Reluctant executor what to do

Yorkshireman99

jimmy_cricket wrote: »

Thanks both,

Yes sibling does realise the cost and is currently moaning about this, but does not seem to be willing to come to the conclusion that something needs to be done to conclude the estate.

And yes to date have been trying to keep to the moral high ground but patience is now wearing thin, especially as sibling has not lifted a finger to help sort things out.

I realize it is very hard, particularly with a sibling but in my experience the only way to deal with bullies is to stand up to them. Bullies are usually cowards. Don't hesitate to get help. Document everything you do with a diary. It can be invaluable if push comes to shove. Good luck.

Savvy_Sue

jimmy_cricket wrote: »

Savie Sue, thanks but the other end of the country. Someone today suggested a house sale, rather like a garage sale in America but they also said that second hand furniture is difficult to get rid of

That is true. If you've got a week to spare, then booking the clearance for the end of the week and doing a house sale before that COULD be worthwhile, but if time limited then just get the house clearance in ...

What we did:
Called a local auction firm in to see if there was anything worth selling there: they charged £400 for this, and we probably made a small profit. They listed everything of value, helpful for probate, but then didn't want to sell everything to which they'd assigned a value, and did want to sell some things to which they had not assigned a value. No, I didn't understand it either.

Called a house clearance firm recommended by the auction house. They gave us a quote, and did the job in two parts once the auction house had taken what they wanted to sell. First they did a thorough de-clutter, but left some of the furniture, leaving the house looking lived in but very clean and presentable. You'd hardly have recognised it.

Once we were at the point of exchanging contracts, they came and removed the furniture.

Before the house clearance started, we continued to do some sorting and disposal, notably of a bedroom full of wool, which had the highest value assigned to it but sadly wasn't auctionable!

Every now and again my brother would talk about just taking stuff down to the council tip, and every time I asked him how he intended to do that, given that they don't allow unregistered vans in, I don't lift heavy items, and he's not supposed to either. We did enlist my sons in the removal of a monster TV and two fridge freezers (don't ask), but that was more than enough.

RAS

Check out charity shops; two actually had people with vans who took away vest amounts of stuff.

Do however check the furniture; anything that does not have a fire retardant label is hard to get rind off even if it is virtually unused.

jimmy_cricket

Thanks all,

I have spent the last couple of days reading other threads on here and this has brought me to the realisation that there are some in a far worse position.

Yorkshireman99. Sibling effectively cut their self off from family a few years ago and has had little to do with any of us. Recently all correspondence between us has been via email or text. We don't (luckily) live near each other and I stopped answering the 'phone to sibling due to the abusive and bullying tone. So, all exchanges are documented. I have not however kept a copy of all work I have done.

Savy Sue and Ras, thanks. I am currently disposing of all personal posessions by taking to charity shops in town. I've left it this long as I felt the sibling might want some items. Baring in mind I might be accused of 'stealing' I have only taken personal effects, such as clothes. Anything that might be construed to be of value has been left, such as ornaments, for sibling to have one last look at. Although I do have a text saying that they are not interested in any of the contents. I will take advice re house clearance when the property has sold.

The plan now is to write formally to say please inform me by X date if there is anything they would like, otherwise it will all be disposed of. I will also ask what they intend to do with the property, again giving a date by which to reply. Hopefully this will work. If not, I will take Yorkshireman99's advice and write a second letter giving 14 days and then put in the hands of a solicitor

Many thanks all

getmore4less

Since they are are not doing anything chances are they might just ignore anything from you and possibly a solicitor or the court.

You could just go through the process of executor removal, get a solictor involved now why waste another month or two.

jimmy_cricket

Get-more-for-less,

Thanks it is a possibility. However, I live five hours from the property, so I stay in it when I go to do things and if empty, if I needed to visit, would need to pay for a hotel. The travel is costing me enough without adding to the cost. Also, for insurance it needs to be occupied every 60 days. So, I would rather keep at least some furniture until it is near sold.
They might just ignore and that was part of the advice I was seeking, what I can do to get this resolved.

Yorkshireman99

Google dealing with difficult executors Plenty of details there.

jimmy_cricket

Yorkshireman99 wrote: »

This might help as well



https://www.google.co.uk/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=5&ved=0ahUKEwjusb_Dh_zKAhWBVRQKHeklBi4QFghDMAQ&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.stjohnschambers.co.uk%2Fdashboard%2Fwp-content%2Fuploads%2F2013%2F10%2FRemoval-of-executors-practice-and-procedure.pdf&usg=AFQjCNH1B4IEC-IUMRbqOov57TkRUubTvw&cad=rja

Thanks, would you mind reposting the link - it does not lead anywhere

getmore4less

I meant executor removal not property.

jimmy_cricket

getmore4less wrote: »

I meant executor removal not property.

Ah, thanks, misread your post, makes more sense.