Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Torry_Quine

Faerie that's totally wrong of her to say that.

Waves_and_Smiles

Penguin reply to Faerie Gentle hugs, I am so sorry that your doctor was so insensitive. As you know I was abused by mother too and I have never been asked for the details by any professional. I have told some, but it was my own choice to do so. You should never have been asked that, I also would have been very upset if that had happened to me and I am so sorry that you went through that. It is very unprofessional and very blinkered. End penguin

faerielight

Penguin to waves:

Waves, I am so sorry to hear that it happened to you too.. I understand now why you cut contact with her .I know the terrible legacy of damage that comes with such a core betrayal from the one who was supposed to nurture and protect. Safe hugs to you, and thank you for sharing that. I wouldn't wish it on my wort enemy, but you disclosing that has made me feel a bit less alone. (((Waves))) . I was so shocked at the dr's view, I have never been come accross such an antiquated view, and very shocking, coming from a DR.

END PENGUIN.

Flybaby

Hello Squishables,
Hugs n squishes to all who need them.
Miss Melly Moo - you are most certainly not selling yer body young lady!!! Try applying for the lower rank jobs with some items left off your CV. It is illegal to state that you can do something you can't, but it is not illegal to leave out things that you can do. I had to leave things off my CV to get a shelf stacking job when I was struggling.


Ginger - totally agree on the photo advice - divide the job into batches first - maybe by what needs doing to them - easy ones to just scan in, need colour correcting etc and so on. It's a tough job - can you get someone unemotionally involved to help? A friend and I did some of this stuff together. We scanned in each others photos so that we didn't each have any triggers or memories whilst doing so - but the images were preserved. Then each of us could review the files as and when we felt ok to name and file properly etc.


can't remember who was having the problem with nuisance phone calls, but can you put the ringer on silent? We literally only use the landline for internet, so have the ringer turned off. Even the parental units, who have a mental block on calling a mobile phone as it is "more expensive" have now learnt to ring us on our mobiles and ring off after a few rings and we will call them back. We can still make outgoing calls if we want to obviously, but never disturbed by unwanted calls.


Scaffolding inspector course this week for me........it's wey intense but most interesting. Good to have something to focus on after my hulk out last week. Thankfully feeling a lot calmer now, even if I am on washing up duty for 2 weeks as payback for being a meanie to hubby (he gets to choose - he choose washing up and sewing buttons on shirts).


**wanders off in the hope of finding the magic neverending tube of fort pringles** dammit now I want some too!

mellymoo74

Have been doing Mrs fly lady
S'not working
Not getting beyond calls

whitewing

We got the local photographer to do us electronic and photo copies of MIL's photos from DH's childhood. He actually 'cleaned up' the copies too. It wasn't cheap but it was very much money well spent.

tea_lover

Ooh fly I like scaffolding - I like the terms they use :rotfl:. Putlog!

I have a spot so big it's casting a shadow :mad:

Pyxis

The regular repost....

Pyxis wrote: »

(The thread etiquette will be reposted every ten or so pages.)
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Here is the suggested THREAD ETIQUETTE. By following this etiquette, all posters, whether new or existing, will feel safe, unpressured and respected..

!!!But first...............please be assured..................................................................******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. (See below about penguins). In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******


- This is a thread for support. We have discovered some good friends on here, but we promise always to welcome and include new people, and not to be cliquey.

- People may make suggestions to help each other, and might even ask if the suggestions were helpful or have been carried out, but we'll really try not to nag each other or put too much pressure on.

- The normal board rules about sexism, racism, homophobia etc. apply, but if we are careful we should be able to discuss almost anything without breaching board rules - so far we have discussed subjects ranging from child abuse to incontinence!

-If someone thinks that too much pressure is being applied, they can post the trigger word PENGUIN and flag up the fact that they believe there's a potential for someone feeling too nagged to do something. ANYONE could post PENGUIN if they felt there was a danger that suggestions were being enforced too much.

Similarly, if they want to discuss something that might be a trigger for some people, then posting PENGUIN would be a warning that what follows in the whiteout might be a trigger.


- So, if you think something might be a PENGUIN, please post something like the green bit which follows.

"Possible penguin about.........(Type of Trigger)" The trigger might be:- child abuse, marital abuse/violence, paranoia, stalkers, death, etc. (It's important to indicate the type of trigger, so that people can avoid reading it if they need to).

Then, when you post, repost the word PENGUIN above the discussion. Then post the penguiny bit in white! And the phrase END OF PENGUIN when you have finished.

It will look like this. You will be able to see the white text if you highlight it or if you quote it, (so please don't 'quote' a post containing a penguin onto the thread!)
(Harmless example follows here):-
PENGUIN

This is a penguin. A nasty, crotch biting penguin (CBP).
It isn't really! So you can look. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ozGTv0hxhpc[/url]


END OF PENGUIN

(NB on a tenth-page repost of the etiquette, you can see these penguiny words because they are white against the green 'quote' background. On a normal post, they will be white against white, and so won't be seen on the thread.)

IMPORTANT: It has been ascertained that some posters to this thread have found that there are certain subjects which act as triggers, precipitating a worsening of their condition.
To protect these posters, you are respectfully requested NOT to discuss these subjects on this thread:-

Religion. (Please note: it is recognised that everyone is entitled to their beliefs, and we respect those beliefs. It is only because of the fact that religion does act as a trigger for some posters, that we exclude it from discussion.)
N.B. Please don't even mention the name of the religion.

The afterlife. The reason for this is explained in this thread by one poster, and there will be others for whom this is a trigger.

We ask and thank you for your co-operation in this matter.


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!!!So, to reiterate..............******It should be pointed out that if anyone is feeling very distressed or close to a crisis, they do not have to worry about what they are posting, or whether it is a penguin for someone else or not. In a crisis situation, just post! We wouldn't want anyone to feel that they couldn't ask for help in case it's a penguin! The penguin thing only applies to a general discussion situation.******

- More suggestions please.............We stress that we are suggesting that we AGREE some Thread Etiquette to HELP people who might feel anxious about posting, we are not trying to IMPOSE rules, just relating this to facilitating groups, so that people feel safe and able to participate as fully as they can.

...............Thread Motto...............
Nos Omnes Ad Audiendum Parumper

codemonkey

Tea, my skin has broken out like a spotty teenager - I have about 5 massive spots on my chin and 4 between my eyebrows. I never had this many spots as a teenager. How can I have grey hair and acne? They're not even the fun poppy ones either just cystic red ones that pop up, stay for ages, start to go down and then pop up again. I also have a patch on my chin that makeup will just not stick to no matter how much primer/foundation/mineral makeup/powder I use. I've resorted to using clearasil*

* other spot products are available.

Putlog means something entirely different in what I do.

jobbingmusician

I'll just leave this here, shall I?

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