Is it weird wanting to not be single?

catoutthebag

Only had a brief scout of the other inverse thread.

Nevertheless it prompted me to think that I LOVE being a relationships.

My last was 4 years in length. I've been single 18 months and been on as many dates.

I have enjoyed doing my own thing for a while, but yearn for that companionship again.

Perhaps I need to be more sociable and not feel the need to be with another...but I feel more me when in the midst of a good relationship... Again maybe my own issue.

So do you feel the same or similar and why?

Pollycat

I don't think anything is weird as long as you're comfortable in yourself and you're not hurting anyone else.

mark5

Not weird at all, I enjoyed the single life for a while but it's nice to have someone to come home to, you can plan to do things together, Holidays, nights out, day trips, city breaks, meals, cinema, shows, Xmas day, birthdays.

I know you can do those things alone or with a friend but it's different.

I think it needs to be in a good relationship though, I would rather be single than in the wrong relationship, you just click with some people and others as much as they might be nice to look at there just isn't that connection.

Lilith1980

I think 'need' and 'want' are important when thinking about why you want to be in a relationship (which there is nothing wrong with by the way!).

Do you 'need' to be in a relationship? This might indicate a lack of self-confidence on your part if you rely on others for your happiness. The old saying 'you can't love someone else unless you love yourself' is very true I think.

Or is it more a case that you feel comfortable in your own skin, in your own company, but you 'want' that companionship with someone else?

prosaver

:DIts great when you fall in love again...loving it when it happens :)
happems all the time

System

I have only been single about 6 months since i was 17 and i didnt like it very much.

Dunno what i'd do at my age if i was single again.

pigpen

I cant remember being single.. I was about 14 I think..

paddyrg

Pretty much everyone wants to be at some level in relationship, not that unusual ;-)

Hermia

Lilith1980 wrote: »

I think 'need' and 'want' are important when thinking about why you want to be in a relationship (which there is nothing wrong with by the way!).

Do you 'need' to be in a relationship? This might indicate a lack of self-confidence on your part if you rely on others for your happiness. The old saying 'you can't love someone else unless you love yourself' is very true I think.

Or is it more a case that you feel comfortable in your own skin, in your own company, but you 'want' that companionship with someone else?

I agree. There is nothing wrong at all at being happier in a relationship. If you feel you are worthless when not in a relationship or just spend your time sitting at home because you are incapable of doing anything on your own than that is a bad sign IMO. There is a big difference between being single and hoping you will meet someone soon and being someone who will grab on to any passing man/woman rather than be single.

catoutthebag

:beer:

Judi wrote: »

I have only been single about 6 months since i was 17 and i didnt like it very much.

Dunno what i'd do at my age if i was single again.

Bless you. Don't think you'd cope by the sounds of it?

catoutthebag

pigpen wrote: »

I cant remember being single.. I was about 14 I think..

Unless you're 15 now, that's highly unusual. Did you go from one to another like a yo yo or have you been with one person?