I allowed my boyfriend to cheat on me

Guest101

duchy wrote: »

If he thinks there's no difference between cheating in the early weeks of a relationship - and cheating in an established relationship then he either works for MSE writing their "dilemmas" or is another emotionally manipulative man.

You don't "have to" forgive him - You are an adult - if you choose to continue the relationship you can but equally you can also choose to end it.

I'd suggest you think about if he is emotionally manipulating you and consider getting some help to break the cycle of allowing men to do this in your relationships.

To be honest there is no difference in my mind. One is as bad as the other.

tiger_eyes

I realise this is a wind-up but for the record, if you don't want to live out an episode of a cheap soap opera, don't (a) cheat on your partner or (b) allow a partner to cheat on you and for the love of God, don't do (a) and (b) together.

Pollycat

Hele4 wrote: »

He never did cheat. The relationship grew over the years. In an ideal way for me everything has been perfect until last night when he confessed to cheating on me with his work colleague at the weekend.

How did he confess?
What was his attitude
Did he mention the 'free pass'?

Did he say "Oh, btw, do you remember 4 years ago giving me a free pass to cheat on you because you slept with an old boyfriend (4 times) when we first got together?
Well I sh**gged x from work at the weekend.
That's 1 down, only 3 more to go for us to be even"?

Are you sure it's the first time he's cheated?

Have you told him he needs to get checked for a STD?

Hele4 wrote: »

This hurts so bad. It hurts cause the only person to blame is myself.

Don't be silly!
Keep that up and you'll be a doormat for the rest of your life.
Apportion blame where it lies.

EdGasket

Well he confessed so allow him 50% for that and the other 50% because you said he could.
Men will if they can; it's just nature. Forgive but say that's it; no more free passes.

paddy's_mum

Pollycat wrote: »

Have you told him he needs to get checked for a STD?

As do you.

Pollycat

Pollycat wrote: »

Have you told him he needs to get checked for a STD?

paddy's_mum wrote: »

As do you.

What? :eek:

Me?

I've done nothing wrong!

paddy's_mum

Oh, lordy - I've done it again. Me and my big mouth :-)

Pollycat

paddy's_mum wrote: »

Oh, lordy - I've done it again. Me and my big mouth :-)

Look! I'm going to ring Jezza Kyle right now and insist he does a lie-detector on me.
I'm not having my reputation ruined. :rotfl:

tiger_eyes

EdGasket wrote: »

Men will if they can; it's just nature. Forgive but say that's it; no more free passes.

Adults control their own actions. They don't need to make excuses.

williamcross92

He should dump you.