Estranged parents

Pollycat

vroombroom wrote: »

I have blocked her but I'm not having some woman who knows nothing about me telling me what she thinks is best for me ;-)

But why was she able to get in touch with you in the first place?

Why were your FB settings set so that any old random could contact you?

LocoLoco

OP, I do feel for you, I cut off contact with virtually all of my family about ten years ago, as well as 'other people who knew them'; the world and it's wife all seem to think they're an expert on family matters/know better/have all the answers and for some reason a lot of people think you should put up with abuse from family members that very few people would think reasonable to tolerate from a friend or a partner (or just some random stranger in the street). I have found the only way to deal with them is absolutely no contact, at all, with any of them or anyone who knows them, in any way shape or form, any kind of response, kind, polite, angry, ranting, it doesn't matter which, it's like giving blood to a vampire, unfortunately your bro is going to have to deal with this himself, as others have said, it's a horrible, horrible situation, family should be a good thing, not a weight around your neck, I do hope this all calms down for you soon. There have been many times when I've dearly wished for a deserted island that can only be accessed by me (PS, I should add that I haven't always listened to my own advice and have responded, either by reaching out calmly or going ballistic and it has never gone well! Avoid, avoid, avoid is my mantra now ).

mark5

Person_one wrote: »

If your brother is sick of 'being the messenger' then he needs to take that up with his dad. From the sounds of it you've never asked him to be a messenger, you've just been on the receiving end!

Be sympathetic to your brother though, explain that you love him and are glad to be part of each other's lives, you're sorry that dad is giving him grief, but that you will not be having contact with your dad for any reason at all, and that you will of course always be around to support him if your dad treats him badly.

Good advice.

Kim_kim

vroombroom wrote: »

I have blocked her but I'm not having some woman who knows nothing about me telling me what she thinks is best for me ;-)

I think replying feeds that behaviour.

It's best you ignore rather than respond.