Friendship after a relationship.

happilymarried2013

pendragon_arther wrote: »

I love your caring attitude :eek:

What Tea lover has said may sound a bit blunt, but its fair - she knows her own mind to ask for no contact. I don't know why the OP can't accept this. Its painful yes, but it has to be done.

TBagpuss

She's asked you not to contact her, so don't. Not even on birthdays or christmas.
She can contact you if she wants to resume the friendship.

You don't know why she has made this decision.
It may be that she has good reasons - perhaps your contacting her reminds her too much of being stalked by her ex, even though that isn't your intention.
It may be that she feels uncomfortable because she ended the relationship and just doesn't want to be reminded of it.
It may also be the case that her new partner is less OK with her remaining friends than you think. (control or abuse are not always obvious from the outside) but if that is the case, you can't change that. She knows how to contact you if she wants your help or support.

We don't know exactly why she has decided as she has, but she has made her decision very clear, and you should respect it.
Even if you think she is wrong, and even of you are right it's her choice, and her mistake to make.

You've made clear you wish her well, she knows how to get hold of you, leave it at that.