Here we can all be heard for a little while. Part 3

Georgiegirl256

We're going through a similar thing at the moment gingernutty, so I can totally appreciate what an overwhelming task it can be.

We're finally starting to go through all my Dad's slides (of which there are thousands), and D is going to back up all his photos that are still on his PC.

I say we're sorting through his slides, well it's more my Mam. I'm finding them all over the house and in the garage and then she is sorting through them. I know she's finding it hard, I've offered to help but she wants to do it herself.

Sorry I've no advice for you GN, but could you enlist the help of one of your siblings perhaps? Do you have to know the whole ins and outs of it (photo stiching/colour correction etc) or are they in a fairly decent quality where they could just be scanned in as they are.

Gingernutty

Most of the photos are OK, the stitching software is for those long group photos, where you can scan bits of the photo and the software stitches it all together.

The colour correction software is for damaged photos and comes highly recommended as "easy to use" !!

All three of us are in different parts of the world, hence the three hard drives idea.

At least everything is all in one place, I'm not playing hide and seek with it all.

Georgiegirl256

Gingernutty wrote: »

The colour correction software is for damaged photos and comes highly recommended as "easy to use" !!
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Ha! Don't they all! I have one that does that apparently! I've only ever used it freestanding and not connected to a computer though. Obviously different from what you've got, as mine is just for slides and the like, but I've never hooked it up and fiddled around with the software, because I just wouldn't know where to start! :eek:

Sorry, not helping much here I? Anyhow, good luck, I'm sure it'll be easier than it seems once you get started.

Gingernutty

I'll try with some of my own photos over the weekend...:o

faerielight

thanks tory things have to get better than they are at the mo!

Pyxis

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I hope everyone hass been having a good day and that's why things have been quiet.
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Torry, re your penguin........ The last bit really is something you can be proactive about and get sorted very easily. Penguin about that bit The key thing, if you haven't already done so, is to have watertight wills, drawn up by a solicitor. Do you have a close, trusted friend, or better still, two, you could ask to be executors? Bearing in mind that the executor can do pretty much what they want with your estate, so you need to trust them, and you need to keep in touch with them. Nothing worse than not knowing where an executor is. If not, then appoint the solicitor as executor. Yes, you need to agree on what happens to your estate, and if it's charities, then you could inform them that you are leaving them a bequest. If there are also friends and relatives as beneficiaries, then setting it all out simply for the solicitor will greatly simplify things. Even down to tiny bequests, and to whom highly personal things like photos, jewellery, poems you've written, diaries etc. should go. The more you do, the simpler and cheaper it will be for the executor/solicitor, and the more settled you'll feel.
As soon as you feel up to it, even arranging what happens to you after you're gone will help settle the disquiet. However, that's not something I suggest you do at the moment.

In the meantime, keeping your affairs as up to date and as sorted as possible will make life very easy for the executor, even things like keeping a list of your assets and where they are will simplify things. Leaving such a list with your wills at the solicitor will help, too, plus things like who else has a set of keys etc.


It isn't morbid, it is actually quite liberating, to be honest.
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SingleSue wrote: »

Youngest went to a party a short while ago and they introduced him to alcohol (it's ok, he is 18 now). Weirdly they discovered that when he is tipsy/drunk, he becomes 'normal' apart from the fact that even the smallest amount of alcohol ends up with his legs not working at all. His brain works at an awesome level anyway but he becomes even smarter, talks easily, makes eye contact, will withstand cuddles and close contact 'gets' jokes and becomes a real people person (he doesn't like people normally).

Ooh! Sue! I reckon the research people would be interested in that!




Gingernutty, of course you're putting it off! It's going to be an emotional rollercoaster!
Do it when you've got bags of time.
First of all, weed out the photos with no indication of date or who they are....... Deal with those later, even if it's much later.

No, sort the identifiable ones first. You could sort them into categories like family, holidays, hobbies, landscapes/views, and then put each of those into date order. The separate the groups and do the computer stuff one group at a time. Chunk it, and it'll be easier.

Have you got a spare room where you can spread out and leave the piles without having to clear away all the time? That'll make it easier too.

Whatever you do, don't try and do it all at once; do a group, then stop for a couple of days. You're bound to get tearful at times, so let yourself. :A

Pyxis

Baby bat with teddy-cuddle! Sweeeee!






Super-sweeeeeeeee!

Waves_and_Smiles

Awww, bats are one of my favourite animals! I love them! I was walking to the pub one night and a baby one flew out of nowhere, hit me in the chest and fell in a heap. I held it for a while until it got itself together and then it flew off. Such an adorable little animal!

I would have cried during the cuddle too, Sue. I was a daycare worker for another man who was also non-verbal, who could be very aggressive and hated being touched. After months of working with him we were sitting in the park one day and he climbed onto my lap and sucked his thumb. It's a good job he had his back turned to me because I cried! I also didn't care that we were in a public place at all, he never showed vulnerability and I wasn't about to reject him once he had risked it although we did get some odd looks!

Hang in there Faerie, remember eat that elephant in tiny bites! You have got this.

Big hugs to those going through photos, it is hard.

Torry, well done for being brave enough to deal with how you are feeling. Do follow Pyxis advice above. A little while ago I sorted everything out for after my death and it is a huge relief to me. I didn't find it morbid, it makes me really happy because I know I will benefit others after I am gone in the way I always wanted to. It's wonderful to me! Big hugs.

whitewing

I had a very good week last week. Spent about four and a half hours with my step FIL in hospital A&E. We tend to see him with MIL so it was good to have a time to talk together. He has some family issues at the moment so we had a good chat about that and he seems to be building some bridges. (I am an expert on stubbornness and how it doesn't actually help, after all!)

I met some new people associated with work and got some excellent feedback too.

I saw a long time friend who I haven't seen for ages and caught up on all the gossip.

I bought some birthday presents for upcoming birthdays of trickier people and got some good deals on them so I am very pleased.

I hadn't heard of the Fever effect before the A Word.

tea_lover

I should probably penguin this.

Read something very very sad on another thread (I lurk on threads I have no reason to be on). Can't stop thinking about it now, just heartbreaking. If anyone from those threads also lurks here (I'm sure we all cross-lurk at times!), I'm thinking of all the family. End.

Today is the 5th anniversary of getting the keys to my house, which at the time was supposed to be our family home. It is also the 3yr anniversary of getting a positive result from the first IVF, and the 2yr anniversary of things going wrong on the second IVF.