When your son/daughter has mental health issues

Outofdepth_2

pmlindylou, that's what happened last year, my son cut himself, we took him to a&e, they pushed him quickly to phychiatry. She couldn't help him, just pills.

I honestly believe there's no way out of this

toniq

I feel for you, I have a 21 year old child with bi polar and aspergers, like you have found zero help bar pills.

The best help and our vent is http://www.mind.org.uk/ they have been invaluable.

I wish you all the best x

justme111

Op , I do not have any information , I just wanted to offer you a virtual hug, it was useful to me to read your post as it puts all other worries in perspective for me and I hope for other people who did not have such a bad luck, I literally cried at reading it. I would send you money if I thought it could help. Hope there are charities that can help you.

fedupfreddie

Ask your gp to refer you to the local crisis team. If he is a danger to himself or others he can be sectioned under the mental health act. Then he will be taken to hospital and receive treatment.


You will have to fight for it and make it clear that you are afraid and unable to cope.

Outofdepth_2

toniq, we have tried "mind" in the past but my son won't go to them anymore which is a shame.

Justme111, I just read your reply & it was such a lovely reply. It means a lot thank you x

Thanks fedupdreddie, the gp appointment is a week away now so will see what she thinks.

We had the social worker out yesterday, he took one look at my son & said "you look angry & agitated" so we discussed anger management & my son refused it, he will not do it.

ChavvyJaneAusten

I did not want to read and run. I just want to say how sorry I am you are going through this. As suggested above, perhaps speak to a different medical practitioner for advice. hugs.

*Robin*

Outofdepth wrote: »

toniq, we have tried "mind" in the past but my son won't go to them anymore which is a shame.
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We had the social worker out yesterday, he took one look at my son & said "you look angry & agitated" so we discussed anger management & my son refused it, he will not do it.

..And was that the end of the discussion?

Of course it needs to be delicately handled, but can your son understand choices, OP?
ie. Does he want to continue living with you? If so, he needs to accept the help offered.

Yes I know it's hard. Been there, got the t-shirts. Also some good results, although for one young man a Section 3 turned out to be the only safe option (both for him and the public).

Tigsteroonie

heuchera wrote: »

I think social services are fobbing you off. If he's got these disabilities he needs to go into a unit. Your GP should be able to access help for you, but some doctors are better than others..

I know you wouldn't but what would happen if you were to throw him out onto the street? They'd have to help him then, wouldn't they.

This ^^^

Your son is fortunate in having loving parents who are able to provide him with a home. If anything happened to the two of you, Social Services would have to find suitable care accommodation for him. So that same suitable accommodation can be found now.

These situations make me so angry. Surely it is better for the individuals concerned if their network is proactive about alternative placements (respite, care homes), than waiting until the worst happens and then suddenly, unexpectedly and at a time of high emotions, being removed to a strange location? But I've tried explaining that to Child Services :mad:

Flyonthewall

Outofdepth wrote: »

toniq, we have tried "mind" in the past but my son won't go to them anymore which is a shame.

Why not?

We had the social worker out yesterday, he took one look at my son & said "you look angry & agitated" so we discussed anger management & my son refused it, he will not do it.

Again, why not?

While he may well need more help than what has been offered, if he's refusing to do anything you're not going to get anywhere regardless of what is offered.

Does he understand what he's been offered and what it could mean for him and the family?

Outofdepth_2

he is impossible to reason with, he says no to most things and as he has a lot of anger it's difficult to push it. He went to mind for a while, joined in with the clubs & hated it.
He's so complex he can have a melt down, self harm & scare us all witless, if we try to talk about it he will deny it & what's scary is it's like he believes it. He's very demanding, reminds me of a toddler, hates to do "anything" for himself, resists all the way.

We explained how the anger management could make him feel better, he kicked off about it, basically it made him angry (sigh)