Direct Cremation?

[Deleted User]

Found this article on Direct Cremation, and wondered people thought about it?

Is it be something you would consider?

If not, would you respect the wishes of a relative/friend, who wanted it?

amersall

That is exactly what I am having, no fuss no frills.
I most certainly would respect others wishes.

[Deleted User]

amersall wrote: »

That is exactly what I am having, no fuss no frills.

Me too.

Already left written instructions to my family.

bongonaut

Direct Cremation (or burial if you prefer) is becoming the choice of more and more people; sometimes because it's a very low-cost option, or often just because it's the way that those people or their families want things to happen.
It also gives the option of being a 'starting point' whereby the cremation or burial takes place very simply and then a funeral/memorial/celebration (or even a party!) can be held at some stage afterwards.
Costs typically range from around £1000 - £1500. It's worth shopping around and checking whether costs for Doctors cremation certificates are included in the headline price.

Yorkshireman99

Bedsit_Bob wrote: »

Found this article on Direct Cremation, and wondered people thought about it?

Is it be something you would consider?

If not, would you respect the wishes of a relative/friend, who wanted it?

I have already made it a condition of my will.

carefullycautious

Yep this is what I want to have also.

sammy1234567

The Direct Cremation sounds good. The whole limousine and extravagant flowers deal adds so much cost to a funeral.
There is no obligation on relatives to respect the wishes of the deceased, even if it's in the will. It's just what the deceased 'wished' for and it's not binding. So if family don't want to bury (it costs more) they can choose to cremate, even if the deceased didn't want that. And if they insist on having a funeral for you because they loved you and want to do something nicer, they could. (But I doubt they would... so it's not worth worrying about.)
When someone in my family died without a will, we decided to cremate. His girlfriend said he'd prefer a Christian burial but since we were paying (he left no money, she had no money) we decided to do what we preferred. We could have done a no cost Council funeral, since they pick up the bill if there's no funds, but I think his mum objected to that and wanted it to be respectful - I actually don't think it makes a difference, it's just that the council might cremate a person at 8am, I don't think they'd point out that the person was a pauper - but his mum felt that it made a difference to her.

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sammy1234567 wrote: »

We could have done a no cost Council funeral, since they pick up the bill if there's no funds, but I think his mum objected to that and wanted it to be respectful

Social Fund funerals are perfectly respectful.

it's just that the council might cremate a person at 8am

Even with a paid for funeral, you could still be cremated at 8am.

Contrary to what people may think, cremation does not take place immediately after the service.

sammy1234567

Yes I agree a council paid 'pauper's funeral' is still perfectly respectful. It was the guy's mother who wasn't convinced.
Yes I agree you can pay to cremate someone at 8am. It's the fact it's cheaper to cremate at certain times, e.g. early in the morning, which makes me suspect that the free council funeral would be possibly early in the morning.

DigForVictory

My parents want a proper do - coffin, service etc & I expect it'll help.

Me, I want a full tribes & clans gathering which will be a logistical nightmare & expensive unless shrewdly timed, and the size and scale of party that ultimately leads to other weddings etc. With photos, all then sorted into a photobook so my lot can look up date specific photos of various relatives. To be filed alongside the wedding album & to be part of family records. Some of my more senior lot will flinch at the idea of cameras, but a memorial garden party, initial photo at the gate? Might ease them along a bit. The younger ones take so many photos, that not being allowed to at a funeral event would stress them!
I doubt it will help my sons grieve my loss, but it will be the one last family thing I can try to insist on & it'll give any in-laws I have a clear view of what they've married into. I can't ask my sons to have a massive family wedding, but a funeral? The bets are right off.
The direct cremation may not be lovely but it saves money for the tamasha I want to see me off. I'd rather be remembered over a stomping buffet with photo boards & a few old school reports & my scout blanket & other indications that that little old lady Lived before she died!

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sammy1234567 wrote: »

Yes I agree you can pay to cremate someone at 8am. It's the fact it's cheaper to cremate at certain times, e.g. early in the morning, which makes me suspect that the free council funeral would be possibly early in the morning.

Actually, what I meant was, the cremations are carried out, after all the day's funerals have taken place.

The cremations take place "after hours", as it were.

As for when Social Fund funerals take place, as with all funerals, it depends on where there are slots available.

When you arrange a funeral with an undertaker, they will ring the crematorium, and be given the details of the time slots still available.

The person requesting the funeral chooses from those times, or, if none are suitable, must choose a different day, or another crematorium, which has their chosen time available.

It's not unlike booking an appointment with the doctor/dentist/hospital, except crematoriums tend to keep more closely to the appointment times.