to be linked, part of me believes it IS because they have been spying on me and looking for my profile. :eek:

#paranoidpenguin

mark5

fierystormcloud wrote: »

Hmmm yeah, thanks for that. I guess it could be something like that. In some cases though, a certain person pops up, and I have had no contact with them for 20 years, I have no mutual friends, and none of my family knows them. (Like an old neighbour I lived next to for 3 years, or an ex colleague.) And I can't fathom why they popped up LOL!.



Well you have some strong and valid points pigpen.

I wouldn't stay off social media though, for fear of someone I don't want contacting me, as I find it a valuable tool for contacting family and friends who live far away. I do take your points on board though.



Yes it's odd isn't it? But as the 2 posters I quoted her said, this girl could have a friend on facebook who is a friend of a friend on YOUR friends list! All very weird and bizarre, but yes, some people can be linked very easily at times I guess... especially if you DID have a connection at some point. If you knew the same people 10-20 years ago, the chances are that someone in your social circle/wider family/group of ex colleagues/ex neighbours and so on and so on, will know someone who knows her.

My niece started to date a lad a few months back, and his mother is someone my sister was at school with (same year.) And his brother is dating the daughter of someone *I* went to school with. Then I found out last week, that this girl's ex boyfriend's dad dated my husband's cousin for 3 years around 2008-2011.

Small world indeed!

We quite literally bumped into each other in Liverpool in 1998, we lived 250 miles apart, from what I can tell that's now about 220 miles. I doubt her brothers been out with my sister, or her dad knew my mum.

mark5

fierystormcloud wrote: »

What's that then?

Do you think she has been seeking you out?! :eek:

Although (as I said,) there are many ways to be linked, part of me believes it IS because they have been spying on me and looking for my profile. :eek:

#paranoidpenguin

I think at some point she's typed my name into Facebook search and that's why Facebook suggested her as someone I might know, i don't care anyway I'm just making the point that Facebook does watch who you search for.

fierystormcloud

mark5 wrote: »

I think at some point she's typed my name into Facebook search and that's why Facebook suggested her as someone I might know, i don't care anyway I'm just making the point that Facebook does watch who you search for.

Hmmmm, makes you wonder doesn't it?

Flyonthewall

mark5 wrote: »

If I were a betting man I know what my money would be on, you won't get much off my profile page on there anyway!

mark5 wrote: »

I think at some point she's typed my name into Facebook search and that's why Facebook suggested her as someone I might know, i don't care anyway I'm just making the point that Facebook does watch who you search for.

She may well have done but I wouldn't bet on that being the one and only reason it suggested her because it could well be more.

No doubt they do watch who you search for. Afterall, they know what sites you look at on the same browser, your likes, your page views, personal details, your friends, their friends, their likes, every status ever posted and more.