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Winter_Phoenix

ScorpiondeRooftrouser wrote: »

I fail to see any relevance in that to my comment.

I'll reiterate; if you think you become friends with people by asking if they want to be friends and think that depending on their answer then you either are or are not, you have no idea what a friend is.

I have no desire to assist anyone in hijacking this thread, which is clearly an important one to RedfordML (and, judging by the responses, perhaps to others too).

My point was:
Friendships can be made in many ways. If two individuals choose to begin (or affirm) their friendship in the way you outline, this is valid for them and does not mean that they "have no idea what a friend is."

It isn't your way of making friends or defining friendship (and it isn't mine), but if it works for some people, then it works.

moneyistooshorttomention

In answer to that particular conversation with that particular person - we were both very much in the same boat and basically made a pact to help each other out and "be there" for each other. Which we have - socialised together, helped each other get our houses sorted out, introduced each other to other friends, sympathised with and advised each other, generally used our "resources" to do what we could for each other.

That's not a bad basis for a relationship of any description imo.

There are other ways friendships get going/recent new friendships have got going. That's just the way that particular one got going.

The best friendship I have was when the mother of an ex-boyfriend took one horrified look at the woman her son was going out with - and then decided to make the best of it and be friends with me. We laugh about it now - all these years later - and having found much in common with each other.

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Anyway - I'm sure OP wants to be back on topic...