How much do your kids do around the house?

anniebooklover

recovering_spendaholic wrote: »

I am a single parent and I think alot of her bad attitude started when my husband (her Dad) ran off with his mistress a few years back. Dad earns a very high salary and his new partner is a footballer's ex with mega bucks, and I am currently unemployed and living on my savings and redundancy money!

RS, I'm so sorry that your DD is putting you through this right now BUT please don't blame yourself. You said yourself that 3 yrs ago she was as wonderful as your other DD is now so she has been brought up in the right way. In your last post you mentioned your XDH and I wondered how DD1 is reacting to that situation. Does she see her dad? Does his new partner act as if she doesn't exist? Basically I'm asking if he is being the parent that he should be to her? If not then, depending on your circumstances of course, you could talk to him and suggest that perhaps DD1 lives with him for a while. Maybe then she will realise just how wonderful a mum you are and respect you for the lovely lady that you are and want to come HOME. She is rebelling for a reason but I don't think you are the cause at all. ((((hugs))))

savvy

anniebooklover wrote: »

I'm actually saving money by doing this and so are they because they are loathe to spend the money that they have earned. I don't think that is a bad lesson to learn at all.

No and that's fair enough for you, but I could barely afford to feed mine at one point, every penny had to go to the household so it was not an option for me. And as I said in my second point about this method, that really hit home for me and I didn't want my kids to think you got paid to clear up after yourself, later on when I got my finances together and started working again, I made a deal with the youngest that if he cleaned my car out twice a month, I'd pay half his phone credit, so in a way I used that method then, but definitely not for household chores, not until the day I get paid for doing it :rotfl::rotfl:

anniebooklover

savvy wrote: »

And as I said in my second point about this method, that really hit home for me and I didn't want my kids to think you got paid to clear up after yourself

I understand where you are coming from, savvy, and I wouldn't want my two children to be raised in such a fashion. DS and DD don't equate money with clearing up after themselves. They equate money with being responsible for certain things. As they get older, the responsibility will increase (but the money won't - they will need to get a job if they want more money) Well done you for getting your two to wash and iron for themselves btw :T - that's next on my list .

LJM

mine tidy there rooms and any rooms theyve played in,they help to wash and dry up/they sort there washing out,plus help with general household chores.they both have sticker charts and each sticker is worth 10p so once theyve reached the target they get there cash

savvy

anniebooklover wrote: »

Well done you for getting your two to wash and iron for themselves btw :T - that's next on my list .

LOL that's easy when one wants to go out on the town these days...............how am I supposed to know when he's going out??? :whistle::whistle:

Not even sure how the youngest started doing it, I remember showing him how to do it, then it was probably when I started working and the house chores started dropping! If I haven't done them he gets on and irons his shirts for school :rotfl:

Elliesmum

Becles wrote: »

I'm assuming their future wives will be eternally grateful for me teaching them all this stuff

Hell yes - as a wife of an only son who's mother did EVERYTHING for him, you will be thanked and loved (well you blooming well should be :rotfl: ) by your future DIL's.

He is a nightmare - admiting on a good day he is lazy around the house. I have to nag, nag and nag again :mad: sometimes it gets me really mad and some days it can float over me!

EM xx

thriftmonster

Ds1 is 11 and he keeps his room tidy (when reminded!), Dysons it, Dysons the stairs occasionally if asked, cuts the lawn each week (£1 reward for that), strips and remakes own bed, makes tea and coffee, bakes/ cooks occasionally. He also prunes bushes sometimes and uses the leaf vacuum in the autumn. He has also painted most of the new fence this summer(127ft - inside and out) (I'm doing the tricky bits round the posts) and helped his father lay a new patio. He probably does less in the house and more outside because it suits us.

Ds2 (8) will weed and did all the planting of the tubs for me this summer - some interesting combinations. He strips and remakes his bed, tidies and Dysons his room and tidies the playroom. He also likes to cook and cleans the silver. I will teach them both to wash and iron when they get older.