Rent a Room to my own Son?

bcljnk

chocolate, mmmmmm who for though, mummy or son LOL, sounds like a good idea putting some away.
My DD has had a saturday job since she was 14 and still cannot manage her money, she gets it and spends it, SO, this is our plan of action, she has a part time job, 4 nights a week, goes to college 4 days a week, so will earn plenty for herself, we, her dad and his wife, myself and hubby have had to fork out almost £500 for her kits for college, all she has managed to buy herself is a A3 folder and clear envelope things to go inside, costing £10, and thats because i badgered her, she will be entitled to EMA once we get it sorted, with this i am going to get her to open a second account, i will keep the card for the EMA account, out of that i will give her £10 per week to spend as she likes, the other will be saved in the bank for anything she may need for college as she will need more stuff, its a makeup and media makeup course 3 days and 1 day doing nails, i am sure whats in the very expensive kits i have paid for wont be much.
So the money will always be hers, but she will at least know she wont have to worry about it, then eventually i hope to let her take over the handling of the cash, i know this is the opposite to what i said about learning in life, ie her learning to manage her money, but i simply cannot afford to fork out all the time.
Goodluck

affordmylife

No I understand Im the same its hard with 5. I have one with a birthday today. One has started High School today. One starts college tomorrow and the boy on the course doesnt start till 20th (although is working at the placement already. Eldest daughter 18 is in full time work and doesnt live a home now. You can imagine the expense of the last couple of weeks. Also dog got some itchy spots and that cost £50 at the vets. La La another glass of wine I think. Although we have a good income we do have a big mortgage so we still struggle. I did a beauty course at college a couple of years back and there are often extra bits you need. Although you can practice on victims and earn a little bit extra too so its a good thing to learn.

By the way the boy and I will share the chocolate!

Generali

affordmylife wrote: »

Im sorry Melissa I dont really understand what you mean. I would like him to pay something towards his keep but I dont want to take too much because he has only just started work and isnt going to be earning much anyway.

No you want me to pay for your son to pay something. Why should you live from the sweat of my brow? I work a 55 hour week typically.

My wife's just been turned down for psychiatric care for PND. If I didn't pay so much tax I could pay for it myself.

affordmylife

Generali my husband works six days a week and I work two jobs so I am full time. We both pay tax get no government help apart from child benefit ( for three of the children - we have five to support). I was just exploring an option which I read about in a book. I was not aware of the rule regarding family which I am now. If you read the whole thread you would know I have had that bit explained to me already. Dont be so bitter. Its not becoming.

bcljnk

I can understand how it is money wise, i have one starting seconary tomorrow, so had a whole new uniform to buy, and luckily the little one who went into year one today only needed a sweatshort as his uniform from foundyion still fits him, he isnt growing fast LOL, which is a good thing considering he has to sleep in a tiny bed cotbed size, which we have had to build high ends for to enable us to fit a chest of drawers underneath as he sleeps in a teeny tiny room, had to build a false wall into the large bathroom, good job we have a decent landlady, as for vet bills i learnt the hard way with ,my last dog had a sudden illness which cost us a lot of money and his little life at a year old, so as soon as we got another dog i took out M&S pet insurance with no excess to pay.

maypole

GENERALI :rolleyes: you are aptly named people enquire about something, because they do not know the answer, doesn't mean they are out to defraud the system, the forum is here to answer as best we can without judgement.

I do have sympathy with your wife, PND must be terrible to cope with.

Generali

affordmylife wrote: »

Dont be so bitter.

I'm not bitter.

affordmylife wrote: »

Its not becoming.

Nor's scrounging.

Generali

maypole wrote: »

GENERALI :rolleyes: you are aptly named people enquire about something, because they do not know the answer, doesn't mean they are out to defraud the system, the forum is here to answer as best we can without judgement.

It seems like an attempt to use rules meant to help people that can't afford the rent cream off a bit extra for the family. I don't want to pay for that. Nought for your comfort and all that as far as I'm concerned.

maypole wrote: »

I do have sympathy with your wife, PND must be terrible to cope with.

It is. Very terrible.

martinbuckley

You say you both work and earn £35K between you.

Your son will be working and earning between £120 and £150 per week.

Why then should the taxpayers pick up the cost of his continued living with you?

Charge him £50 per week - he still gets £70-£100 of his wage and gets to appreciate the value of money.

affordmylife

My son will be getting £80 per week training allowance and yes we will manage thank you. Just checking the rules. Thanks.