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Jacko_amz

How awful for him! I get that she's tired and run ragged but she chose to have 4 children by the age of 26, and she also chose to marry that man and committed her life to him. Relationships are about being there for one another, it seems she's had her children and then thought sod it don't need to bother with him anymore!

This type of attitude is why people stray, because we seek love and that wanted feeling xx

Guest101

Person_one wrote: »

When it comes to her body and if she has sex, surely her word is law? It's something they may well wish to discuss and no doubt it's difficult for him to be rejected, but surelyp it's not a 'privilege' to say no to sex if you don't want it?

Well I suppose when it comes to anything in a relationship, either party has a right to say no. Sex, or money, or holidays, or children or....

But actually that wasn't my point, apologies if that wasn't clear.

It's not a privilege to say no to sex ( I'm really not sure how you got that?) - but her 'no' being the end of conversation, rather than the start of a discussion is not the basis of a healthy relationship.

There is the argument of course that withholding sex is often cited as abuse in its own right. But that wasn't my point either- just showing an extreme as you suggested.

benjus

Person_one wrote: »

When it comes to her body and if she has sex, surely her word is law? It's something they may well wish to discuss and no doubt it's difficult for him to be rejected, but surelyp it's not a 'privilege' to say no to sex if you don't want it?

Yes, of course she has the right to decide not to have sex. As does he.

But if she wants her relationship with her husband to prosper, she should probably at least talk to him about it rather than saying "this is how it will be, end of discussion."

seven-day-weekend

Well. IMHO she should make an effort.

The children won't be there for ever. She needs to make sure her husband will be.

At least discuss it with him, so that he can understand.

FBaby

So she doesn't fancy him any longer but is stuck with him to support the family. Much easier to blame having to meet the physical needs of her kids to justify not wanting her husband to touch her in any way any longer than telling him the truth.

Person_one

Guest101 wrote: »

There is the argument of course that withholding sex is often cited as abuse in its own right.

I don't think it is, not by anybody who is ever taken seriously, anyway!

Person_one

benjus wrote: »

Yes, of course she has the right to decide not to have sex. As does he.

But if she wants her relationship with her husband to prosper, she should probably at least talk to him about it rather than saying "this is how it will be, end of discussion."

You didn't read my whole post then?

heuchera

It's only a Daily Mail article. They're not known generally for their 100% accuracy when it comes to printing stories. They just like to get people tut-tutting and arguing.

pigpen

I wouldn't want to either.. he's a mess.. she looks amazing by comparison.. he should be counting his blessings she's not kicked him to the kerb for being a state.. sort yourself out man and she might actually be interested!!

She has 4 small children and looks that good?! Hell, I'm lucky if I get chance to brush my hair most days!!

pigpen

Person_one wrote: »

I don't think it is, not by anybody who is ever taken seriously, anyway!

it is used as grounds for divorce so yes it actually is taken seriously!